Can I get a woman's opinion on my relationship?
Q. i was recently in Alaska working away from home for two month. Befor i left my girlfriend brought up the subject of our sex life and the lack of. since i have retuned we have only had sex once when she came home drunk from the bar. i have been ...
A. 3 October 2009: There's a lot of confusion here it is hard to read it sounds like she's mad . How's your communication? I think you need to just talk to her tell her what you want and ask her the same. Good Luck... (read in full...)
Girls, do you like it when guys wear eyeliner, or "guyliner"?
Q. do girls like it when a guy wears guyliner? i would like girls' opinions. thanks for any responses... ...
A. 3 October 2009: I casually dated and was friend one with a guy once in college that wore it and it was hot! We lost touch later on but at that time in his life when he was exploring things trying things with his hair clothes meeting lot of different people I ... (read in full...)
Am I too fat to attract a boyfriend?
Q. Am I Fat To Have a borfreind? 15 years...60 kg....152 cm .....
A. 28 September 2009: Nope despite the fact that the media shows women of size 0 now as 'perfect' most people don't really want someone with a body like that at all. Incidentally it is a size created in the past decade as no such small size for a women had previously ... (read in full...)
My wife is stressed over thoughts about another woman....
Q. Recently my wife has been hanging out with a new girl she met from work. They went out a few times, and then seem to fall out of touch. Then a few days ago we bumped into her and her boyfriend at a store and my wife was acting very strangely. I ...
A. 28 September 2009: Well to her it is the first time she has had a physical or emotional interest in someone other than her husband in her marriage and she feels 'guilty' and associates it with cheating. Men often learn to cope with the idea that they enjoy looking but ... (read in full...)
Living a secret life is hurting me
Q. I am 17 years old and im gay. No one knows about this, only myself. Some people suspects that im gay, my friends even my girlfriend. I dont know wat to do or what to say cause it will be a disgrace to my family and to my community. It hard to accept ...
A. 28 September 2009: Hi, I don't know your situation but I can tell you that having someone gay in a family is becoming so common that it not nearly the shock horror that someone about to come out thinks. I have a close friend that thought he should kill himeself rather ... (read in full...)
Living a secret life is hurting me
Q. I am 17 years old and im gay. No one knows about this, only myself. Some people suspects that im gay, my friends even my girlfriend. I dont know wat to do or what to say cause it will be a disgrace to my family and to my community. It hard to accept ...
A. 28 September 2009: Hi, I don't know your situation but I can tell you that having someone gay in a family is becoming so common that it not nearly the shock horror that someone about to come out thinks. I have a close friend that thought he should kill himeself rather ... (read in full...)
Worried about my ex, he looks and sounds awful..I want to get back with him!
Q. Ok, so my Bf broke up with me at the beginning of this month. I was devasted and shocked, because it was out of nowhere. We were a week away from moving in together in an apartment. Anyway, he would occasionally text me with empty stuff like ...
A. 28 September 2009: What ever is wrong with him that is what his focus is on at the moment and if he has lost someone at home or is going through a depression it will be better to let him deal with it. He seems to want to do that alone :(. He may be trying to be ... (read in full...)
In love with him or are we just very sexually compatible?
Q. So I've been going out with this guy for 6 months now and I've decided to end it. Things just aren't working and I feel the relationship isn't really equal. He seems way more into me than I'm into him. The thing is, I'm not in love with him an...
A. 28 September 2009: Sounds like you are in lust over him and that is natural. Is it love ...no but a lot of people confuse it for love. Love is when you really really care for the person's feelings and want what is best for them as well as yourself. You are pretty ... (read in full...)
Should I wish my ex-girlfriend happy birthday?
Q. Hi this is Zahir Yousafzai from Pakistan. It’s been two months since I broke up with my GF. Her birth day is around the corner and im in a fixed whether to wish her birthday or not. if yes, then I would be more than obliged to hear from u guys that ...
A. 28 September 2009: Well if you genuinely are thinking of her and wishing her the best than do it. If you are doing it for another reason i.e. as an excuse to open the door to communication than yes do it and if you acted badly and are only doing it to make your self ... (read in full...)
Should I wish my ex-girlfriend happy birthday?
Q. Hi this is Zahir Yousafzai from Pakistan. It’s been two months since I broke up with my GF. Her birth day is around the corner and im in a fixed whether to wish her birthday or not. if yes, then I would be more than obliged to hear from u guys that ...
A. 28 September 2009: Well if you genuinely are thinking of her and wishing her the best than do it. If you are doing it for another reason i.e. as an excuse to open the door to communication than yes do it and if you acted badly and are only doing it to make your self ... (read in full...)
Why is he ignoring me?
Q. I like this guy a lot. We had sex about a week ago which was my first time and now he's ignoring me. When I call he doesn't answer when I text he doesn't text back. If he does he says he's working. I really don't know since he use to do it before he ...
A. 28 September 2009: Everyone here has given good advice you have called and texted don't do anymore . I've also noticed that men have a little bit different wait period than women when a guy misses a woman he will be like gnat loads of attention and requests to see ... (read in full...)
I know most of his friends, why don't I know her?
Q. Recently married but been with my husband for 10 years. We of course have been through our ups and downs, and even separation in our relationship after I found out he had a baby outside of me. After 2 years of being separated we had a baby and got ...
A. 27 September 2009: I agree with softouchmale's comments one other thing... talk to him soon she will have told him you called. So don't wait that long and this woman don't think she was nice a woman doesn't make 'friends' with a married man and NOT meet the wife ... (read in full...)
Is he still with his ex? Am I the other woman?!
Q. He told me that him and his ex are over, but they have a kid together. We've been together 6 months, but I've noticed a few things: 1. He told me he doesn't have MySpace page. But I found it- He's logged in very recently, and he's had it for ov...
A. 27 September 2009: Go visit him in his hometown meet the daughter and ex. See for yourself if he won't allow it than he isn't that serious about you yet or he is keeping his options open. Having two cell phones working alot being gone from one place or the other for ... (read in full...)
I'm concerned about a friend's sister
Q. Ok, I'm in a little predicament. There's a kid i'm friends with on facebook. He goes to my school, and he's in our little group of friends. Well I don't talk to him much cuz ever since elementary we've fought constantly, so it's awkward around him ...
A. 27 September 2009: I think you should mention it to her brother and also make positive statements to her. If it goes to the point where you think that she is truly depressed or may harm herself you need to tell someone because she may be seeking help. ... (read in full...)
I want revenge..how do I make this guy look stupid?
Q. Hi im gonna put it simply, i want revenge on an ex boyfriend Now i know people will say that just getting over him will be enough and that i should move on and make him realise what he's missing. And no offense but ive tried that Im far t...
A. 26 September 2009: I think living well is the best revenge if you can go on and enjoy your life and he sees it he will miss the frienship and romance he screwed up. Don't let him ignore you walk right up to him and say.... hey sorry if you thought I got too attached - ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend falling for his roomate?
Q. My boyfriend has moved in with our mutual friend, who is a girl. They are also living with two of his guy friends. They have been getting really close. They are extremely flirty. In fact, they are closer at this point than I am with him. The...
A. 25 September 2009: This is a bit awkward If he were would you be able to do anything about it? Not a good idea of single women and men to live together . Long ago I had a similar situation he was farther away so I didn't see the interaction as you do but I had a hint ... (read in full...)
The girl I used to bully wants to go on a date with me! Any ideas why she would want to?
Q. im slightly confused by this, i used to bully this girl when we were both 13-14 im a girl too (im not proud of it and i know its worng) now we are both 18 and i got a phone call from here saying that she forgives me for bullying her and wants to go ...
A. 25 September 2009: No, you could guess that she might be trying to hurt you back or that she actually forgives you and would like to talk about it. Either way it sounds like you treated her badly it is rare that we have a chance to go back and sort things. Even if it ... (read in full...)
Should I admit that I'm bi or keep it a secret from others?
Q. hey everyone, im so frustrated. after getting dumped by my girlfriend, i felt relieved cuz things between us werent working out. after the events between us were over with, i didnt feel like being in a relationship anytime then i thought "what if ...
A. 25 September 2009: I don't think you should go public with this until you know you are for sure yourself. You are speaking of a general interest but it seems very much that you haven't been involved in an actual same sex relationship have you?... (read in full...)
Has my sister's man been molesting their child?
Q. I have a younger sister who is in a very abusive relationship. Eleven months ago she had a baby by this person. A few months ago they broke up and eventually, he wormed his way back into her life. She just found out (by a doctor) that she has her...
A. 25 September 2009: If that baby has been given and STD you, yourself should be contacting the authorities and yes a doctor will have to. ... (read in full...)
What is the best thing for everyone in this situation?
Q. I am overwhelmed. Nine months ago or so, who I thought was my best friend started dating the guy that I had a huge crush on for over three years. I know he wasn't an ex-boyfriend, but he was still a huge part of my past. He and I always had a mor...
A. 25 September 2009: He's in the friend zone and not available now so ignore your feelings and move on. Who knows what might happen he may end up single and you may have actually moved on and won't be interested any more. Life if funny that way :) I say remain friends ... (read in full...)
Do you think he is having a second guess about breaking up or am I waiting for nothing?
Q. My boyfriend ended our 6 year relationship 3 weeks ago, he said he doesnt feel he loves me anymore. He works from home and we have a 2 year old boy together. We spend 24/7 together, even share the same hobby. We have the odd disagreement but ...
A. 25 September 2009: Sweetie, I like that you have great communication with this your boyfriend and that you have been able to talk these things through. To me that is a great sign of caring for each other. I don't like that this seems to be a constant issue the fact is ... (read in full...)
Does all this mean I'm gay?
Q. Im deeply in love with a girl at school and I fall in love her all over again when I see her and think about her. Also I get really excited(down there) and my nipples erect. I have never liked anyone this much before but i want to know if i am a ...
A. 25 September 2009: Look- some people have sexual urges when very young and know exactly what they are attracted to, others it takes a bit longer to feel anything, whilst others seem to remain confused for a really long time. I wouldn't be too concerned you are at the ... (read in full...)
Does the way I dress scare women?
Q. The reason I ask is because I often get some strange looks from women as I walk past. They often give me a look like they're scared. I'm wondering if its because of the way I dress. I often wear a black coat, usually wear black jeans, have black ...
A. 24 September 2009: You know all that people have of anyone is their impression you said that your facial features make you look angry. If you actually avoid women by physically moving yourself elsewhere this definitely would make people think that you are not friendly ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to get his attention without seeming like a stalker.
Q. Sorry if this problem seems a little silly. I'm 17 and in sixth form and I like one of my classmates a lot. I fancy him. He's not the greatest looking guy, looks don't bother me at all. I'm really attracted to the person that he is. He's ...
A. 24 September 2009: Hey I think it is all about what you are interested in. You are very young so if you would like a dating relationship but are not anywhere near marriage than it could be an interesting and educational experience dating someone with different ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is very sexual when it comes to masturbation, but when it comes to me she wont let me get involved!
Q. [Moderator's Note: 2 questions from the same poster have been merged together] Sexually my girlfriend and i are having considerable problems due to lack of experience on both our parts and she also has vaginismus (which she is currently seeking ...
A. 24 September 2009: Wow do you have a brother? LOL Seriously you have been incredibly patient. I want to say that she is being selfish. No not all women use stimulation devices in fact I would say it is the minority.People have different attitudes towards sex. ... (read in full...)
I need your opinions here. What does love feel like?
Q. There appears to be two types of love. One is the love for a sibling or family member, and the romantic love between intimate partners. I myself am devoid of either. I never have (and probably never will) felt love for another due to my abnormal p...
A. 22 September 2009: As a narcassist I can't help but wonder if you want to understand it to emulate the emotion to secure supply. Above someone commented on all the positives of love. But... there are some downsides too. Basically it is most often not equal one of the ... (read in full...)
He hasn't replied to texts for a couple of days, and I don't know what to do!
Q. I met a guy a week ago and we really hit it off. He gave me his no and I texted him a few days later. He replied and we exchanged a few messages. Now though he's not replied for a couple of days and I don't know what to do. We don't stay that close ...
A. 22 September 2009: Don't text again wait for him to text or call you . Stay busy and if he is interested he will make a move . ... (read in full...)
No money, too much pride and now no respect for him
Q. Hi, I'm 26 and my boyfriend is 35. We both got made redundant in jan 2009. We are currently in big trouble financially, my partner has not found a job since january and is obsessing over the idea of going to college. my partner used to earn £40...
A. 22 September 2009: I'm not sure if you are working or not but have to say I did worked one often two jobs as well as being a student undergrad and post grad degrees plus raised a child for last one . So you need to start working and going to college to sort your ... (read in full...)
Do I tell her I saw her asleep, under the covers, with her shirtless (but with trousers on) ex on the top of the covers?
Q. Just before I get started, I known this girl for 9 years, she always wanted me and I wanted her, we date 6 years ago, didnt last cause she was busy with school. Now we are dating again, and Im the first person she fell in love with and I love her...
A. 22 September 2009: Wow! I can understand why you are going crazy. Don't make up anything or pretend you didn't see what you saw. She will see the charger and she will know you were there. She will wonder if you saw that he slept there and she will probably ask. If she ... (read in full...)
Mixed signals/hot and cold
Q. Just want to thank everyone for answering ahead of time. My problem is with this guy I've been talking to. We've only gotten together twice, but he's nothing like anyone I've met before. I'm bi, and I just starting reaching out to guys because I ...
A. 20 September 2009: Why don't you tell him your feelings? That a realtionship doesn't have to work it can be a joy and that you know he's busy and not sure but there isn't any reason why you can proceed other than 'FEAR'. If he says he can't say fine I think you are ... (read in full...)
I gave him my virginity and he's already moved on
Q. I've just broke up from a short relationship problem is i lost my virginity to him im 17 and i thought he was special we broke up on monday and it was last night (saturday) and hese already found someone. I keep crying and i don;t know wet...
A. 20 September 2009: Its probably BOTH! I'm sorry he was such a jerk. Look a lot of people's first time isn't with the right person . It seems like he isn't mature enough for a real realationship and is just putting notches in his belt. Hopefully he grows up soon and ... (read in full...)
I've repeatedly told her I don't love her and don't want children with her but we are still together
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for about five years and lived with her and I have reapeatedly told her that I don't love her and I don't want her to be the mother of my kids I just don't know what to do. She has lost her job and now has a new job ...
A. 20 September 2009: Ummm unless she is a stalker it is hard to have a 5 year relationship with someone that is completely one-sided. It seems that by telling her those things you have left yourself off the hook without responsibility in the relationship so you've ... (read in full...)
Am I blowing this out of proportion? I really want to get a divorce because I feel like this is going to be a never ending pattern
Q. OK well i have been married for two years in october and total time together will be 3yrs. My husband is a solider and we got married before he went to iraq. After seven month when he got a 2 week break everything was fine and loving but he used my ...
A. 20 September 2009: Wow I don't think you are blowing it out of proportion the fact is he's flirting online and he is newly married with wife waiting for him. I think you should tell him that if he wants to keep his relationship alive he needs to focus on the both of ... (read in full...)
When you are in NC is it possible to block 'the ex' from IM's or does that just end things?
Q. I would like to get back with my ex however since he is the one that has slowed things down without explanation I decided to let him make the effort. The problem is we share the same IM's and it hurts my feelings to see him online but we aren't ...
A. 20 September 2009: Well I went ahead and did it and just checked my IM's and for the first time in awhile I didn't see his name and it was a relief. I dunno if that's gonna end things but I figure he knows where I live and my number if he wants to contact me:) ... (read in full...)
Why is this working for him???
Q. How's this working for him? Does this sound happy? My husband of l0 years lost his business and basically hit a mid life crisis. He decided to leave to sort out his anxiety over having lied about money issues. I doubt that now..but about a month af...
A. 19 September 2009: No he sounds miserable. He sounds like he has hit rock bottom and he believes nobody cares about him . The sudden weight gain, doing things to make himself feel better the financial loss and attention seeking behavior online all point to someone who ... (read in full...)
My Mum is having an affair; I need advice
Q. My mum is having an affair. My dad found proof, and came to me. I am the eldest of three children (19/17/14) and i think im mature enough to deal with this. So i tried to help him out, also a personal trait of mine is rationality so he thought i ...
A. 19 September 2009: I really wish your father hadn't brought you into this because when everything boils down she is your mom and he is your dad and you shouldn't be made to take sides. Also IF they broke up over this you might need to be told but as he hasn't done ... (read in full...)
I need to shed the toxic pain from this relationship
Q. hey i broke up with a girl about a year ago who i had some pretty strong feelings for. the relationship wasn't the healthiest one from the start, my ex wanted to have an open relationship and i didn't, but i really liked her so i went with it. ...
A. 19 September 2009: You know ... it will go away it just takes time...but look I myself don't like confrontation and because of that ... or because the other person didn't want to talk about it .. I've spent lots of time healing from stuff with questions or pain still ... (read in full...)
Looks like my wife is cheating on me, what do you think?
Q. is my wife cheating on me she has been in a job for 12 years she used to come home at 5:30 on the dot till lately she has not been getting in till about 6 reason i post this because my mate went into the news agents were she works and the bosses son ...
A. 28 August 2009: I would say your suspicions are correct. I tend not to pick up on things like that easily and have to be hit over the face with it to realize. That is what has happened to you, you know it is happening. I say confront her about it and get it out in ... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of these feelings that I want to be with a woman?
Q. I am not cheating, nor do I plan on cheating on my boyfriend, but I have been with women before and he knows it. I've been feeling lately that I want to be with a woman, and I really want to tell my boyfriend without him wanting to join in (again). ...
A. 27 August 2009: Well I'm just going to go with my gut here. This is something you have wanted to explore for awhile but when you did he had to join in . So essentially you for filled his fantasy not yours and so your desire remains. I think if he is a boyfriend not ... (read in full...)
Does looking at gay porn me I'm bisexual?
Q. I'm 23, and was in a relationship with a girl for 3 months until I broke up with her of my own volition 4 weeks ago. In the past few weeks I've been looking at gay porn (like Mr. Gay UK, Gay Times) and then I feel dirty afterwards, as I'm norma...
A. 27 August 2009: I think you are just lonely and it doesn't mean that you are gay. Maybe a little horny and looking at different things but I wouldn't feel dirty about it. If you know you are into girls why worry if you find men together a turn on as long as you ... (read in full...)
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