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writes:So I've been going out with this guy for 6 months now and I've decided to end it. Things just aren't working and I feel the relationship isn't really equal. He seems way more into me than I'm into him. The thing is, I'm not in love with him anymore and but I've never been so sexually attracted to anyone(though he is my first proper relationship). We haven't had sex or anything, we just make out as I don't feel at all ready for that kind of relationship but he turns me on SO badly. Whenever we make out nd he gets hard and stuff I think about it all the time and as much as I hate to admit it, i finger myself over him ALL the time and I've never got bored of my fantasies about him. This doesn't mean I'm in love with him right? I know that's a really stupid question that's probably difficult to answer but I'm really confused about this. I don't THINK I'm in love with him since people who are in 6 month long relationships are genreally sure of their feelings by now and I have no symptoms of being IN love with him.Please help if you can? :)x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm very grateful for the advice but shortly after posting my question I was reading through some posts I made a bout a year ago talking about this guy I was in love with. I compared my feelings for my current boyfriend to how i used to feel for him and I knew what I should do. I knew that I loved him very much but I wasn't IN love with him so I finished things (in a nice way) with him and i know it stil hurt him alot. We agreed to stay friends and I hope that works out for us. I'd hate to lose his friendship over this.
Thanks again for the help.
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reader, obsticalfree  +, writes (28 September 2009):
Sounds like you are in lust over him and that is natural. Is it love ...no but a lot of people confuse it for love. Love is when you really really care for the person's feelings and want what is best for them as well as yourself. You are pretty young to feel deep love for someone so it is probably a good thing that you don't. If he seems more interested in you emotionally you should break it off gently . He didn't do anything wrong you like him , you are physically attracted to him but don't want an intense relationship tell him that honestly. Its a rare thing that people actually say what they are thinking or feeling when they break up because they want to end things quickly and they don't want to hurt someone's feelings but will have to.
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