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*bsticalfree
writes:I would like to get back with my ex however since he is the one that has slowed things down without explanation I decided to let him make the effort. The problem is we share the same IM's and it hurts my feelings to see him online but we aren't talking. I've already told him I'm happy to talk to him in person when he's ready. My quandry is this... I am now avoiding my IM's all together because I feel uncomfortable being on there but not speaking with eachother. It sucks cuz I figure he thinks I'm avoiding him but actually the relationship is at the point where we need to meet in person to talk things through or just not talk again. I would like to block him but.... on Skype it tells the other person you've blocked them . On my other IM's I don't think they know if you have blocked them or not. Like I said, I'd like to talk this through with him and work things out but he seems to have limited our conversations to online small talk ...also I feel like he's on so much that its a way of checking on whether I'm around but not talking to me in other words he is chicken to have 'the talk' but likes to know I'm alive :( So although blocking him would allow me to get on without stress I don't want him to think the door has closed. Any advice ????
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reader, obsticalfree +, writes (20 September 2009):
obsticalfree is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I went ahead and did it and just checked my IM's and for the first time in awhile I didn't see his name and it was a relief. I dunno if that's gonna end things but I figure he knows where I live and my number if he wants to contact me:)
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reader, Azure Rain +, writes (20 September 2009):
I really understand ur situation i had a similar one. You have to be the one to start the "talk" If you don't and he keeps doing the whole staying online without saying "hey" it will drive you crazy. If you block him your going to constantly log on to see if hes on and if he is on your gonna assume he is talking to someone else. You just have to take that leap and tell him how you feel. He is not a mind reader he won't know unless you tell him. If he doesn't want to get back together that will be your closure and then you can continue ur search for MR. Right.
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