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anonymous
writes:Sorry if this problem seems a little silly. I'm 17 and in sixth form and I like one of my classmates a lot. I fancy him. He's not the greatest looking guy, looks don't bother me at all. I'm really attracted to the person that he is. He's intelligent, ambitious and kind. But he is an Afghan muslim and I'm a Catholic (half african, half oriental). But this religion/race thing seems like a huge barrier. We are both very into our religions and I just can't see past it. Also, I think he'd rather go out with a muslim girl rather than someone like me. I feel like he is attracted to me (I think), and I really like him. Well, I don't know if he actually likes me. Everytime I see him or speak to him, he just stares at me and smiles. But he rarely initiates a converstation with me - does this mean he's not interested? I tend to ignore him a lot too...I don't know why :( Ever since I've been ignoring him, he's been talking to me less and less. I don't know how to get his attention either without seeming like a stalker. Oh dear :(
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reader, obsticalfree  +, writes (24 September 2009):
Hey I think it is all about what you are interested in. You are very young so if you would like a dating relationship but are not anywhere near marriage than it could be an interesting and educational experience dating someone with different religious beliefs. I'm a firm believer that we really don't understand our own culture and beliefs until we are asked so not only would you have the chance to learn more about his beliefs but also a chance to reflect on yours. I think he maybe as uncertain as you if you are avoiding him and it is increasing the distance than he feels you are probably not interested. If you are smile , talk to him and maybe ask him for a cup of coffee. Guys like girls that take the initiative sometimes and coffee is a nonthreatening environment where you can easily move into a date or cement a friendship. Best of Luck
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reader, ChristianGirl +, writes (24 September 2009):
You will never know how much your religion will impact your potential realtionship if you dont try to find out. It sounds like he might like you but thinks your not that interested not talking to someone can really turn things around. make an effort to talk to him smile at him things should turn around and you should at least be able to become friends. then youd be able to reevaluate your situation and potentially start the relationship the best ones start on friendships and hay it'd help if you were at least talking before you asked him out!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2009): I think there are two issues here, one about your religions and the second about how to approach him.1 - ReligionIf your religion is extrememly important to the both of you then it would be easier to give this one a miss. Typically relgion affects you, your family, lifestyle, choice of holidays, living area, food...it's a big thing to give up. So unless you're in madly in love with him, save yourself the heartache!2 - Approaching the guy.Start simple by smiling and seeing how he reciprocates. Does he smile too? And if he stares at you, be cheecky and asking what he's looking at! Begin with some general banter. You'll soon build up a friendship that can lead onto other things.Hope it helps!
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