Huge family bombshell dropped..i don't know what to think!
Q. Hi, i'm 15, and when I was 13, my grandmother died of cancer. We found out a week before she died. She had a very, "i don't care. You wanna hurt me? You wanna kill me? I dare you." attitude. She was sometimes a bit cold, a bit mean to her daughter ...
A. 13 February 2012: You are assuming that it was an affair. It's possible that she was raped. ... (read in full...)
I have fallen desperately for my ob-gyn
Q. Hi I am 37 and gave birth to my second child by Cesarean Section 7 weeks ago. Ever since I came back home from the hospital, I have fallen desperately for my ob-gyn. I spend all the time thinking about him, dreaming about him and imagining myself w...
A. 13 February 2012: I was attracted to my dr. I think it's because of the attention he gave me when I saw him. It will pass. ... (read in full...)
Am I being scammed?
Q. I need some advice or guidance with this problem.. I will explain the situation and why I feel worried now I met a Turkish man on Facebook (he is 37 and I am 35)and we have been talking for about 1 year 2 months. The conversations is...
A. 13 February 2012: There is a good chance that it is a scam. I'm married to a Moroccan man. I met many other women online involved with other Moroccans; more than half were scams. Never send money or gifts. Even if it's not a scam, marriage is difficult. Thousands of ... (read in full...)
I never want to cheat on my Bf. So how can I stop lusting after this boy I see at night school?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for four years and I do love him loads, but have recently starting feeling lust for a boy who is goes to my night school. I would never cheat on my bf but I can't stop thinking about this boy in a sexual way. I don'...
A. 4 December 2011: You are pretty young. Have you had any other boyfriends besides your current one? Maybe you and your bf need to take a break and see other people. If its true love, you will go back together. ... (read in full...)
I feel heavy because of my height and want to be an model
Q. I have serious body image issues. I'm 5'11, and I think I'm attractive. Because of my height I constantly feel heavy - I'm 64kgs. Im very uncomfortable round boys because of it and don't act confidently- sometimes I just feel like crying and othe...
A. 4 December 2011: You do not weigh too much. I'm 5'9" and at your age weighed 136 pounds; much more than the other girls at school, but perfect for my height. Now that I'm older and look at photos of myself from then, I looked too thin. I look much better with ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my husband's girlfriend's husband?
Q. How do I go about informing my husband's girlfriend's husband that she is having an affair? ...
A. 12 April 2011: Someone said that it's your business that the woman is putting hands on a married man. That's not your business. Your husband is your business. The woman and her husband may have an understanding, but even if not, that isn't your concern. Deal ... (read in full...)
I can't control my feelings towards my brother-in-law!
Q. I have a Huge crush on my hb brother. I don't know what it is about him he just makes me go crazy. We don't flirt much,but we always catch eachother staring @ eachother. I don't want to have an affair w/him because I'm against it. I can't help my ...
A. 2 March 2011: You need to think about any bad habits he has or things you don't like about him. Make something up if you have to. He kicks puppy dogs. He probably snores and farts too much. I know it's hard. He is probably a lot like your husband; you may ... (read in full...)
2 months into my marriage and I'm already depressed!
Q. I'm so depressed. I'm 30years old and got married to a 65 year old 2months ago. We dated for 3years online, however i've visited and lived with him for a period of 3months condensed. This guy is weird- he has no friends at all, he doesn't watch tv ...
A. 2 March 2011: From the outside looking in, this looks like a green card marriage. You never said anything about love. Do you love this man or not? If you love him, you will be able to compromise and learn to live together. If no love, your life is going to ... (read in full...)
Is grinding with other guys considered as cheating?
Q. I have a boyfriend and I have girls night out sometimes. So here's my question: Grinding/dancing with other guys considered as cheating? I mean, i wouldn't want my bf to be upset if i dance with other guys but my gfs tell me it's fine... what are ...
A. 2 March 2011: Cheating? No. Tacky? Yes. Makes you look like a slut? Yes. ... (read in full...)
Since announcing my engagement, I've noticed some of my female friends have dropped out of the picture. Why?
Q. I am a male in my late 40s and engaged to be married. I have several male and female friends who I've been friends with for several years. I became engaged this past summer and naturally told all my friends the good news. Since then, I've noticed ...
A. 27 February 2011: I think it's natural to loose/gain friends when your relationship status changes. I've been married three times, every time I go from one status to the other, friends change. Single friends hang out with single friends; married friends hang out ... (read in full...)
Should I let 19 years of marriage go?
Q. should I let 19 years of marriage go..My husband told me soon after my daughter from a previous marriage was married and hand a beautiful son that he didnt love me anymore and that he was not old enough to be called papaw. I am 9 years older than ...
A. 5 February 2011: You deserve better than this. Leave. ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my wife and kids, or leave them for the girlfriend I love?
Q. Wife And Girl friend yep go figure.. Cut to the chase... I have 3 boys, one grown and gone, one grown and very sick living at home may die any time. Younger one also live here at home with my wife and myself. A number of years ago, a tough time sta...
A. 5 February 2011: It sounds like your marriage was over before you met the new woman. I say it's time to start a new chapter in your life. ... (read in full...)
How do I recover from this strange relationship?
Q. I was in a short-term relationship with someone who said I was wonderful, beautiful, a nice woman with a "good heart." Although we started our as friends our relationship progressed. He was warm, caring, intelligent, funny..all I could want in a ...
A. 5 February 2011: It sounds to me that his health issue was worse than what he told you. He didn't want you to see him sick and possibly dying soon. ... (read in full...)
What dating advice do you have for single women 50+ & over?
Q. I will be 52 years old my next birthday. My life has been filled with a string of disappointing relationships. After a 12 year relationship, my first love dumped me, married someone else, divorced them and then returned and wanted to marry me. Of ...
A. 5 February 2011: I'm 52, overweight, married, but still get attention from other men. Confidence attracts men. Believing that you are beautiful and desirable will draw men to you. Make eye contact, smile if you are interested. Don't be pushy. Don't be a uber ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend's mother is jealous of me!
Q. My boyfriends mum is all over him in front of me. She calls him her gorgeous man. She is widowed but has a good social life. She is polite to me but she makes weird remarks which can be taken two ways such as 'hands off he's mine' and laughs. She ...
A. 28 January 2011: The natural reaction is to avoid her, but I wonder what would happen if you tried to become friends with her. That way maybe she won't feel like she has to compete with you. ... (read in full...)
Should I keep my married boyfriend's baby?
Q. I have been seeing a married man for almost 4 years he has been married 6 yrs. I know I will be judged and for the most part for what I have read on this topic, answers seem to be one sided. Always blaming the mistress. It takes two selfish,cheaters ...
A. 26 January 2011: Dump the guy. Keep the baby and don't look back. ... (read in full...)
Why was I just cut out of her facebook account for no reason at all?
Q. I know some people think friend request stuff on facebook is silly but I had one incident which has surprised me and hurt me. A few years back I worked with a lady who I socilised with, looked after her daughters on occasions, was caring when her...
A. 22 January 2011: Maybe she has something in her past that she wants to hide from her current friends and she is afraid that you know what it is. I'd say forget her. ... (read in full...)
I'm sad that the father of my child didn't care for either of us
Q. my ex and i were in a relationship for almost 3 years and when i got pregnant (on birth control, a true accident) he left me. during my pregnancy he started dating another woman. to me this is very disrespectful as at the time i needed his support ...
A. 22 January 2011: My daughter has no contact with her father. She tried once when she was i her teens; he let her down. She is 30 now and he tried to friend her on fb. She was insulted and ignored him. She told me that I was both mom and dad for her plus my ... (read in full...)
Where do I stand with this man?
Q. I met a guy about a year ago. I liked him immediately and it was clear that there was a spark between us but he has a girlfriend. I see him out socially and we have mutual friends so I am regularly in his contact. A few weeks ago one of our mutua...
A. 7 January 2011: Sometimes it takes awhile to break up with someone, especially if things aren't terrible. ... (read in full...)
How do I force him to seek help?
Q. Hello, and thanks in advance I've been with my bf for 2.5 years and its been a constant battle more so this last 1.5 I'm unable to go anywhere with gf's unless he is present, unable to have my own privacy on Facebook without him having acce...
A. 6 January 2011: You need to get away from this guy. It will only get worse. ... (read in full...)
Every time I check her emails it is a bad surprise...so how can I trust her?
Q. OK, weird situation here. I have a friend who is a girl and I am a guy (last time I checked hahaha). Anyway, don't ask how, but I figured out how to check her email. Yeah I know it's low. But the reason I did it is because I wanted to see what kind ...
A. 6 January 2011: Everyone is ragging on you about looking at her email, but if she didn't want anyone snooping, she should have secured it better.
As to having her as a friend, you know how she is, so just keep it casual. You might want to just slowly let the ... (read in full...)
Two relationships may be better than one intense one.
Q. First my background. I've been separated 6 months now after a long term marriage (over 25 years). My wife and I grew apart over the years and two children are grown and gone and the last one is in her third year of HS and has basically encouraged ...
A. 6 January 2011: I think your plan on slowly getting to know both women is a good one. I believe it takes about a year to get over a divorce, so even though you've been headed that way a long time, continuing to go slow is best. ... (read in full...)
Husband, Brother-in-law and me
Q. I love my husband deeply. We have been together for 14years. We recently moved to where his brother lives. We have only had limited contact with his family do to living 1200 miles apart. Within days of arriving I felt an irrisistible pull towards ...
A. 30 December 2010: You and your husband need to discuss this. He needs to realize that most women cannot just turn on and off for sex the way that most men can. Either no one sleeps together, or else everyone does. Regardless, you have to talk it through. ... (read in full...)
I've gotten involved with a controlling man again. I want to leave but I'm scared!
Q. I feel a little silly, and scard to type this question, but i'm at a dead end and i don't know what else to do. i am 31 years old, i was divorced 8 years ago from a very controlling manipulative man ... we had 2 children together. i swore to myself ...
A. 30 December 2010: You need to start saving as much cash as you can. Put it somewhere safe. Pack just what you and your kids must have, then as soon as he leaves for work, put your kids in the car (don't tell them anything before this), then drive straight to your ... (read in full...)
Who should tell my daughter what happened?
Q. I'm a divorced dad who has a 20 year old daughter living with me. Let me make this short and to the point. Her long time friend who is 22 and in our life since she was 4 years old, propositioned me for sex. I denied her telling her I can't be with ...
A. 25 December 2010: I think that you should tell your daughter. Omission can be just as bad as a lie. It could hurt you and your daughter's relationship. You don't have to make her friend out to be a total slut or anything, just tell her that you didn't think you had ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has been acting differently since his brother died
Q. I'm 17 and I got my first boyfriend a year and a half ago. We're still together, but recently he's been acting differently around me. I feel like now he doesn't care about me at all. He started acting differently when his brother died a couple of ...
A. 21 December 2010: Why would you want to be with someone who has been both verbally and physically abusive to you? Be happy that he out of your life. ... (read in full...)
Falling in love with my out of country cousin
Q. Hi! Im confused and need your advice please. I think im falling inlove with my first cousin. The first time i met him was 5 years ago when they spend their vacation here in PI coz he was born in US and he grew up there.It's weird coz the first ti...
A. 12 December 2010: It's illegal to marry your first cousin here in the US. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend was robbed and says that if I love him I should go cash in my bonds and give it to him
Q. My boyfriend was robbed for several hundred dollars, right before Christmas. He has a 6 yr old we've been together for 3 1/2 yrs. The past year has been rocky because he cheated on me and I'm stiiill trying to regain all the trust. He says because ...
A. 12 December 2010: Do not, I repeat, do not give this man anything. I had an ex like this. He was a true scammer. This sounds just like one of his stories. Your bf's family won't help him because they know what he is. Dump him. ... (read in full...)
Why all the fighting over Facebook??
Q. Here's my situation... I met a man online, through a dating site and we hit it off from the first date. Mutual attraction and chemistry, and it just felt so good at the beginning. We decided to get off of the dating site, but he wanted to be fri...
A. 11 December 2010: The guy has problems. If he tries to contact you again, block his account. ... (read in full...)
Can I date more than one guy at a time? Or is it wrong?
Q. So I have been dating this guy for about 7 months and while I adore him, we had a discussion and he said he was not ready to commit to me, so I began to date other people. He s 38 and I'm 25, he's white and I'm black, he has a very supportive ...
A. 11 December 2010: If the first guy doesn't want to commit, then to me that means you are free to date others. The Russian guys sounds much more interesting. ... (read in full...)
Why did he run away from me? Am I that scary?
Q. I met a man at my previous job. There was a strong attraction between us. Neither of us tried to move it on. I left over three months ago. We have had limited e-mail contact. He's trying to remain professional as I am on the payroll until the end ...
A. 15 October 2010: I think he probably didn't realize it was you ... (read in full...)
He hasn't been the same since he was released from prison
Q. hi everyone! I'm not sure if there is anyone out there who can help me. My husband was released from prison almost a year ago. He was in prison for four and a half years. when he went in, we had been married for 8 months, and I was 3 months ...
A. 6 October 2010: My first husband went to prison for dealing drugs. He wasnt a bad person; just liked to have good times My daughter was born while he was there. He turned into a very mean man. He cared for nothing except himself. He held a butcher knife to my ... (read in full...)
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