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anonymous
writes:I know some people think friend request stuff on facebook is silly but I had one incident which has surprised me and hurt me.A few years back I worked with a lady who I socilised with, looked after her daughters on occasions, was caring when her husband passed. Then I moved away and contact stopped for approximately 5 years. I always liked her, she is a nice person. We became friends on facebook, I sent her a message when I requested her and commented on photos. Never heard back. Then she must have deactivated it. Her facebook account is back and it's still the same one. But I'm not on it, I requested her in my naitivity thinking maybe a technical problem with a nice message. She declined it and didn't respond to the message. I sent another one pointing out I was surprised but wouldn't bother her. She never responded to that one either. It hurts because I've never done anything wrong and I dont understand it. I was a friend and I know life changes. Also she had already accepted me and then obviously deleted me. She is so positive about life and happy on her facebook as a person but I feel ignoring me is incensitive and mean. Even an explanation would have made me feel better about it. Why would this have happened. Is it because I was just someone from the past??
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reader, Nonamus  +, writes (22 January 2011):
Maybe she has something in her past that she wants to hide from her current friends and she is afraid that you know what it is. I'd say forget her.
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reader, iloveblue  +, writes (22 January 2011):
 Since the last time you actually was in touch with her was years ago. I have a feeling she felt like you were not supposed to give comments on her photos and was annoyed at your private messages. Really, some people detach themselves from their past and they see friends as coming and going.
No one really knows what her reason might be but I think you should just shrug this off. Don't take it personally. I have high school friends who I am so close to before, we are friends on facebook but we NEVER talk nor leave any comments on their pics. One friend I wasn't very close before keeps on leaving comments on my photos or wall posts and this actually annoys me. I mean, he doesn't know me so well before, how much more now? So why comment like he knows me so much? I do this sometimes to my newly added-long-ago friends but if i comment and they don't respond, then it means..i have to leave them alone.
That's just how it is, I believe, don't take it personally is all I can advise you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): As she hasn't responded to your queries I think you have to assume she doesn't want to be in contact. Sad but there we are. I know some people have a cull on the Facebook friends from time to time, pruning back to main friends and family, so maybe it was just that.
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reader, sarcy24  +, writes (22 January 2011):
 Sometimes people just don't want to be reminded about their past. She could feel that you know too much about her and might in some way damage what she has now - who knows? Don't spend anymore time worrying about this. You asked her and she declined, you were nice and tried the problem is now hers.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 January 2011):
 Am afraid nobody can answer that question exept for her. There could be many reasons why she declined you. It sounds to me like after she accepted you she went on to block you and that is why her account would have dissapeared. Try not to dwell on it, 5 years is a long time and people change therefore I guess you just need to accept that she doesnt want to have any contact with you and let it lie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): well if youve done the things youve said , like caring when husband passed etc then i would of thoughtshe would talk to you , so no idea why she would be blanking you and your right it is mean coz u were there for her when she needed you. all the advice i can give is just dont bother with her coz shes not worth the hassle and not worth u keep trying to get in contact with her coz for some reason she doesnt want to get in contact with you . sorry . :( x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): You didn't compare her profile pick to a cow did you. That always gets me blocked.
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