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writes:Here is the gist of the story. I met this guy in Cali I don't live there but visit often for the past 10 years. He is a friend of a relative for six years and we've never formally met each other but had to have passed by each other countless times. I was near the end of a 9 year relationship. He had just broken up with his chick of 2 years. We started talking at a bar and I took his email and number. I am an aries female, he aquarius male. I took his number wrong so emailed him to let him know. The next day we chatted online most the day and he called me on his lunch break. He told me that he is falling for me and he thinks I am his soul mate. Before the end of the converstion he said He was in love with me. I felt the same it seemed as if we knew each other forever. He was very emotional toward the end when I would return home. He said he was vulnerable to me and I was vulerable to him which is out of character for both of us. When I returned home I had my relationship to deal with. My Family got involved and I wasn't leaving for him, we were talking of a divorce two weeks before I left to cali but that was how everyone saw it. It caused a lot of drama and I told him we couldn't communicate any more. It broke my heart but he said o.k. I went to cali again two months later and we both tried to play it off as if nothing ever went down between us but when he had a chance to be alone for a moment we kissed and he said that he misses me and is still in love with me but things are so different. I went home and I really confused about things. I know he is dating someone else. I saw in the way he looked at me and held me that he wishes it were us together. I really miss him and we haven't talked in about a month. I feel that we will be together one day. I try super hard not to think of him but my heart yearns to be with him louder than my head can control. What do I do? We had such a strong connection, we would be thinking of the same song. I would start singing it and he would be like I was just thinking of that. Or I would ask him a question and he would be like In my mind I was just saying I am gonna exercise after work. We would always do that and it was kind of creepy. He would know if I was upset and we wouldn't even be talking to each other. He would text me out of the blue and ask me what's wrong. I am so lost so confused and so not myself. What do I do. Can anyone help me?
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reader, MuffinGirl  +, writes (22 January 2009):
 Hey, I think you should be with him. It doesn't matter your family, your boyfriend or husband.. Obvioulsy you're not happy together, so why do you try to stay with him. You needed someone else with different character and you found your soul mate. I just hope that there is no child involved.. is it? I REALLY hope not! Maybe I dare too much if i suggest you to leave your guy, but.. You're in love with someone else and he obviously feels the same. It's not creepy that he talks or thinks the same things, i think this just shows that he's really your soul mate! When this happened to me, I felt unbelievable good.
I found myself very interesting in astrology and I'm aquiarius too and as i know my sign (in real life), i think we're very emotional, always looking for soul mates (and we're very happy and in love when we find it), smart, warm, friendly, but also very distracted and sometimes too honest at the wrong moments. I think your guy is very much alike that and I feel in my bones that he's great guy. :)
I suggest you that meet him and tell him what you want to do and that you want to be with him, no matter what. Ask him if he's still ready for relationship with you. True love always find a way. You should leave unhappy relationship and i bet he's not happy with her girlfriend or lover too, in other case he wouldn't act like that. You're aries, i can't see why you don't accept yourself as a first person who is important (most of aries i know do that), especially in this situation. Your luck is important here, I suspect that your partner is uhappy too, so it's best for you to end this and start new, beautiful relationship with your true soul mate. You should be very happy that you found him!
Good luck! xxx
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (22 January 2009):
 You have to do what you think is right for YOU and don't give in to your family. You said your marriage was on the rocks anyway. I suggest you tell your partner that you need some space for now and one of you move out. This is between you and him! Forget about your family sticking their nose in, the less they know about your relationship the better (although this is easier said than done). Don't YOU tell them though. I know Aries very well and you tend to say too much when you shouldn't!
I know too that you would be totally bowled over by this Aquarius, there is a connection between both of you, you can debate and talk about different subjects for hours on end and wonder where the time goes. He seems really interested in you (but he's interested in the waitress and the postman and the shope keeper too, it's his nature). This is a very friendly man who can change his mind in an instant so be careful in case you do something you might regret.
Aquarius are more cerebral than emotional. Aries are emotional and very passionate in the bedroom and THIS is where you and him differ. He's more of an interesting companion than a passionate lover. He would rather spend the night engaged in a stimulating conversation than make love until dawn therefore he is more enthralled with a woman whose mind is a turn on than with a glamour girl who has nothing to say.
He is very caring and would bring you breakfast in bed if you were sick but just when you think he is totally hooked on you his phone rings and it's his ex asking him for help. Before you know it he's off out the door to help a friend in need. It's his nature!!!! He loves his freedom and hates to be tied down.
Now you on the other hand although you like your freedom you like to be told how wonderful you are and how much you're loved and you like your partner to question where you've been at times. He's not always like this.
You need to get to know him much better before making any decisions here. If you want to tell me more or want to know more then get in touch with me by email if you want to. Believe me I know an Aries and Aquarius relationship/person like the back of my hand.
~Eve~
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (22 January 2009):
 Are you still currently with your husband? If so, then you shouldn't do anything. If you are divorced then my advice is to go for this man. Unless of course you can't handle the family "drama". Personally I wouldn't care what drama I caused with my family if I loved this man. Your marriage was falling apart and you were going to get divorced before you even talked to him, if they don't believe it then whatever. I always felt like families who get involved with such things are selfish and need to mind their own business. They would rather you stay with a man you don't love than live a lifetime of happiness with one you do? I guess it's decision time, your family or this man.
Now, if he loves you the way you say he does then he should leave his girlfriend no problem. He should leave her anyway for kissing you, as that is cheating on her.... So if you decide you do want to be with him then let him know. Explain why you needed to stop talking with him months ago and that you regret it. Tell him you made your choice and want to be with him. If it is meant to be then it will be. Saying you are both in love in a matter of one day is a bit iffy to me. I don't see how that would be possible.
I also took the liberty of looking up your signs together since you mentioned them.
ARIES AND AQUARIUS: They're well suited tempermentally- both are active, ambitious, enjoy a wide range of interests, and are equally eager for sexual adventure. Depending on whim, Aquarius may or may not let Aries take the lead. Both are independent- Aquarius even more than Aries- And Aries may at times feel neglected. Aries finds the Aquarian unpredictability exciting, but also never feels entirely secure. However with a bit of tact and understanding on both sides, this is a great affair that could turn into something even better.
So yeah if you are single and don't mind the family drama then let him know and go from there. Good luck.
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