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reader, MuffinGirl  +, writes (24 July 2009):
 It's possible to fell in love with someone you have never met. Somehow it's better than in real life, because people tend to be more honest with someone they don't know. Besides that, a person in a world around you is surrounded by people who eventually make opinion about who he/she is and what is his/her position in a society. This can make a lot of people uncapable to have their own opinion of the person they have just met. But by talking on phone or over the internet, we are able to be more honest and not pretending that we're someone we're not. So i don't think that not knowing each other in real life is particulary bad beginning -and it IS beginning- of relationship in real life. This can be very positive. And i'm sure that if you get along with that person extremly well and you feel that he or she is your soul mate, you have the best possible chances at least become very good friends. Friendship doesn't need to have psysical attraction between two people.
But on the other hand i also agree with what's been said here. You should meet him in real life and than you'll see. It's risky, but don't let yourself to be dissappointed and don't expect too much (i know this is hard). You and that person can develop a great friendship, especially after so much talking. And if you won't be sure whether you like him or not, then meet him again and soon you'll see.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2009): You absolutely can. Even though in some cases it turned out not to be love after all (after you met). But, yes, you can fall in love with someone online just as well as you can be in love with someone in rl that you never actually spoken to at all. The challenge comes when you must check that the image you have of a person (the image you fell in love with) matches the real life person (which you figure out after spending lots of time together).
Its exactly like with any other relationship, you discover new sides of people as you go along and get to know each other at different levels, and either you fall deeper in love or you fall out of it.
Im madly in love with my boyfriend, and we met online and then in real life 3 months later, and we just love each other even more.
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reader, love-struckxo  +, writes (26 May 2009):
 It's possible to fall inlove with the IDEA of that person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): I think it's possible, well, it happened to me. I met my boyfriend online 5 years ago, and I fell in love with him immediately. Then 3 years later we finally met, and now we've been together for more than 2 years. I still love him, and he loves me too.
Well it can happen that you won't like them when you meet in person, but I hope it goes well for you!
So good luck!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (26 May 2009):
 I agree with Britt. I believe that the personal qualities and the general way of being can indeed be felt over the phone, e-mail, chat, and perhaps in other ways, too. However, meeting the person and actually finding what s/he is like is the real test.
It is also possible to be in love with an image you build yourself. Make sure this is not your case.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): Yes, it is possible to feel all the emotions and the love even though you haven't actually met in person...
However...Once meeting or actually getting together there may be differences that make you realize it just won't work! That doesn't mean you didn't really love the person.
The same thing could happen if you met in a grocery store, a bar, or anywhere...you can fall in love with someone, and after time see a side of them that just absolutely kills the love. That doesn't mean the love wasn't real!
We all want to be in love and be happy! I believe what we feel is real. Sometimes it just doesn't work out. Whether you meet online or inline at the bank!
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (26 May 2009):
 NO! You are just in love with the idea and imagination of being in love!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (26 May 2009):
No.
We had a question from a girl on here a little while ago.
She'd been talking online and then by text and then by phone for ever and ever to this guy.
They FINALLY met up. She felt absolutely NOTHING for him more than friendship although she expected fireworks as she thought she was in love.
So then she was stuck with him talking about marriage and her being his soul mate and she had to tell him that "sorry, I only want you to be my best mate" and break him.
You can form a deep deep deep connection with someone over the phone but you can't fall in love as that requires attraction lust and hormones, which just don't happen through cables.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (26 May 2009):
 Yes.
However, it might be reinforced by chemical attraction when you meet in "real life" or there might not be a drop of physical attraction.
It might also be the whole idea of LOVE - not the actual person. Been there done that.
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