Should I cheat on my girlfriend because she's overweight?
Q. Should i cheat on my GF? I know its wrong and everything, but i have been talking to this girl lately and i feel i have a connection with her, like its crazy how similar we are. Im not 100% sexually attracted to my current gf, she is over weight, ...
A. 17 June 2013: If you are considering to cheat on her, there is probably something else going wrong in the relationship... You also mention having a connection with this new girl... You have been with your gf for 7 years and this since being a teen... It could be ... (read in full...)
Need self-confidence to lose weight
Q. Hello friends my question isn't really a relationship question but how can I lose weight? I feel very depressed about my weight but I can't seem to lose any weight I have tried many methods but nothing seems to work. I feel like in stuck in a rut. ...
A. 14 March 2013: hey, thats cool that you want to get into fitter shape! fad diets are very restrictive and bound for failure as they can mess up your metabolism. From a personal story, i was overweight my whole life until something clicked in me and I wanted to ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend protective or is controlling?
Q. Recently, if I have been going to my friends house ( once , actually recently) my boyfriend would be like ' are you home yet? When you coming home? Please come Home' when it would be around 11 ish or so on a school night. I am 18, boyfriend 20. Last ...
A. 11 March 2013: I think it depends for how long you have been together. From personal experience, this tends to be controlling behavior type and even more so if your relationship is quite recent. The next step if he is indeed controlling is that he will try to make ... (read in full...)
Should I fight for my relationship or should I move on?
Q. 5 Months ago I thought I found the guy I wanted. He was exactly everything I praid for head, body, and soul. I thought we were a match made in heaven. He was also the first guy I ever dated. He said he loved me and I loved him. We live 40 minutes ...
A. 21 November 2012: Forget about your ex! If he broke up because of a 40mins distance he didn't have strong feelings for you. Someone in love would have tried to bring up solutions if the 40mins was that bothersome instead of breaking up right away (40mins is not that ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a well-dressed man to find an average dressed woman attractive?
Q. I see this guy every day and every time we pass each other the flirting is intense. This guy is gorgeous and I love his mannerisms and find him intriguing, and would love to get to know him further. The only issue I have is that he very well ...
A. 21 November 2012: he likes you for the way you are and your dress sense too. i think you're also being too harsh/critical on your fashion style (some flat shoes are very cute and of good taste too). He definitely enjoys spending time with you and your personality, ... (read in full...)
I'm seeing a guy who has a girlfriend
Q. I've been seeing someone for a while now and we both seem to really like each other. The only problem is.. he has a girlfriend. He's never once mentioned breaking up with her, in fact he tells me nothing about her. I don't even know her name. Any ...
A. 15 November 2012: hi, this relationship with this guy is leading to no where... he's not being honest with you. im so sorry and i know it's very difficult especially as your feelings for this guy are increasing, but if he really loved you and had respect for you he w... (read in full...)
His brother was heavily flirty with me and I don't know how to take this... help!
Q. Hey guys, just looking for a bit of advice. I met my boyfriend's brother for the first time 2 weeks ago and it was all going great. We played around a bit and joked how I met the wrong brother first... All in fun though, not serious. He started ...
A. 12 November 2012: this is starting to go abit too far to the point that there aren't really any boundaries... it seems you're having a crush on your bf's brother due to the kind of inappropriate discussions (having sex) and letting him touch your ass and stuff (kind ... (read in full...)
Should I respect my parents or try to make my boyfriend happy?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years and we've had a few major hiccups along the way but we've always weathered through. One of our main arguments is that I don't sleep over at his house unless my parents are away. My parents are a...
A. 12 November 2012: hi, on this i think that your boyfriend needs to be more understanding: if you are still financially dependent on your parents, then you need to respect their wishes (like you mentioned). however, when he blames you for not getting a job, he is ... (read in full...)
My good friend told my crush bad things about me, do I confront her?
Q. Hello, I'm really troubled now. I'm in love with this boy from my school, Matthew. He has hinted that our feelings are mutual recently but does not wish to take our relationship to the next level yet, because he wants to focus on his studies. I'm ...
A. 12 November 2012: Now you know where your friend Kate stands, she sees you as competition and is playing a double game, so anything you may say she will use that against you to make herself look good infront of your crush.
About your crush : he has mentione... (read in full...)
How can I get to know someone in a professional manner?
Q. I want some advice on how I should go about getting to know someone at work in a professional manner, without appearing too forthright and desperate. I have been hopelessly in love with a guy from work probably since the first few times I laid...
A. 12 November 2012: when you need to discuss something work related with him, do it in person and make it an excuse to get some coffee so you can also chit-chat about other things then work to get to know him more on a personal level. however, keep in mind that if you ... (read in full...)
How do I ask him where his money goes?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend 7 years now, we both still live at home and everythings going well. Only one thing is a problem money. Im currently at university studying my masters so literally get £5000 a year to live on. He has a great job which is ...
A. 10 November 2012: You shouldn't be afraid to ask your bf... furthermore you have been together such a long time, and i'm assuming that you guys are probably expecting marriage at one point, so if ever he has any financial burdens: they will also become yours too. ... (read in full...)
My best friend wants a marriage of convenience!
Q. hey aunts and uncles urgent advice needed please. My close male friend and i are both creeping closer to 30. Neither of us is with anybody and we get on very well. We were having a meal at his house, together the other night and got talking about ...
A. 8 November 2012: Maybe this is a bit rushed... You haven't even reached your thirties yet (and even that is still a "young" age group). Maybe you can give yourself some time: try to enlarge your dating pool or if you are seriously thinking about your bff's proposal: ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend used to idolise his friend's body and she was skinny, yet he doesn't want me to get too thin! What is going on here?
Q. I am confused about the messages that my bf is sending me with his comments about weight. I recently lost 30 pounds, putting me now around 160 pounds. My bf is very proud of me, and seems to enjoy the changes in my body. I do too! I'm very excited ...
A. 8 November 2012: If you want to lose weight, you should do it first of all for yourself and not because you hope it makes your boyfriend happier! In the end what matters is if you are happy (and if it's healthy of course!) ... (read in full...)
Do my friends want me single forever?
Q. Okay well Im 21 and I've never had a boyfriend so i was talking to my friends saying that i want to start dating :) I've had sex before but only with 1 guy and that was a little over a year ago. But my question is do my friends want me happy? B...
A. 8 November 2012: maybe your friends are saying that you shouldn't spend too much energy (overthinking/obssessing) in dating as the boyfriend will probably come naturally.
Of course, you need to do what is best for yourself and what will make you happy. Your fri... (read in full...)
Drinking: How much is too much?
Q. I know this is not a relationship question, but i dont know where else to ask and i have posted stuff on here before and i like the amount of help i have received so i would like to try to get some help. This is about my life and drinking. I am c...
A. 15 October 2012: there's nothing wrong with drinking once a week however in such quantities this can have some serious consequences on your health. Usually binging is part of the college phase, so after going through so many excesses you will probably grow out of it ... (read in full...)
Should I marry him now or wait until I finish school?
Q. I was in a relationship for five years.my boyfriend cheated and left me when i got pregnant.i had my baby and take care of him alone.He had never shown to me that he care.Then i chose to be a single mother,and my son carry my last name.Later on,he ...
A. 1 October 2012: no matter what, finish your studies! that is important for your future and your baby. what would happen if something happened to your current bf? at least you would have your degree. maybe when you would look back in 10 years you would regret not ... (read in full...)
I forgave my boyfriend for cheating on me but he cant seem to forgive himself and is left with a terrible feeling of guilt and self-loathing
Q. My boyfriend of four years cheated on me with a friend of ours about 4 months ago.. He was very drunk when it happened and he told me later that night when we were in bed together.. He is a very good and sweet guy.. I forgave him and said that it ...
A. 1 October 2012: maybe something more then a kiss happened and that's why he is acting like it is eating away at him? if he can't act put the issue behind like you have, maybe it's better to stop the relationship, or instead of being so drastic maybe have a break to ... (read in full...)
What advice can you give for dating a younger man in university?
Q. I'm a 22 year old senior and I like a 20 year old sophomore. I know age is just a number and whether or not the relationship will work depends on the two people. But does anyone have advice for dating a younger guy? Any insights or tips? Thanks! ...
A. 1 October 2012: it shouldn't be much of an issue as the age gap is quite small. guys have a tendency to mature a bit slower then girls (as a stereotype), so maybe at times he may act a bit irresponsible in your eyes (but maybe he's not like that) . however im ... (read in full...)
My ex and I reconnected over Facebook and then he suddenly blocked me! Why would he do that?
Q. I sent a Facebook message to my ex boyfriend to smooth over the awkwardness after we broke up (almost a year ago) and kind of extend a hand of friendship, which he gladly accepted. A few months after we broke up he wanted to get back together or ...
A. 30 September 2012: he experienced so much with you that going back to being only friends is too difficult and seems artificial. he tried to get back with you but you don't see it the same way and i guess now he just accepted he has to move on, and maintaining the ... (read in full...)
I've pointed out the red flags but feel like my g/f never gives me a clear answer
Q. So homecoming is coming up. I'm not going, i dont really like dances. But my gf is, and im really scared she going to be dancing on other girls since i'm not their with her. My friends keep telling me ,they see her playing with other girls. She ...
A. 29 September 2012: if you are really worried about it, why don't you go to the homecoming as well? maybe it will turn out that you will have an awesome time with your gf. Otherwise, it's not like you can chain her up and forbid her to go there. The only thing you c... (read in full...)
Aftermath of a threesome.
Q. I'm kind of in a bind here and I need your take on this situation because it's not a black or white scenario. Several years back, my friend decided that he thought it would be fun if we all had a threesome with his then girlfriend. We d...
A. 16 August 2012: What do you want? Do you want to carry a relationship with this wife or are you just on it for the threesome?
In any case, there seems to be unresolved issues between your friend and his wife, so they need to decide what they want to do. Do you w... (read in full...)
My friend downloaded some music from a sketchy website!
Q. I'm really nervous for my best friend, she told me she downloaded about 20 songs the other day off a pretty dodgy website. And ever since she has her computer has been running really slow, crashing and all sorts. I said she should tell her dad, bu...
A. 16 August 2012: There are plenty of free antivirus softwares (like on download.com) so if you can install one then it can the detect viruses on the computer and get rid of those. Another is to re-install the whole operating system (but then you have to save all ... (read in full...)
Why am I still helping my husband, even though he chose his mistress?
Q. we are together for 7 years, early this year i found out that he cheat on me with his co-worker 23 yrs old woman ( he is 31) and i thought i was over but it still continues. the mistress spend their get away because we are poor, and his salary is ...
A. 16 August 2012: You are completely lucid of the situation but i know it is difficult to accept the reality and to move on especially when you still have feelings.
You don't owe your ex-husband anything... Only time will heal your heart and i think that once you... (read in full...)
Fallen out of love but I stay for the sake of my best friend
Q. Well I was seeing this girl, we have been together for 2 months or so, my roommate knew this and we kept making plans to hang out well she suggested that we all hang out and she brought a friend for him, so they hit it off and we got kicked out the ...
A. 4 July 2012: i think the damage is already done with your girlfriend. You will never look at her as before. I don't think that alcohol is an excuse for everything and i think they were pretty much already thinking about sex when they told you they were going to ... (read in full...)
None of my relationships last a month. We have sex and they're gone. How do I attract a guy who wants more?
Q. I'm 17 about to be 18 at the end of july. well my problem is i cant hold a relationship for longer than a month. it sucks. and it's become worse - where i dont even have a month long relationship, i just have sex then boom thats over. its not t...
A. 2 July 2012: Try to take things slower with guys - Try to do more activities that don't necessarily end up in sex. See if the guy also does stuff that points that he is interested in you and not just your body. Is he sweet and attentive? does he do nice things ... (read in full...)
How do I get a girl friend if none are sexually attracted to me?
Q. How do you get a girl friend if nobody is sexually attracted to you? I am 35 and single and have been single all my life. I have never even had a one day relationship with a woman. It seems to me that it would be creepy to just go up to a woman yo...
A. 2 July 2012: Dating is a very wide topic with so many variables that can be taken into consideration. First of all, being in a relationship is not just about sexual attraction (the probabilities of the relationship lasting on the long-term is very slim), it also ... (read in full...)
My Mother seems obsessed about trying to break up my brother's relationship with his Gf. What can I do?
Q. ok my question is in regards to my brother and my mom. My brother A has always been a mamas boy and she has ALWAYS been obsessed with him and in his business. A is the dream kid, has always just let her be her over bearing self and smiled and s...
A. 25 June 2012: A first step is already passed with your brother A noticing your mother's hostile behavior against B.
Maybe you can talk to your mom about B, and mention the positive traits about her, and how she and A are happy together so maybe an external... (read in full...)
Why do people always judge a book by its cover? I want women to see me for who I really am, not just how young I look!
Q. It's been 5 years since I have been in a serious relationship because mainly I haven't found the right woman for me. I'm 39 I'm a straight male with beautiful blue eyes, but I look a lot younger than my age I look to be about 16 ish maybe 20 tops I ...
A. 21 June 2012: What kind of woman do you date? do you see a pattern in the type of woman that try to take advantage of you or are materialistic superficial etc? Maybe try to go for a different type of woman. Do you think there is something in your behavior that ... (read in full...)
So the not perfect guy with spark or the perfect guy with a little less spark?
Q. I have a boyfriend. And I love him. I really do, but I just can't help but seeing his flaws all the time. He is not really smart, he's a little immature and sometimes I just can;t help but being irritated by his behavior. But he's really swee...
A. 20 June 2012: There is no such thing as perfect, I think that if you date mr. perfect little by little you will most probably see things that are not so perfect or other aspects of his character you haven't noticed before.
Regardless of chosing between ... (read in full...)
My friend wants to bring another girl on holiday with us, I have a bad feeling about this girl and don't want her to come, but I don't want to lose my friend either! What should I do?
Q. I have a friend, let’s call her Laura, who I have known since we were 4 years old. She is a lovely person, but is also a people pleaser to the extent that she lets others completely walk all over her on a regular basis. She lets people treat her ...
A. 20 June 2012: You know how the dynamics between the two work so i think you would be in for some not so fun holidays if Emily tagged along. With such an attention seeking behavior, Emily will also maybe try to turn this in a competition with you for Laura's ... (read in full...)
I saw noticed my girl check out another guy, should I be worried?
Q. I saw noticed my girl check out another guy, should i be worried? Ok lets put it into perspective, yes iv checked out other girls, but not infront of her, difference is i dont 'want' or 'feel' the need to be with these other girls, i just lo...
A. 19 June 2012: Maybe that's how maybe she also feels when you are checking out other girls (you mention that you are discreet but maybe she actually has noticed when you check girls out). However that look could have been something else too, maybe she thought she ... (read in full...)
He's not contributing financially in our live-in relationship...what should I do?
Q. hi, so i have a question..., i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years in a few months. we started out great, so loving, caring, and anything i wanted to do i got, but now its not like that, he doesn't give me a kiss hello when i see him, we sit on ...
A. 18 June 2012: Hi, Maybe you can also have a common pot e.g. when you both get your salaries, both put some money aside that cover bills, household items, groceries but also money that can be saved for a common goal e.g. vacations. Then you can do whatever you ... (read in full...)
My gf is attached to her phone, and it really bothers me. What gives?
Q. Hi all I'm really struggling here and need some advice been with my gf 5 years but I have started noticing all she does is bbm text facebook Twitter and I mean from when I get home from work till midnight so I assume she does this all day, by no ...
A. 18 June 2012: Can you have some ground rules with her? for example: no cell phones while eating together or when you're doing an activity?
Don't attack her (some people feel very offended and take stuff too personally) but just tell her how you feel whenever... (read in full...)
My b/f has been posting naked pics of himself and interacting with other gay men but I cant even tell him I know this because I snooped into his phone and discovered this!
Q. Hello everyone, I am stuck in a desperate situation with my current boyfriend. We have been together for 3 years on and off but we have been stable for the last 8months and there months ago he moved in with me. we have always have issues with me ...
A. 15 June 2012: Do you really need to confront him specifically about this? It's time to rethink your relationship and if you think it's worth continuing on or not when you know your bf is attracted to men too.
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'X' in a text message, is it just for people close to you or for anyone and everyone?
Q. Ok, so this may sound strange to some but agreed upon by others - I just want to know weather I'm being unnecessarily stupid and to get others views. I've been with my girlfriend for just over a year and we moved in with each other two weeks ...
A. 15 June 2012: I think that the X doesnt mean anything in this case. I have a female friend that puts "X" at the end of all her texts and emails to any of her friends, family etc . If the content of the sms wasnt "steamy" or ambiguous i dont think the "x" means ... (read in full...)
How do I become more approachable?
Q. Hey everyone, I am 23 years old,this may sound wierd to many of u but I still have never had a real boyfriend.. I have kissed two men but it was nothing,my first kiss was when I was 17 he was a celebrity and I used to watch his shows so we got ...
A. 15 June 2012: Some body language can help to show a particular guy you fancy him: flirty attitude, smiling, being a positive person, teasing, a few compliments, laughing and joking, a bit of physical contact (like hugs or touching his arms), spending some time ... (read in full...)
How to regain our normal sex life after two pregnancies?
Q. my wife is not interested in sex relation after having two daughters whereas we had both feel more and enjoy in sex relation in earlier. how to regain sex as earlier? please suggest me. skumar...
A. 14 June 2012: Did you speak to your wife about it? A number of external factors can also impact on your wife's libido. Maybe she is feeling tired, stressed, or maybe the environment is not so propice for sex (if your daughters are still young and need parental ... (read in full...)
I think my sister and my boyfriend have a thing behind my back
Q. My boyfriend and i have been seeing eachother for about a year, he is 21 and i am 16, i have a younger sister who is 14 i know it sounds young but i think they fancy each other. Everytime im with my sister and my boyfriend they dont talk and its ...
A. 14 June 2012: About the cigarette thing: I don't think that he should give your sister one as 1) it goes against your parents' rules and 2) it goes against what your wishes. I think that it just shows that he is not such a responsible young man. If you are having ... (read in full...)
Should I go back to my abusive ex or see what happens with the new guy?
Q. I was with a guy for about two years and it was going well for the first five months until he started to get very controlling and abusive. I thought he'd just come to a strange point in his life and he'd stop because I'm stupid like that so I stayed ...
A. 14 June 2012: No! Whatever you do, please don't go back with your ex! He has already showed you how much disrespect he has for you. From personal experience, a relative was with a violent boyfriend(verbally/physically abusive, jealous and manipulative). W... (read in full...)
My friend's fiancee wants to have sex with me
Q. Heyyy so I'm up here in California for the next couple of years and I've met TONS of people but here's the problem, my friends fiance wants me to have sex with her. I've known this guy for about a month now but she's VERY persuasive and insistent on ...
A. 9 June 2012: No matter how tempting it is, do not fool around with your friend's fiancé! How would you like if he would do the same to you? "she's not sure if she wants to be with this guy for the rest of her life..." That is already a very bad sign if one of ... (read in full...)
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