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writes:Hey guys, just looking for a bit of advice. I met my boyfriend's brother for the first time 2 weeks ago and it was all going great. We played around a bit and joked how I met the wrong brother first... All in fun though, not serious. He started saying stuff like - you're so beautiful, if you weren't my brothers girlfriend I would be kissing you right now. Then he said he would destroy my..... you know... If we had sex :\ He kept feeling my leg and grabbing my ass and I'm just not sure if this was a joke or not :s. He was heavily flirty and kept cuddling me. Then later on that night he basically told my boyfriend that he doesn't deserve me and that he hopes I leave him... just not sure how to take this :\
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reader, mooh  +, writes (12 November 2012):
this is starting to go abit too far to the point that there aren't really any boundaries... it seems you're having a crush on your bf's brother due to the kind of inappropriate discussions (having sex) and letting him touch your ass and stuff (kind of leading him on in his fantasy).
if you still want to be with your bf, i think you need to take your distance from the brother and stop all the touchy feely stuff, or else a hot mess is just waiting to happen in the future.
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reader, Beautifulboy +, writes (11 November 2012):
seems to me that you have some male intamacy issues because you stated what the brother physically did to you all night an what he told you he would do to you if you werent dating his brother an you asked us do we think he is joking?? like you actually care whether he was trying to play you or not aka you were hoping he meant what he said... wow.. please break up with your bf so you dont wind up having sex with his brother please. find it in your heart to break up with him if your going to mess with his brother.. and see a shrink to discuss your problem with wanting male attention whether in the form of good, respectful attention or sexual attention cuz it seems you will settle for either..
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reader, Staceily +, writes (11 November 2012):
 Oh ok, I thought since he had said something to your brother that meant he was around. Well you definitely need to tell your boyfriend! I'm curious why you wouldn't. What he did was extremely wrong and inappropriate, your boyfriend needs to know. If he found out from someone else and you never said anything it would appear that you didn't find his brother's actions inappropriate and unwanted. Tell your boyfriend about what he did and how uncomfortable it made you and let him handle his brother. Then in the future don't ever hang out with his brother alone or with your boyfriend not around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2012): This is from OP. My boyfriend was not around when he did those things. Not sure if I should tell him or not! hence my question in the first place.
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reader, Staceily +, writes (11 November 2012):
Uh your boyfriend sat there and allowed his brother to grope you and make very crude comments about sex with you? This isnt joking and playing around. The first joke was fine but the rest of what happened is far from okay and I'm shocked you or your boyfriend allowed this to happen. How you take this is he is a creepy guy who stepped far out of his boundaries, not only playfully flirting but seriously trying to get it on with you and apparently thinking you would go for it. Personally I'd leave them both behind because this is unacceptable from either of them.
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reader, tamperingtampaguy +, writes (11 November 2012):
I would leave both the brothers and try to find someone from a non-dysfunctional family.
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