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writes:Well I was seeing this girl, we have been together for 2 months or so, my roommate knew this and we kept making plans to hang out well she suggested that we all hang out and she brought a friend for him, so they hit it off and we got kicked out the barracks so we go to the hotel room , I paid for the hotel room, we were all having fun drinking and playing around and I pass out and the oher girl passed out, I woke up to my girl telling me she was going to take my roommate back to the barracks so I had trust in her and i believed she wouldn't do anything, nor would my friend. When she returns she said that he kissed her, I got pissed and poked into it and realized they did more then kiss she gave him head and they fucked. i found out from her she told me, he wouldn't. Well I have tried to forgive her but since it has happened, about a week ago i have not had sex with her, I cant get aroused, when she kisses me it just feels weird i don't like kissing her but I want to keep a friendship with her, now my roommate i see everyday of my life and I will always see it, he just asked me for a coke right now as i was typing this and doesn't know I know, but its more complex then just that, there is another part to the story, My buddy has been miserable for a long time he came over and met the other girl that happens to be the sister of my girl (the other girl didn't sleep with my roommate my girl did) but they hit it off like a blast and spent the weekend together and the problem is because of their distance when she comes her sister comes, but let me tell you a bit about my friend, he has helped me out in more ways then i can count when i first arrived here on base no one gave a shit about me i was just a privet to all of them, he took me out and was my friend and i would never do anything to betray this man, well he has been alone for a while and they are hitting it off Great! so i don't want to cause problems with him and his girl because my girl lives with her, and she gets a ride down here to me, the easiest thing for me is to say i don't want to see her and show her the message here. I plan to one day tell her, but when she kisses me I don't get aroused and when we are together just the thought of having sex with her makes me sick, I have never felt this way for any chick in my life, I am a man the slightest tickle and I am ready to go, but she just cant turn me on like she used to.. i don't know why but all i do know is she isn't healthy for me, and she doesn't make me happy at all.
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reader, mooh  +, writes (4 July 2012):
i think the damage is already done with your girlfriend. You will never look at her as before. I don't think that alcohol is an excuse for everything and i think they were pretty much already thinking about sex when they told you they were going to the barracks.
Is there any possibility for you to change roommates/rooms? If not, unfortunately you're going to have to bear being with your roommate maybe with time you can forgive him but i think that the relationship with your gf cannot be saved, the relationship will always be stained with what she did and i think that there will be developed issues regarding trust too. what happens the next time you guys get super drunk?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2012): Your GF cheated on you. You need to stop looking for a way to make it all go away and start dealing with it.
You aren't the one who did wrong so don't apologize for doing what has to be done now. Whatever damage the breakup causes is her fault, not yours.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 July 2012):
 Oh okay I see I got you mixed up there. Still I am sure your best friend would understand if you explained to him the situation that you where in, he is your friend and he would want what is best for you. Also it does not mean that he has to stop seeing her sister if you break up with your girlfriend.
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reader, Armydog92 +, writes (4 July 2012):
Armydog92 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy roommate and my best friend are two different people, my roommate was a good friend, and betrayed me well my best friend is a coworker. i guess i should have used code names to describe them lol
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (4 July 2012):
You know what you are two nice for your own good. What your girlfriend and friend done to you was just terrible and you should not be so forgiven. I can see that you worry about your friend and you want to do what is right for him, but you need to start making yourself happy and looking after yourself. I don't blame you for not getting turned on by your girlfriend any more what she done was terrible. You are not happy with her any more and as you said she is no good for you. So please do the right thing for yourself and end things with her before you end up completely miserable. I also think you need to be honest with your friend and tell him what you know, he is not a good friend if he does that to you, I think you need to talk to him about it and ask him why he done it. Also it is not very fair on her sister if she is starting to like your room mate and she does not know the full truth about what has happened.
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