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writes:My boyfriend of four years cheated on me with a friend of ours about 4 months ago.. He was very drunk when it happened and he told me later that night when we were in bed together.. He is a very good and sweet guy.. I forgave him and said that it was only a kiss and that people make mistakes! I have moved on and learned to put it behind me but just recently he started to push me away emotionally and he gets angry allot more now. I asked him why he has started acting like this and he said it was because every time he sees my face it reminds him about what happened. He said that when i used to walk into a room it lit up and now he is just left with this terrible feeling of guilt and self-loathing.. He said that if i had ever done that to him he would leave me and the fact that i stayed and forgave him makes him feel worse! He has been cheated on before by his xgirlfriend who had sex with his best friend on his 17th birthday on his mum’s bed! So he was always saying things like people who cheat have no excuse and that they are the scum of the earth... This is just making it even harder for him to get over it because everyone knew that he had strong feelings about cheating! I really love him and i hate seeing him beat himself up but i really don’t know what else i can do apart from forgive him! He has told me to leave him and that he doesn’t deserve me but i can’t help it i love him and want him to move on as i have! Has anyone been in a similar situation? I really need some advice please ):
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reader, mooh  +, writes (1 October 2012):
maybe something more then a kiss happened and that's why he is acting like it is eating away at him? if he can't act put the issue behind like you have, maybe it's better to stop the relationship, or instead of being so drastic maybe have a break to take time to think?
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (1 October 2012):
 He doesnt want you in his life anymore OP and that is why he is pushing you away and will continue doing so till you break. He probably didnt even expect forgiveness in the first place and wanted you to dump him and that's why he told you about it himself.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (1 October 2012):
Honey, it sounds like he's still cheating on you. He's purposely trying to push you away and hint that you should break up with him because he would break up with you. He feels bad dumping you, so he wants you to do it.
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