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writes:I sent a Facebook message to my ex boyfriend to smooth over the awkwardness after we broke up (almost a year ago) and kind of extend a hand of friendship, which he gladly accepted. A few months after we broke up he wanted to get back together or even be fwbs but I turned him down. We sent each other a few long emails back and forth, mostly kind of catching up. Today out of nowhere he blocked me. Why in the world would he do that? I don't think it was anything I said because he replied to my last email on a really positive note. I only noticed he blocked me because I was about to message him back... I do have other ways to contact him but if he did decide to block me on purpose then it seems stalker-ish to try.What do you think? Should I do... anything? Thanks in advance
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question**UPDATE**
Thanks for your advice, aunts!
As some of you suggested, I figured he might have a girlfriend of something who didn't want him talking to me but whatever the reason, I just let it go.
He emailed me this afternoon to say he deactivated his Facebook account (didn't say why) and that he wasn't sure if I had other ways of contacting him but I should email him if I wanted to.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (1 October 2012):
 Don't try other ways to get hold of him. He blocked you for a reason and honestly, you don't need to know why.
Maybe he met a new girl and didn't want to have ex's on his FB maybe he had some feelings for you still and since getting back together and FWB isn't going to be a deal, he blocked you so he can move on.
You did what you set out to do, to smooth over the break up. You two now ended it on a nicer note.
Let it go, let him go. Time for you to move on too.
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reader, mooh  +, writes (30 September 2012):
he experienced so much with you that going back to being only friends is too difficult and seems artificial. he tried to get back with you but you don't see it the same way and i guess now he just accepted he has to move on, and maintaining the contact is too difficult.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 September 2012):
 he got a new girlfriend and that's why he's blocked you...
he does not want you to see it.
don't contact him.
I see no need for ex partners to be friends unless they have children together.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (30 September 2012):
Do nothing. I would suggest that he has a girlfriend somewhere who is not best pleased that he's in contact with you, or that he's just started seeing someone and doesn't want an ex hanging around.
Being friends with ex's isn't something I'd really recommend. It doesn't smooth awkward feelings over as some would like to think. Often it just causes more trouble.
What you two had is over, and has been for a year. You shouldn't be going back to the past in any way - you should just keep moving on. I'd suggest that he has, and that this is the result of it.
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reader, emilia80 +, writes (30 September 2012):
It could be really awkward to have your ex as a friend on fb. He could be dating another person, or maybe he is talking to another girl he is interested in on fb, and he does not want you as an ex to know this. We basically give up the right to our privacy once we post information on fb; things that before an ex would have to learn through the grapevine, now they have fb for. I had my ex bf's father befriend me on fb, go figure, I waited two weeks and then I accepted. Isn't that weird? People are just curious, they want to know what you are up to,if you are worse off or if you are better off since the break-up. Being friends with an ex does not really work, at first it is nice to catch-up but eventually you remember how you got hurt, and it starts hurting again. Just don't worry about it, if he contacts you keep it nice, but don't be too welcoming, as he might see it as a way to weasel himself back into your life, even as fwb mind you.
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