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*ngelwings420
writes:I'm 17 about to be 18 at the end of july. well my problem is i cant hold a relationship for longer than a month. it sucks. and it's become worse - where i dont even have a month long relationship, i just have sex then boom thats over. its not that i want to have sex all the time but it just happens than the person is like i havent gotten that far if they want a relationship with you or not. im going crazy. everyone at my school has a relationship that lasts like 3yrs and i cant get that. someone please help me. i have no idea what to do any more :( Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (2 July 2012):
 STOP having sex. That’s the first thing you need to do. EVEN if you like him. ESPECIALLY if you like him… just say NO… not forever but until you know he’s in for the long haul….
YOU can’t make a boy stay with you with sex… there has to be more. The problem is that you have a reputation now as a girl who is easy to have sex with so the boys that want sex are the ones that are trying and the serious ones are staying away…. This will get better…. When you mature and they mature.
Are you going away to college in the fall?
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reader, mooh  +, writes (2 July 2012):
Try to take things slower with guys - Try to do more activities that don't necessarily end up in sex. See if the guy also does stuff that points that he is interested in you and not just your body. Is he sweet and attentive? does he do nice things to you without expecting sex in return?
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reader, N91  +, writes (2 July 2012):
 Well can't you see a pretty obvious pattern emerging? You're having sex way too soon.
You're letting a guy talk you into bed. A guy can tell you absolutely anything that you want to hear to make you drop your drawers, you have to watch his actions to see if he really means what he says.
If they're willing to wait as long as you are to have sex, then it looks a little more promising. It's sad to say but I have many friends who will tell a girl they want to be in a relationship, they have sex and they run out the door - Stop being taken advantage of by giving it up so easily.
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reader, Tiner +, writes (2 July 2012):
I think u have to remember that sex is the quickest way to ruin a relationship. If u can find a guy who's NOT cocky, and is willing to be a friend before a sexual partner, I think u will be much better off :)
Also, a guys past (or anyones) is a great indicator of their future. Is this guy known for having one night stands, cheating on his g/fs, or other questionable behavior?
Good luck, I hope u have better luck! But also, remember, being young and NOT being tied down is the most fun ull have in ur life! Try and enjoy urself and ur freedom!
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