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writes:Hello there. Thank you so much for deciding to help me! Sometimes I actually think I like this guy, do you think he likes me???First of all, I am in eighth grade. The teacher, we will refer to him as {}, is 46 years old, married, and has two children, one is my age, one is a year or so younger.Before you answer this question based on the fact that he is married, realize that he still is acting innapropriately for a teacher. I will show you more as we continue.Basically, {} started out normally with me, but then...something changed. All of my friends realize how he acts with me, and how differently he acts around me than with the class. He is a pretty popular teacher, in the way that old students visit him. He is also a pretty "trusted" faculty member, but I think I have changed that.Also, I plan on being a criminal profiler, so I have researched the behaviors of pedophilia, and some of his behaviors have...raised suspicions.Here is a abridged version of what he has done to raise my suspicion:~He walks with me everywhere, and my friend, who was walking behind me, said how {} would trail me by a few inches and "check me out." Also, my friend said how the teacher had his arm as if he was trying to put it around my shoulders.~When me and {} walk together, I feel him reaching for my hand, and once he actually touched my hand and kept his hand there, and I could feel his fingers moving on my hand.~I told the teacher about some problems I was having at home, and he told me he would never say anything to anyone, and that he wants me to be able to talk to him about anything.To me, this seemed like he was trying to encourage secrecy. He told me all of this through my private email because he likes to...email me.~He treats me differently than the other students. I can get away with everything, and I am a very outgoing person, and I am the jokster of the class. He lets me listen to my iPod during class, text, whatever I want to do.~One day, I took a picture of him by his desk with my phone as a joke, and when he asked to see the picture, he held my hand on the phone and put his hand over mine and was feeling my hand with his fingers gently, and I quickly pulled away.~During class, I will find him often staring at me, longingly, and whenever he looks at me, he will put his hands lightly together as if he was holding someone elses hand, and he always stares at my lips and opens his lips a little.~When I am absent from class, everyone says how depressed he is, and how he spends the class staring at my seat.~He walks me to my bus, but now that I take a different way to get to my bus, he stands and waits by my bus, and when i get there, he walks closer to my bus and leans against it and drops his hand by mine.~I had crutches for a little while ( I hurt my foot cheerleading) and so when I had to put my flashdrive into his computer for a flashdrive, he pulled up a seat right next to him and put his arm around the seat. When I sat down, he looked really excited, and put his hands between his legs and was like rubbing up and down. He told me to "do my thing" and put himself right in the way of where I had to put the flash drive and was smiling.~I was doing my work one day and all of a sudden I felt a breath on my neck, I turn around, and he has both hands on my chair, and he says, hey there.~I was sitting in my tech class, and he walks in and I was leaning on my friend (a guy) arm, and he was playing with my hair, and {} looks at him, and says, do your work, now. I turn around and say, don't be jealous of him, just like im not jealous of the four hairs on your head baldy. He turns around and says, that's not the only thing your jealous of (;. I was so mad.~I am the comedian of the class, so I always come out with funny retorts and comments, and he told me one day by my bus that he really likes me, and that he loves how fiesty I am, and I am his "special"~I walked up to him one day and asked him if he got a haircut, and he put his fingers through my hair and said, actually, nooooo.~Then during class, he found out about my boyfriend, and got very depressed, and wasn't acting the same. Then when my boyfriend put his arm around me, he was like, is this for real???~He was absent one day, so when I saw him the next day I asked him if he missed me, and he put his hands over his chest and said, where were you??? and i said, skipping your class!! and he said, i bet, and when i said awww, does somebody need a hug, he thought i was serious!!!~Finally, when we were at a play, in school, he sat behind me and when I turned around to ask a question he made some joke, and put his hand on my cheek.~Lastly, when I told him I am never coming back to visit him, he said, you better! I will miss you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2009): It sounds like your either: 1. encouraging him 2. Reading into things via the aid of an overly-active imagination or 3. Making this up as you go. For some reason i'm drawn towards the latter, because it simply does not sound like the words of an educated 46 yearold man that has probably had his share of women--i'm inclide to think that they're not as juvinale, obvious and a bit more creative with their hints, but thats just me.
However, if my above asumptions happen to be wrong then do contact someone who you know well and your school gidance councler. Get out of his classes and avoid him at all costs.
Good Luck!
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reader, ErinPatterson +, writes (5 April 2009):
 I don't know if you are mistaking good kid or student for something that maybe not so. Or if it is then you should get out of his class dont encourage the man. Most teachers are very well aware of the dangers of "misinterpretations" of a student. I am not saying you are misinterpreting his intentions if he has any..I am saying it sounds like you need to get out of his class or tell another teacher or adult how you are feeling about your teacher.
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reader, molly4  +, writes (5 April 2009):
 if i were you i woulds top joking around with him. it may seem harmless to you but to him it may seem like you are flriting! avoid being alone with him and tell your parents about the situation before anything bad happens. good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2009): Well, I feel a tinsy bit, that maybe you're encouraging him a tinsy bit, with your remarks, some of them are a bit ... flirty? I'm not saying that he's not a paedophile, but maybe you should just cool it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2009): You are playing with fire little girl!!! You say he fits the description of a pedophile but yet you continue to encourage this behavior! It's time for you to get out of fantasy land and leave this guy alone!
Do you realize you can destroy many lives with your behavior. I can't figure out which of you is the preditor here! If you have a boyfriend, focus your attention on him! You are a child playing grown-up games and you are in very dangerous territory!
It's too late in the year to transfer out, so for the duration...stop flirting with him, and don't encourage his flirtation. You are dangerously close to a disaster!
If by chance, I am misinterpreting you...than tell the administration about your concerns! And just stay away from him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2009): you need to find a way to get out of his class. something bad is going to happen. he will become possessive with you and other things could happen that will ruin your life as well as his. he could go to prison or either one of your parents for getting rid of him. and im say that the nice way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2009): well.
run, fast.
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reader, DoYou5194 +, writes (5 April 2009):
 Well I think this is very serious. I don't think it even legal. You should talk to your parents before it gets out of hand. Or some one with authority.
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