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I'm like a zombie...think I lost my girlfriend!
Q. Ok Guys I need some serious help. I met this girl off a free online dating website about 3 months ago. She is the girl of my dreams, she's what I've wanted my entire life. There is a lot to this so I'll keep it as brief as possible. I'm 28 and she's ...
A. 2 November 2010: Well, realistically it sounds like a great learning experience. You have closure, you know what to do to move on. You are already feeling better, and sound like you have a good grasp on the situation and have made a great final assessment. It is ... (read in full...)
Why is he doing this after a year?
Q. Thanks in advance for reading! First, some back story-- a year ago, I was in a FWB/ casual dating type situation with this guy, we'll call him X. After about six weeks, I ended things with him, and started a serious relationship with another guy, A, ...
A. 23 October 2010: It could be a number of things, really.
X could feel like his ego is bruised. Maybe during your FWB situation he harboured more romantic feelings for you and felt that you reciprocated these feelings. Maybe he felt you were progressing towards more... (read in full...)
He's flirting more since he's had a g/f?
Q. There is a guy who I have in a couple of my classes that asked me out but I had said no. We still talk so theres no problem there. Recently though Ive seen him with another girl (hand around her waist, etc), and since then he's been more touchy with ...
A. 21 October 2010: Perhaps you are now the forbidden fruit. Before he knew he could have you, perhaps if he put the effort in, and now he knows it probably wont happen. The 'flirting' may just be him trying to prove to himself that he still feels macho or attractive, ... (read in full...)
We went out and had a great time but he's hardly texting me now
Q. So an old college 'guy' friend from last year popped up at the beginning of the month with an email on facebook. After that he text me constantly and wanted to meet me and said loads of sweet, nice things about me. I met up with them one weekend and ...
A. 21 October 2010: Don't spend too much time worrying about somebody who isn't worrying enough about you -
Maybe he is still emotionally attached to his ex - maybe he isn't. Either way, he isn't giving you any clear signal or indication that he is ready for any type... (read in full...)
My love has ADHD. What are all the things I may need to know to ensure our relationship stays healthy?
Q. Allo! My girlfriend and I have been together for...ah...whoa...21 months, that's nearly 2 years, lol, neither of us realized. I'm 18, she turns 19 in a couple of months and we seem, well, absolutely fine. We'd like to hold on to our relations...
A. 19 October 2010: There are different levels of ADD, and ADHD that affect people in similar but not the same uniform ways.
Low sex drive is a factor, but some report very high sex drive.
People with ADHD are easily bored, prone to impulse, last minute decision... (read in full...)
I'm like a zombie...think I lost my girlfriend!
Q. Ok Guys I need some serious help. I met this girl off a free online dating website about 3 months ago. She is the girl of my dreams, she's what I've wanted my entire life. There is a lot to this so I'll keep it as brief as possible. I'm 28 and she's ...
A. 17 October 2010: Everything heals in time. Time and space - let life happen, make choices to benefit you, and do things you love and that you are great at.
In time you will start to feel normal again.
Even the tiniest crush/infatuation stings when you lose it, for ... (read in full...)
I'm like a zombie...think I lost my girlfriend!
Q. Ok Guys I need some serious help. I met this girl off a free online dating website about 3 months ago. She is the girl of my dreams, she's what I've wanted my entire life. There is a lot to this so I'll keep it as brief as possible. I'm 28 and she's ...
A. 16 October 2010: Be strong, set your standards and make sure they are firm and not moved.
If she decides to get into contact with you and you feel it is too soon for you, and that you need a little time - take it. That is your right.
A majority of your relation... (read in full...)
I'm like a zombie...think I lost my girlfriend!
Q. Ok Guys I need some serious help. I met this girl off a free online dating website about 3 months ago. She is the girl of my dreams, she's what I've wanted my entire life. There is a lot to this so I'll keep it as brief as possible. I'm 28 and she's ...
A. 16 October 2010: I think starting to date right now might be a good distraction but nothing more. Do yourself a favour and don't jump into another relationship cause you'll likely be putting some poor soul through being an ex substitute and she'll end up not being ... (read in full...)
15 and 3 months late for period but all the tests are negative!
Q. i need help...i am 15 years old and i am 3 months late for my period. i am having all the symptoms of pregnancy but ive taken four pregnancy tests but they all came back negative. do u think i could be having false negatives or its just all in my ...
A. 15 October 2010: I'm going to side with Plexi - I think you probably have low BMI and possibly aren't consuming enough calories to keep a regular period.
I was very athletic in highschool, cheerleading, gymnastics, tennis, softball and track - and didn't get a peri... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is very popular and some days it really gets to me!
Q. My bf is very popular with girls [in that he has many many girl mates who are always contacting him and wanting to see him]. He won't cheat and I know he loves me. But I still struggle on those downer days where you overthink everything. How can I ...
A. 15 October 2010: If you know he wont cheat, and you trust him 100 % you have nothing to worry about.
Whenever you get these negative thoughts try to remind yourself that even in a worst case scenario anything that could possibly happen would be out of your cont... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to tell him when I don't know myself?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend a year now, and when we make love he asks me to tell him when i am about to cum but i never kknow myself and then when i do he ask me why i didnt tell him, how can i tell when im coming? ...
A. 15 October 2010: When it happens, you will know.
The easiest way to describe it - or quantify one of the sensations specifically is a tightening of the muscles inside of you - the same muscles that stop a stream of urine.
You are still young and you have tons of ... (read in full...)
Should I dump the girl I love to go for a hotter girl?
Q. Hi I am currently in a relationship with someone I love. My friends say she is gross and ugly. A "hotter" girl likes me but I don't like her. Should I dump my current gf and go for the other one?...
A. 15 October 2010: Haha. In a totally superficial and aesthetics-driven world would we all keep dumping each other until we ended up with only perfectly symmetrical human specimens breeding to create a uniformed race.
Oh wait, that idea is taken.
Don't dump someone ... (read in full...)
I'm like a zombie...think I lost my girlfriend!
Q. Ok Guys I need some serious help. I met this girl off a free online dating website about 3 months ago. She is the girl of my dreams, she's what I've wanted my entire life. There is a lot to this so I'll keep it as brief as possible. I'm 28 and she's ...
A. 15 October 2010: The fact that she is beautiful and desirable is wonderful, but if you are so intimidated that you put her on a pedastel you are in trouble.
She seems to be playing alot of games, keeping her options open, being overly envious and jealous - susp... (read in full...)
Why am I sexually attracted to older men? Much, Much older men.
Q. I am sexually attracted to older men probably around the ages of 40-60's. I never been with an older man, but I fantasize about having sex with them. I tried reading about people with this "issue", but most of them like older men because of their ...
A. 14 October 2010: I applaud your honesty and openness, it is hard to be open about your fantasies - although yours in comparison to most is not on the wild end of the spectrum.
Young women are attracted to much older men for a plethora of reasons, some comp... (read in full...)
Ask her what went wrong, did I do it right?
Q. Heya guys and gals, sorry to keep on about my breakup, its been a difficult couple of weeks for me. my parents and sister is away on holiday, so iv got an empty house and a great deal of loneliness, iv not been able to get a great deal of sleep my...
A. 14 October 2010: Honestly, I feel like she may be leading you on. The fact that she contacts you intermittently when she needs something, wants something or craves validation isn't a good sign.
Asking her what you did wrong might be difficult for her to quan... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend, despite our rocky relationship, but just can't get Toxic Boy out of my head!
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 5 years. Overall its been a happy relationship with a few ups and downs. Over the last few months however, I just havent been happy, its probably longer then that if Im being honest. We were just arguing all the time ...
A. 14 October 2010: The infatuation you feel for this other man is temporary and fleeting as you probably already know. There is no surefire way to rid your head of an infatuation or crush. You are best to focus on doing your own thing, immerse yourself in your work, ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend acting suspicious. Cause for concern?
Q. My first ever question to Dear Cupid! This question may sound textbook, but I would like an outside opinion. About 6 weeks ago, my girlfriend decided to take some time apart. She said that she needed a week to think about what she really want...
A. 13 October 2010: Let's say hypothetically that they are not physically involved AT all. That it hasn't come up - and they are just flirting, close, and comfortable but not sleeping together.
Should it really make any difference? Would it make you feel that much... (read in full...)
He broke up with me, went for my friend 3 days later, but I still love him!
Q. Okay, well basically.. I'm still in love with my ex boyfriend. It sounds like a typical problem, but I'll just tell you the whole story.. I started dating him in February, we broke up once along the way, but ended for good in early July. And ...
A. 11 October 2010: This sounds like a really tough situation, but one that has a solution that may be easier said than done.
This guy may have been a good boyfriend several months ago, but the decisions he has made since have not qualified him to be worthy of you.... (read in full...)
Torn Between two lovers, feeliing like....I need HELP!
Q. Ok, one thing I know for sure is that I'm very mature for my age, so I don't need anyone telling me I'm not in love when I know in my heart that I am. I have this boyfriend that I have been with for 1 year and 11 months and I love him to death! 3...
A. 11 October 2010: Have you ever heard the phrase "The grass is always greener..."?
It sounds like you are experiencing something along those lines. Personally I feel like you should never break up a relationship to start another one - especially if you have unfi... (read in full...)
I'm really pretty but can be rude unnitentionally!
Q. okay I'm 16 and i have never had a problem with a guy liking me or noticing me because im really pretty my problem is that im really rude and most of the time its not on purpose and idk what to do plus im scared to do anything like even make out ! i ...
A. 10 October 2010: Maybe your problem is that you have failed to recognize that while good looks may get you in the door almost everywhere they rarely create a lasting relationship. Starting developing othersides of your personality, your intellect, sense of humour - ... (read in full...)
I want more action from my FWB
Q. how in the world do you make a fwb want more sex? its frustrating because we do it every few months. thats not fun. any pointers?...
A. 10 October 2010: There is no real solution to your problem, and no surefire way to want him "want more" action. Being a "FWB" means no attachment, no allegiences or responsibilities - I'm assuming that is why you began this agreement. Do you want more sex because ... (read in full...)
Invading partners privacy....how wrong is it
Q. 3 weeks ago I broke up with my bf (whom I had been with for 4 months) after I read his emails and found out he's been meeting another woman. He apologised and tried to get me back (he didn't know that I read his emails , I just told him I don't ...
A. 10 October 2010: Honestly, I feel like as much as everyone has snooped it is counterproductive.
Not only is it truly a waste in time for the snooper - it is only an indication that you have very little trust for your partner which as many have said previous is not ... (read in full...)
Why do men disappear giving you no closure and think it's OK?
Q. Why do men disappear or dump you and give you no closure and think its ok? This is what my ex did....
A. 10 October 2010: Because they are immature, unable to be honest for the sake of your feelings, and obviously in some cases just callous and uncaring.
Of course it isn't okay, but let me give you a little bit of advice : Take this as a blessing in disguise. This guy ... (read in full...)
Can I keep seeing my professor, or is it a lost cause?
Q. About a week ago, under fairly casual and normal circumstances I accepted a ride home from my college professor. The classes I take are evening classes part time, and he is not employed by the college directly, but began teaching this past ...
A. 10 October 2010: Thank you for all of the insight and great feedback.
I totally appreciate the stance being taken as far as putting myself in the position of his wife and children. As much as I know that no outside party truly breaks up a marriage, the consenti... (read in full...)
Is he ignoring me because he doesn't want to be the reason I break up with my boyfriend?
Q. I am in the middle of a finishing a long term relationship, with which we have a beautiful three year old. It has been a very stressful relationship. It has taken me' three years to finish it. He leaves on Wednesday. Over the last year I have...
A. 10 October 2010: I hate to sound callous, that is not my intention. Honestly, the fact that this man was more inclined to flirt/play/joke when you were in a relationship is more of a sign that he was looking to be with someone unnavailable, without risk of it ... (read in full...)
(User's title) To stay or not to stay
Q. Please help very confused. I married a man that I got along very well with 2 years ago. He married me with a child ( boy) who was 6 when we first started dating. As the few years went by I noticed the relationship between my son and husband started ...
A. 10 October 2010: Do you want your son to grow up and watch you unhappy? Do you want to put your heart break and sadness on your sons' conscience? Kids are very perceptive. If you are unhappy, and continue to live with a man you do not love your son will end up ... (read in full...)
I love him but he walks all over me.
Q. How do i break up with my boyfriend of 6 years? I love him so much but he never listens to me, and he walks all over me! He thinks just cause his friends are single and worthless lol he can act the same! When hes with me hes loving and committed and ...
A. 10 October 2010: It sounds like either you have already made up your mind, or you are just looking to vent.
Coming from somebody who has been in many emotionally abusive relationships my best advice would be to be 100 % honest about the way you feel with your boyf... (read in full...)
Bennefits of Porn
Q. Hi: I have read a lot of negative things at forums about the dangers and evil of PORN (OMG) and wish to offer my perspective on Porn. When I got caught up in Porn, it was not because something was missing in my current marriage. I just liked ...
A. 10 October 2010: I agree that porn can be a positive asset in expanding and enriching sex lives. In a relationship that sounds open and honest like yours, I feel like porn has just become another way for you to communicate be open and try new things in your ... (read in full...)
How do I get her to fall in love with me?
Q. How do I get the girl I love the most to fall deaply in love with me???? Maximum answer please......
A. 10 October 2010: You can't make anyone fall in love with you. Many have tried, few have succeeded.
Your best best is to be yourself, and be honest about the way you feel - treat her with respect, and kindness.
But while you may want to shower her with gifts an... (read in full...)
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