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writes:how in the world do you make a fwb want more sex? its frustrating because we do it every few months. thats not fun. any pointers? Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (10 October 2010):
 ...Every few MONTHS ??? Sorry my dear, you are clearly FWB no. 2 . Or 3.
In fact, to be honest, I am not sure if you could even claim the status of FWB. It sounds something less than that, and unluckily it does not give you much leverage to get more out of him.
Perhaps it's best you move to someone who makes himself more available to you.
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reader, Maria-consuela  +, writes (10 October 2010):
 There is no real solution to your problem, and no surefire way to want him "want more" action. Being a "FWB" means no attachment, no allegiences or responsibilities - I'm assuming that is why you began this agreement. Do you want more sex because you are interested in this FWB as a potential partner? Because if that is the case, it will be a difficult road moving forward. Most likely this person is totally comfortable being casual and taking it or leaving it otherwise I would assume that he would be making a push to be with you more - physically and otherwise.
The last thing you should be doing is putting yourself in a vulnerable position when the answer is right in front of you. If you want to talk to him about it, that is an option - but be prepared to hear an answer you may not want to hear, and losing the benefits all together.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (10 October 2010):
 Being a FWB, you probably don't know how much sex he's getting elsewhere or with how many different girls. He could be getting sex every night and coming to you when his other FWB's are busy or at that "time of the month". If that's the case then there's not a lot you can do besides making sex better for him... but that's a bit of a slippery slope.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (10 October 2010):
 You are a FWB, thats a "friend" to have sex with, nothing else, no emotional involvment, nothing, just sex, when he wants it.
Why be a convienient hole just waiting for somebody to need? Don't you want to be more than that to a person?
Where are the benefits for you in the FWB thing?
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