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writes:Ok, one thing I know for sure is that I'm very mature for my age, so I don't need anyone telling me I'm not in love when I know in my heart that I am. I have this boyfriend that I have been with for 1 year and 11 months and I love him to death! 3... but I also have this guy that I'v had feelings for, for about 4 years now. and Me and the other guy have starting talking again and my feelings for him are just getting stronger and more real, apart of me just sometimes wishes I could just be with him, but I know I shouldn't give up on the relationship I have with my boyfriend... oh yeah I forgot to mention that at this time in my life me and my boyfriend have been experiencing a really tough thing in our relationship, and that Idk if I should break up with him for the other guy?? I mean all this trouble in my relationship is because of him and how he can't even tell me things and how he lies, breaks promises and now my boyfriend is saying he can change, but idk If I should believe him and try to go back to the way things are. Or! if I should break up with him and see where things go with the other guy, cause I obviously know that he has feelings for me, according to all the conversations we'v had and apart of me just wants to be with the other guy but another part of me just misses being happy with my boyfriend, but this other guy is making me so happy all the time! just lifting my mood, making me feel beautiful, giving me the butterflies ! and what I really like about him is that he is more mature then my boyfriend and still fun at the same time, ahhhhh! I'm obviously torn between 2 guys and I need some advice, please? p.s - don't worry if you want to ask questions, just in case a left out something in my entry... Thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, Palmtreez17  +, writes (11 October 2010):
Well, I think you should give your current boyfriend one more chance, and if he fails that, break up. He obviously doesn't love you enough if he doesn't change. And you have known the other guy longer than you've known your current boyfriend.
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reader, Maria-consuela +, writes (11 October 2010):
 Have you ever heard the phrase "The grass is always greener..."?
It sounds like you are experiencing something along those lines. Personally I feel like you should never break up a relationship to start another one - especially if you have unfinished business within your current relationship.
It is perfectly natural to be frustrated in a current relationship and get restless, yearn to see what else is out there - but the difference is whether or not you act on this.
You may very well be better suited to be with the other man, but more than likely after being with him for a year you will run into similar problems. Try your best to sort things out with your current relationship, and if you have exhausted all of your options, maybe take a break from men all together for awhile.
It is very possible that if the other man cares about you like it seems that he does he will wait until you are ready to begin dating again.
You know when you take out the trash and the bag has a rip, sometimes leaving a trail of garbage juice on the floor? That is what you will be bringing into a new relationship if you jump into it too quickly. The left over garbage juice and resentments of your previous relationship.
I hope this is helpful, and that you find a way to resolve this. :)
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