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30-35,
anonymous
writes:So an old college 'guy' friend from last year popped up at the beginning of the month with an email on facebook. After that he text me constantly and wanted to meet me and said loads of sweet, nice things about me. I met up with them one weekend and we went to the seaside and we flirted and giggled and that and he gave me this teddy that he'd managed to get in one of them Claw Machines. He paid for the food and drink as well which I thought was nice but since then, we've hardly spoken :(. I texted him the following day saying thank you I really enjoyed myself but I got nothing, I text him the next day with just a 'Hey hope you're okay' and he replied. I'm not sure what he wants or what to make of it, but when I left him on the weekend, I was going to tell him that I had a little butterfly feeling in my stomach and when I was about to tell him he said to me 'no, don't tell me... it's a good thing' and smiled at me. Now I know he has just came out of a year and a half relationship with a girl and I think that he is on the rebound, but during a conversation with him through texts and face to face, several times when he spoke about his ex girlfriend or if I asked what happened, he would say "no, doesn't matter... it will put you off me". So does he like me or not, I'm so deeply confused. I texted him Sunday just gone saying 'You used to text me lots before we met, what happened? x' and I got nothing back. He's last text I got from him was last week some time and he called me 'babe' in it and asked if I were okay and that. He can't say that he has been busy because before we met, he always made time to text me, whether he was on his break at work or with his friends. Now I feel like I've just been dropped, I keep thinking to myself 'Have I done something wrong? Have I said anything? Was I not his 'type'? I really don't know what to make of it. I only have a crush on him, as I'm only 18 and I'm not looking for anyone to settle down with yet, I just want a little boyfriend. I've been over analyzing the situation so much I've made my self feel quite poorly :(.
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reader, Maria-consuela  +, writes (21 October 2010):
 Don't spend too much time worrying about somebody who isn't worrying enough about you -
Maybe he is still emotionally attached to his ex - maybe he isn't. Either way, he isn't giving you any clear signal or indication that he is ready for any type of commitment. His lack of consistency is a problem. He seems confused, and unable to be clear about the way he feels. Have you really had an honest conversation with him about the way you feel? Even if you don't want a serious boyfriend, you don't want a non-serious kinda boyfriend either.
Step back from the situation and let him work for your affection - don't give it to him freely when he isn't doing anything to deserve it. It will only show him that he doesn't have to put any effort in to get what he wants. Make yourself the commodity - and don't idolize him.
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reader, slimfish  +, writes (21 October 2010):
 sounds to me like he likes you but is really not sure what he wants at the moment.
he may have backed off a bit to give himself time to think. thats a good thing. the last thing he wants right now is an overly clingy girl txing him every five seconds.
play it cool for a while and he will come round to see you in his own time.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 October 2010):
 Ok dont over analize as am sure you never done anything wrong. It looks like this guy might still have feelings for his ex or maybe he is just very confused at the moment and doesnt no how he is feeling or what to do. Just dont let him use you. From now on dont contact him let him text you i know this may be hard but distract yourself when you feel the need to text him. It is obvious that he needs some space right now so i suggest giving it to him.
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