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writes:My bf is very popular with girls [in that he has many many girl mates who are always contacting him and wanting to see him]. He won't cheat and I know he loves me. But I still struggle on those downer days where you overthink everything. How can I stop this getting to me? Reply to this Question
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reader, Maria-consuela  +, writes (15 October 2010):
 If you know he wont cheat, and you trust him 100 % you have nothing to worry about.
Whenever you get these negative thoughts try to remind yourself that even in a worst case scenario anything that could possibly happen would be out of your control.
You know your relationship is solid - you can't control these other girls, but the strength of your relationship will outweigh any ammo that they have.
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reader, perfectdovez12  +, writes (15 October 2010):
 Personally i dont think you can ever stop it from getting to you. I had a boyfriend once that did the same thing, he was always sending and receiving texts from different girls and it drove me insane. I talked to him about it and told him that i didnt like how he talked to so many girls, if he cares about you he will change something. If he still doesn't understand turn the tables and give him a new situation, say "would you like it if i was texting and contacting guys all the time" he will say no and it should become clear to him what you are feeling.
good luck!! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2010): Confront him about it. tell him to help you with this situation. He will understand and start to ignore these girls and spend more time and attention to you. And on those days that get you down, just remember.. YOUR THE GIRLFRIEND, NOT THEM. YOU HAVE HIM, NOT THEM, HES NOT THEIR BOYFRIEND, HES YOURS.
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