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writes:How do i break up with my boyfriend of 6 years? I love him so much but he never listens to me, and he walks all over me! He thinks just cause his friends are single and worthless lol he can act the same! When hes with me hes loving and committed and when hes with his friends he acts pretty much single, Im pretty much over it i hate that i have to break up with him but he just doesn't care that it hurts my feelings when he acts like this :( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2010): This is very familiar to me. My boyfriend of 9 years started acting the same way. It seemed that all of a sudden I went from #1 priority to #120. It sucks!!! He started spending more time with his single friends instead of me. What I realized was that he had checked out of our relationship. It still took a awhile for us to finally split but when we finally did it was like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. I had build such a huge resentment towards him for making me feel like i didn't matter. I had felt like everything and everyone else was so much more important to him than me for such a long time.
There's a reason why people act the way they do. If you dig a little deeper you'll find your answer.
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reader, Maria-consuela  +, writes (10 October 2010):
 It sounds like either you have already made up your mind, or you are just looking to vent.
Coming from somebody who has been in many emotionally abusive relationships my best advice would be to be 100 % honest about the way you feel with your boyfriend. Tell him that you don't like to be treated this way, that you don't deserve it, and that you wont stand to be 2nd best to his friends. Lay your cards on the table and make sure he hears you loud and clear.
Set a time limit - maybe a month or two. If you don't feel like changes have been made for the better, or some effort has been put in - walk away. You said your peace, and gave him a chance. After 6 years if he hasn't changed, chances are slim that he will - and you don't want to waste another 6 years waiting for him to love you the way to deserve to be loved.
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