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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I watch porn movies and magazines together but I recently discovered a magazine that wasn't porn, just women,I feel more hurt because it wasn't porn and he hid it from me. Am I wrong in feeling this way?
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reader, Lizz +, writes (26 August 2007):
 All I can say is that men will be men. If the two of you watch dirty movies together he may have thought dirty mags were acceptable as well. Many men across america own nudie mags and have healthy relationships with their wives/girlfriends. Although, if the thought of him looking at other women in magazines disturbs you then by all means talk to him about it. I'm sure he'll learn to live w/o them if it's putting a stint in your relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2007): Yes and no. And the only reason I say yes is because you kind of went along with this whole looking at porn thing with him. So that makes him think that it is ok for him to look at that kind of stuff with or without you. You see what I mean? He figures you are ok with it anyways.
Like when I first met my bf he had these magazines of girls in it in his bathroom. And I never said anything about it just because he had them before he met me. But I know that he never got any new magazines since I have been with him (cause he knows I wouldn't be ok with that). And he has never preferred looking at those magazines to having sex with me. Since he already had them and our sex life was great I just didn't say anything.
I think that if he got this magazine since he has known you (and you can tell by looking at the date of it) then I would be pissed. But if it is just an old magazine that he had from before he met you, then I wouldn't worry about it.
But if it is new, like I said, maybe you are just trying to be too open minded about looking at porn and he obviously is taking it to mean that it is ok for him to buy and look at this stuff with or without you.
In that case you should clarify to him that you are actually not as open minded as he may think and that you actually do have limits about his porn/magazine habits.
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reader, Richard_EMids  +, writes (26 August 2007):
 You are both human.He is not wrong to look and you are not wrong to feel hurt. So don't fall out over it.
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reader, Bing +, writes (26 August 2007):
No you shouldn't. What was it FHM, Loaded or Playboy or something? Maybe he was just reading it for the articles.:)
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (26 August 2007):
 Hi
Not really. If it bothers you, then it bothers you.
Have you asked him about it?
C xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2007): No your not wrong, you probably feel hurt because your comfortable with watching porn with him but when he's hidden something it makes you think 'Why's he done this?'
I don't understand what magazine it is if it's just women. Could you explain a bit more please. I think you should just ask him about it and tell him you feel hurt and why. He might of forgotten about the magazine and it could just be an innocent mistake.
Good Luck xx
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