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writes:hi, i've been seeing a married man, we've known each other for 16 years, but we started talking again 6 months ago and hit it off straight away, we fancied each other all those years ago but never acted on it, until now.We've spoken about how things are, he can't leave his family as his children are still so young, which i completley understand, and we've only been seeing each other for a little time, i've fallen in love with him and he has falen in love with me. i speak to him everyday, but i rarley see him.I just don't know what to do! carry on with this situation or get out of it?He's the best thing that has happened to me in a very long time and i'm really confused as to what to do.
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reader, lena1  +, writes (23 November 2008):
 The only advice I can tell you is don't waste your life with this man. You are still young and you still have a long life in front of you. I am sure one day you will find someone you love more.The relationship you are in is impossible.He is living his normal life and you are staying there in waiting. Don't waste your time.good luck
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reader, Lizz +, writes (23 November 2008):
 run run run run run run run run run!!!!!!Girl, if he'd cheat on his wife to be with you then what makes you so special that he wouldn't do the same to you?He has a FAMILY. You're not part of it. You don't want to be labeled a HOMEWRECKER. Let it alone, girl. Go find your own man and stop trying to take someone else's.You may have known him and all of this, but it's a big big big mess. Take if from someone who has been there before. Let it alone, girl.
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reader, Reesey +, writes (23 November 2008):
Get out and run, this man wants his cake and eat it to. Every year will be another excuse why things cannot change. Trust me if you do not want to be in a situation you would not be.I had a friend that cheated on her first husband a lot. Her last affair she fell in love and left her husband, that man did not want her. She did married again but again she is back cheating on him. People cheat because something is missing in their life and they are not happy with themself. Take my advice move on and find someone that could give you the happiness.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (23 November 2008):
I know it's nice to be in love and very honourable for him to want to stick with his kids but just have a read of this woman's situation:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/he-cut-contact-with-me-and-our-son.html
You will never have him, you will always be his bit of sex on the side and he will always love you slightly less than he does his family.
I really think this is not a situation you want to be in.
He'll tell you he loves you and wishes he could be with you, but on Christmas day, you'll be the one alone, while he has lots of family fun and a big meal.
It's hard but walk away before you get hurt.
Good Luck!! xx
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