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writes:Well I have a question about my bf. Well we had been dating for about a month or so and we fell for each other and soon after were having sex. The usual. Whatever. Anyways, one time I was at his house and I was sitting across from him on his couch and I guess I was doing something and when I looked over at him I noticed he was like in a trance staring at my breasts (I was wearing a shirt) but he had this look on his face like real serious and like he was getting some sexual gratification from looking at me while I was right there and not even paying attention. And when he noticed that I looked at him he looked away really quickly and I guess tried to play it off. Like he was doing it secretly, like a voyeur. The point is the whole thing made me feel kind of uncomfortable.I am not a prude or anything and we had been having sex before that happened. I have been with other guys and no one had ever done that before. And the fact that he got embarrassed, it just made me feel weird. It is really hard to explain cause I am very sexual and open about sex, but I felt like a object and worse I felt like I wasn't a part of it, like he was doing it "behind my back" or like secretly.Does anyone find this weird?
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reader, Reina +, writes (28 August 2007):
Girl that's normal. You just haven't caught any of the other guys doing it, but believe me they did. Don't be alarmed, your man just finds you really hot! You should revel in making his cheeks go red. haha
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reader, duce00 +, writes (28 August 2007):
 Not to be crude but it sounds like you have nice breasts. He was probably admiring them and slipped off into fantasy land then... BLAMO! He got snapped back into reality like a bucket of cold water when he got caught. He was simply embarrased. I forget the statistic but its somthing like every 5 mins a guy thinks about sex. You should feel flattered that you are the source of his sexual fantasies.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (25 August 2007):
 The man finds you unbearably hot. That's the explanation to it. Maybe he looked away so you wouldn't think you're a pervert, like jm81690 says, and, also, because he felt sort of embarrased. Don't worry.
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reader, Cupids angles  +, writes (25 August 2007):
You will find that most guys, if not all, stare at their girlfriends breast at least once, men stare at others girls breasts too. This is kind of weird but i wouldn't worry about it. If you dont like it then just sit down with him and tell him that you feel uncomfortable with it and he may stop doing it. You obviously love him and him to you but if he knows how uncomfortable you feel about it all then im sure he will stop.
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reader, LadyKeylon +, writes (25 August 2007):
Well I would say if there is a next time walk over and stick them in his face! At least then you will be participating! Or for that matter make a show of it, the looking and the watching are half the fun, it builds the anticipation for the touching! We all have fantasies, even though some people are afraid to admit to the fact that they 'like to watch'. Anyway, let him know how you feel don't just leave it unsaid maybe this is a new side of each other for you to explore!
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reader, Lizz +, writes (25 August 2007):
 Wow, that does seem strange. First and foremost you need to talk to him about it. Communication is key to a healthy happy relationship. It may sound gross, but maybe he likes to pleasure himself. It's good that he would rather pleasure himself while looking at you rather than porn, but there is a time and place for everything and the partner should at least know what's going on. Since he was embarrassed/ashamed of it when you discovered what he was doing you need to be careful when asking him about it. Make sure to tell him up front what you need to talk to him about and that you are not judging him and only would like to know his fantasies and play a more active role in them. You could, for example, offer to pose for him willingly in the future and in a more suitable place (like the bedroom).
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reader, 15 and worried  +, writes (25 August 2007):
Hey babe don't worry about it. You're probably beautiful and guys like the visual satisfaction of a woman. The whole "secretive" thing I'm not sure that's what he was trying to get at exactly but even if he was do you remember back when you were a teenager and your parents forbid you to do something and how much fun it was to break the rules just for the fact that you were doing it secretivly well anyways don't think it's weird he's probably just very attracted to you and your body
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reader, jm81690 +, writes (25 August 2007):
 It is kind of weird, but not all that weird.
Basically he was gawking at your breasts and when he noticed that you noticed he decided it was best to look away so you wouldnt think he was a perv.
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