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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2010): the short answer before meg2989 just made me laugh genuinly. might sound harsh, but it's true: the pain to bring up a baby when you're 16 must be huge compared to the few hours of labor or whatever. once you get the baby, that's it. your life is over. you have to attend the baby 100%, 24 7. i can imagine it is hard for a woman to do that at 28 or 30. i don't want imagine at 16. all i can tell you is, God bless you. be positive and think that everything happens for a reason
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reader, meg2989 +, writes (17 January 2010):
 I am going to be giving birth shortly to a baby boy... if he EVER decides to comeout! I only have one more week or so before I'm induced lol. But yes I have heard, and am prepared for a world of pain. My friend told me when her sister had her baby, the worst part for her was the shoulders, because its the widest part of the baby and once the shoulders are out the rest is easy, the body just kind of "slides out" was the way she put it. So basically after the shoulders, the rest is easy. But its labor, the contrations that increase while you are dialating that take a lot ot of you. Epidurals, I've been told, help you to rest during labor (between contractions and while dialating), but you feel it when the baby's coming out, definitly. You can expect it to be painful, but the way I see it is women are still having children, if it was really THAT horrible, there wouldn't be as many having babies. ( I'm not saying it doesn't hurt, i KNOW it does) But there is also the gift of a beautiful baby after. It is going to be hardwork raising two babies at sixteen. I mean I'm almost twenty one and I think this baby is going to be difficult. So best wishes to you and to two healthy babies. Good luck, and walk as much as you can because its supposed to help labor. ( moves it along faster) I hope it actually does, because I walked a mile today and my backs killing me!!! lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2010): The pain you'll feel at birth is nothing compared to the pain that raising 2 kids at 16 is going to bring... you can be on drugs for the birth, but not for their lives... way to go.
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reader, Lizz +, writes (16 January 2010):
 Well, sweetheart, yes it does hurt, but don't be afraid. You have several options for pain management while in labor. I had an epidural when I had my little one and it helped so much. It was the worst pain I've endured thus far in my life, but it was worth it. I wouldn't trade my little girl for the world.
You are very young to become a mother. I do hope you have a solid support group of friends or family members to aid you in the delivery room. I took prenatal classes and read up on everything I could find about pregnancy and labor. I highly suggest you do the same. It helps to be knowledgeable in every aspect possible about what you are about to endure. It is also a good idea to get some information on teenage parenthood and find any local support groups for teen mothers.
Keep your head up, congratulations, and good luck!
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reader, Redd_Extacy +, writes (16 January 2010):
 Of course,you're giving birth...but you will survive..you'll be happy when your kids are here because you do get tired of being pregnant in those last wks..the pain is the least you should be worried about..1 baby is VERY hard work and you're having two..its goin to be very hard so read parenting books and try to attend some classes...I'm expecting 2 :)
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (16 January 2010):
 The simple answer is yes there is quite a bit of pain involved in natural child birth. But that isn't the whole story. There are natural and medical methods to help manage the pain. Your body has it's own defense against the pain. They say that it is necessary for your body to help you to forget the pain with endorphins so you will agree to have more children. My feeling is that the joy of bringing new life into the world balances out the pain. Some good news for you is that twins tend to be smaller, and therefore easier to deliver.
So much for the answer, now for the advice. I know that you didn't ask for advice.
You seem young, alone and scared. This is not something you can do alone. Along with your doctor you need family and friend support. Take the classes that your local hospital offers. Oh there is so much to say but, I don't know your situation. If you have no partner you will need to choose a labor coach to be with you through the whole pregnancy. It can be a friend or relative. Personality is important. Trust is more important. They need to be very reliable. You should pick someone who you can work with at your very worst.
I'm sure the women will have more practical help for you.
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