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writes: I'm freaked out a bit. I share a room w/ 2 brothers - a 19 year old and a 16 year old. I'm 17 and female. Last night, i felt someone near my bed, and it felt like someone wanted to sleep w/ me. I had my blanket over me... and i opened my eyes slightly to see who it was, and I THINK it was my older brother. If I remember correctly, he had one leg on the ground, and on leg across my thighs. It was so scary, I'm sure I mumbled "what are you doing?? get awayy..." It was loud enough to make him say "shh, damn, fine..." I wasn't fully awake but I was definitely aware because right before I dozed off to sleep 10 seconds later, in my mind I was going 'i gotta mention this tomorrow to him and ask who was next to my bed...'(just to make sure I wasn't delusional - even though my older brother is making it out to be!) Was my brother so horny that night that he attempted to dry hump me or something?!?!?!This was the first time too. I asked the next day(today) if either of them were near my bed and my little brother gave logical reasons on WHY he didn't come near my bed(i believe him). And my older one just denied and diverted it back to my little brother. It's making me suspicious, not sure how to handle it... other than brushing it off and hope that it won't happen again.I know I'm definitely in love with boys, but my brother has had the time to have a social life considering he's been working so much lately. Is this normal having a brother who is POSSIBLY attracted to me(lately, he's been receiving compliments, not about him!,but about me from his friends and adults who we work w/... not sure if that plays a role in this.) I personally think he needs to go out and date, but he's not doing so hot in the social interactions part of life. Lots of questions, sorry. Thanks for the help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2007): You need to get this sorted out, he's old enough to be able to control himself and if I was you, I would sleep in the living room or demand he did. OR tell your parents and leave your brother so ashamed he won't do it again.
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reader, duce00  +, writes (26 August 2007):
 I'd listen to Liz!
Shes totally right. Boys have raging hormones at that age and are very prone to poor sexual decisions. I never made really bad mistakes in my youth but as a grown man I can atest to how difficult it is to deal with that kind of sex drive at that age. Frankly it sucks!
As for you: First off, dont ever let any man touch your body without your consent. I think that you can forget the consent part when it comes to family though. Thats a great big no no. Dont take this lightly and dont be afraid to deal with it. If you really have problems there are people and places you can turn to be safe. I hope for your sake this doesnt escalate.
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reader, Lizz +, writes (26 August 2007):
 First of all, it is unfortunate that you don't have your own personal space at your age. Secondly, this is an issue that should not be taken lightly. Teenage boys have raging hormones and do not always know how to deal with them. You need to tell your parents now. Just because he is your brother does not mean he will not harm you. It is obvious that your brother chooses not to communicate with you on this issue and would like it to remain a "figment of your imagination." If your parents do nothing then you need to contact someone who can help you. Do it before this escalates into a more serious issue!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionour apartment only has 2 rooms. My older one use to sleep in the living room, but it was constantly loud because of the t.v so he couldn't take it, and now sleeps in my room(w/ my younger brother). I don't' mind because all we only used it for sleep and hw. should i talk to my older brother alone and ask again to see if i can get a better answer?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2007): hi,im quite confused as to why you are sleeping in the same room as your teenage brothers,it isnt normal behaviour,i myself have 7 boys an a daughter whom is 11yrs an for her to share a bedroom with her brothers,whom are older and younger does`nt even come into conversation let alone our thoughts,she has to have her own room,its the way i was brought up, girls only an boys only rooms.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2007): Hi, I think i understand some of the confusion you feel. I had a similar situation, but I was only a child (as was my brother he was about 11). It was a relatively innocent thing, but I kept waking up to find him standing by my bed many times in the night - it scared me more than anything. It was the first flushes of hormones for my brother, a confusing time for any kid, so it is different to your adult brother.don't doubt yourself. Be firm with your brother, tell him he needs to back down and go and sort out his sexual urges another way. Your his sister - he should be looking out for you, not taking advantage of you. Be kind, but be firm. You need to feel safe in your own home. Is it possible for you to sleep in another room? even with your parents. If you can, I suggest you talk to your parents about it with your brother. Openess is key.
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