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He and I both came from messed up abusive families so we understand a lot more than people think. I've always been told that I look to young and act to old lol. I've always been told that I should become a counsilor. However, my dreams lie with photography and bridal consulting.
Dont get me wrong I do enjoy helping people as much as I can, I just dont think I should get paid for it, to hipocritical(sp?) I think is the right word.
So feel free to ask any question to me personally and I'll do my best to help.
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How long does it take for hormone level to return to normal after pregnancy?
Q. Have a quetion that's not really a relationship question but would like answers please! I was wondering if anyone knows how long it take for your hormon leavel to get back to normal after having a baby? The reason is my daughter is 2 1/2 months old, ...
A. 6 July 2009: I dont know exactly what to say here, but um I'd sugest taking another test I mean it wouldnt hurt anything right? Did you just take one test to begin with? 'cause my mom recently got her tubes tied and she took like 4 tests before 'cause she hadnt ... (read in full...)
Tan blondes or Fair blondes? Which do you honestly find more attractive?
Q. I was told by a one of my guy friends that I would be much more attractive if I had darker skin. I have naturally light blonde hair and blue eyes and my skin is very fair. I am not white and pale like a ghost but I am not tan either. He told me I ...
A. 6 July 2009: Dont worry about what your friend said. Do what YOU think looks good. If you like being tan, then tan. If you like your skin fair then stay fair. It doesnt matter what others think, what matters is what you think. As some say the most attractive ... (read in full...)
Should I take the baby and go?
Q. Been with my boyfriend almost two years. Its not been happy because i moved 2000 miles for him. And we now have a baby together. Im not happy and hes secretly cyber cheating on me. He doesnt think i know. Whats the best advice? Should i keep trying ...
A. 6 July 2009: You need to talk to him. Figure out why you guys arent happy and see if you can or even want to fix it. Were you guys un-happy before the move? Or did it just start afterwards? 'cause if you werent happy to begin with then maybe it just wasnt ment ... (read in full...)
Married a military man, and he doesn't seem to have time for me
Q. Please help me. A couple of years ago after a bad divorce I met a wonderful man in the Army. We dated and kept in touch via phone calls and email for about a year and a half. Finally, we decided to take a more permanent step in our relationship ...
A. 23 April 2009: I once found a myspace sticker that says "the Army is my husbands mistress and sometimes that bitch gets all the attention." It is SOO true! Dont think your doing anything wrong or that you guys are compatible. It's just hard transfering from a ... (read in full...)
Being forced to do things on a webcam
Q. my boyfriend and i are long distance. he asks me to do things on webcam that i feel uncomfortable doing but i think if i dont then i'll loose him. i still dont do it. but idk what to do. if i had the confidence yeah i would. but i dont and when i ...
A. 11 April 2009: DONT DO IT!! It's so not worth it. If he isnt willing to let it go and will leave you if you dont, then he isnt the guy for you. Remember, EVERYthing you put on the internet even if you think it's secure, is available to anyone who has interest or ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any advice or even experience of having a baby while with someone in a long distance relationship???
Q. My girlfriend of 2 years and I are in a distance relationship. I am 34 and she 32 years old. We see each other every weekend and are very close. We would both far prefer living together but despite hard efforts I am not doing well in getting a job ...
A. 17 March 2009: Having a baby in a long distance relationship is NOT easy. My husband is in South Carolina and I'm clear across the states in Oregon. We have an almost 10 month old little girl and it's quite challenging not having both parents around all the time. ... (read in full...)
Husband has went into the military and I am suffering from separation anxiety!
Q. I'm having some issues. My husband has been away at BCT (Basic Training or Boot Camp) for 2 weeks. I know it hasnt been that long, but it feels like a month already. I thought I could rely on the comfort of family while he was away, but instead I'm ...
A. 1 March 2009: thanks guys I appreciate the help! Um, part of the problem is that I cant move to base until after he's done training. So I'm stuck at home. I know if I was on base or at least around other military wives it would be easier...it's just I'm not. I c... (read in full...)
He wants a "settled adult relationship" what does that mean?
Q. ok so im 17, ive been going out with a guy who is 20 now for bout 2 and a half months, hes not the most outgoing of people and he is a bit shy, we havent had sex yet (neither of us are virgins) but nows hes talking about he wants a settled adult ...
A. 19 February 2009: talk to him. Maybe he's looking for that special someone to settle down with (as in get married). Or he could be talking about a full on relationship with sex and all. The only way to find out is to talk to him about it, no matter how hard it ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant, boyfriend doesn't understand I want an appartment of my own...
Q. Me and my boyfriend has been living together for almost 1 yr now. I do love him, but I think we should get seperate apts. I dont want to break up with him but he thinks I does. By the way, I am 7 months pregnant with my first child, his second ...
A. 25 January 2009: I'd recomend sticking it out until the baby is born. You could just be feeling this way 'cause your pg. If you have the baby and you still feel this way, then ya get your own place. But at least rule out all options first if that makes sense. Make ... (read in full...)
Will I know when my water breaks?
Q. how will i know if my water breaks?? i know this is dumb, but how will i know if my water breaks? my mom told me you will just know, but can you feel it? whats it feel like?? how will i know i didnt just have an accident?...
A. 15 January 2009: You will definitely know. I was always worried about taking a bath or shower or something and not know if my water broke. Well I ended up having to have my pregnancy induced, when the nurse went to give me another pill she accidently broke my water, ... (read in full...)
Don't know what I want to do with my life!
Q. Ok to start how about a little insite to my life so far, as to better (hopefully) understand me. I'm a 19 yr old mother. I've been married for a yr and a half now. I'm only 5' 3" and weight 131 on my bathroom scale. I wasnt supposed to be a...
A. 5 January 2009: thanks for the advice and I'll take them into consideration!
I just want to be able to choose one (or 2) thing and be the best I can be at it (them)...actually accomplish/focus on something. Something that later my kids will look up to me for or m... (read in full...)
He's not the one for me? What do I do?
Q. I need help the man I love so much is not about shit, I bought his something real nice for x-mas and I didn't get any thing,two days after he gave me a card with money in it,but he ask me to pay a bill and he would give it back to me when he made ...
A. 4 January 2009: I'd say find out WHO that girl is! If he's not showing effection towards you...and you find txt's from another girl...you really need to figure out if this girl isnt just a "friend". I'm sorry but personally it sounds like he's seeing someone ... (read in full...)
Yeast infection from antibiotics?
Q. Recently I've been taking antibiotics on and off. I've taken them 5 times in a 3 month period. (I was really sick and I didn't know what was wrong with me, turns out I might have chronic sinitus) Anyway, since about 2 weeks ago my vagina has been ...
A. 4 January 2009: you really need to go see a doctor to make sure it is a yeast infection. If it is, just eat yogurt and drink lots of cranberry juice for a couple weeks. Should clear up. If not take the antibiotics your doc will proscribe you when you find out if it ... (read in full...)
15 & prego?
Q. i am 15 and i think i might be prego. i can't tell anyone cuz i know they will all dis-own me and thats a fact i honestly don't know know how this happen ... i just need to know because i haven't had my peroid in like a month or 2 im real scared...
A. 4 January 2009: take a test. That's only way your going to find out. You can get it done free and descreatly at Planned Parent hood, or sometime when your out by yourself go to dollar store and get one. You need to find out, then go from there. Who know's maybe ... (read in full...)
Once a week she has a break down about how crap her life is - it's not even that bad!
Q. Hello, I'm writing today becouse I really don't know what to do at this point. Iv'e been in a serious relationship for about 4 months. (She's 22 I'm 29) I really love this girl and I know she feels the same way. The problem is she'll be fine for a ...
A. 4 January 2009: ok, there could be a lot of things going on. First off, sometimes hormones actually set a girls emotions off. There's not really anything anyone could do there aside from maybe ask a doctor about it, and get her to realize what she's doing.
A... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with this much older man?
Q. ok i dont no if i should be with my man. he is older and say he loves me. he told me that he wouldnt change a thing about me, and latly he has changed. before it was all dirty, but he is now calling beautiful and other things that r really sweet. a...
A. 4 January 2009: ok for starters...your pretty young to be having to worry about sex. Plus, if you arent even comfortable about saying the word (even online) and have to say "do it", it's a good indicater your not ready yet. AND THAT's OK!
You have to think ab... (read in full...)
Am I being to selfish for wanting him home with us rather than following his dream??
Q. AHH! I dont know what to do! My heart is torn in 2 right now. My husband just told me like 5 min. after new year mark that he is going to join the army! I want him to follow his dreams and I know this is what he wants but I'm so scared! We've ...
A. 1 January 2009: thanks guys. I have talked with him and he's been playing with the idea since I met him. I know he really wants to do this...I'm just scared. We've already lost several good friends...and I cant bear to think of loosing him.
I told him exactly how ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant... I want to get an abortion but don't know where to go. What are my options?
Q. I'm a college freshman and I just found out I'm 7 weeks pregnant. The father is a frat guy who I had a one night stand with. He doesn't know, and I know he wouldn't want to have anything to do with it. I'm thinking of getting an abortion since I ...
A. 1 January 2009: have you maybe thought of just giving the child up for adoption? There are tons of families that cant have kids but want them, you'd be doing a lot of favors. Plus, you'll proly learn a lot from going through the process too. I'd really recomend ... (read in full...)
She doesn't want to have sex/tatoo should I drop her?
Q. Hi can you help me out. My friends 8 of us have decided to go out on the town and have tatoo's done. Also we are all trying to get laid. However my best friend Susan is not coming and says we are all dim wits. Should i remain friends with her? ...
A. 28 December 2008: she's being smart and respecting herself, maybe you should think about doing the same? Ask yourself: Am I really this desperate? Why am doing this? When it's my time to die will I be proud of myself? Will I regret this later? ect ect, then ... (read in full...)
Other than diets, exercising and starving myself how else can I lose weight?
Q. Hello, I'm new to this site and just had one main question if you could help I would really love it. Well to start I'm 16 years old. I weigh 130 About. I'm just under 5 ft. To me I'm am fat although my family and friends say I'm normal. Plus for...
A. 27 November 2008: Hey, starving yourself is like the worst thing to do. Yes it does loose weight fast, but it can soon cause a lot of health problems which is something not worth the starvation for. What I found that has worked so far for me (since I had my daughter... (read in full...)
I don't think I love my husband anymore! Help!
Q. Hi I feel sick and utterly alone not being able to talk to anyone about my marriage. There is nobody I feel I can be absolutely honest with and the one person I should do my husband I don't want to hurt. We have been married 9 years and have 4...
A. 27 November 2008: Maybe you feel you dont love him 'cause you dont really know him anymore? I mean you truly dont get to spend time with just him between work and the kids. Which isnt anyone's fault just a fact of life. But that means you guys dont get any quality ... (read in full...)
Baby fever
Q. I don't know if this is normal or natural, but I really want to have a baby. I'm only 18 not financially stable, I have a flat to pay for but I can't stop thinking about babies. I haven't been with my boyfriend all that long but my broodine...
A. 27 November 2008: first off, dont worry! It's normal. For the longest time (since I was 16) I had the same issue.
The best thing to do is talk with the person your in a relationship with and see where their head is about kids. Then sit back and think about all the ... (read in full...)
I am thinking about suggesting to her about maybe involving other men so she gets satisfied but how do I go about this.
Q. Let me start by saying I love my wife so much but we have a little problem. We have had 3 great children and as things happen my wife is larger down below. I only have a small penis just under 5 inches, now we know that is not enough in that d...
A. 27 November 2008: dude, I hate to say it but size aint everything. So what if you have a small penis? There are sooo many ways out there to please her without having to have a large penis. Plus to be honest, she aint be to faithful to you or truly caring about your ... (read in full...)
My period came twice this month and I'm really worried that I could be pregnant!
Q. Hi, I am 16 years old and I had my period twice this month :/ first on the 2nd of November and it lasted like 7/8 days and again yesterday on the 25th of November.. :/.. I am scared that I could be pregnant because on the internet I found you can be ...
A. 27 November 2008: I agree with the first poster. It would be a true shock if your pg. Normally when someone has more than one period it's because of a hormonal inbalance or reaction to something you have either eatin/drank/or taken. It could also be from stress. I ... (read in full...)
Help please, I just found out I'm pregnant.
Q. Hi there, Here is my situation. I am 20 married to a great guy, (but we have had a lot of troubles in the past) I have just been accepted into medical school, and a hall of residence which I am really excited about. It is also 3 hours away from m...
A. 20 November 2008: Why couldnt you do both? I mean yes, having a child is a HUGE responsibily and takes a lot of time/work. I know I am 19 with a 6 month old. However, you need your schooling too and your off on a great start! I know for a fact that people do make it ... (read in full...)
I'm married to him now but can't stop thinking am I as good as his ex?
Q. This has been bugging me for over 4 years now. I can't get it out of my head and I even break down crying sometimes 'cause of it. I need help! To start, my husband and I have been married for about a year and half now. We have a beautiful baby g...
A. 8 November 2008: yes I believe he loves me, he trys so hard to make me happy. He says I love you like a hundred times a day. I think my biggest issue is that I know she is a great person, and his family loves her so much more than me, and his family and most of our ... (read in full...)
I'm married to him now but can't stop thinking am I as good as his ex?
Q. This has been bugging me for over 4 years now. I can't get it out of my head and I even break down crying sometimes 'cause of it. I need help! To start, my husband and I have been married for about a year and half now. We have a beautiful baby g...
A. 8 November 2008: how is this an obsession??? and I've tried counciling when I was put in Foster care...didnt do squat. Thanks for the advice though... (read in full...)
I dumped the love of my life and want him back more than anything!
Q. ok so i dumped the love of my life. i love him so much and im the one that got hurt really bad. i cried for four hours straight, so for awhile i was with another guy and trying to get over him didnt work so i dumped that guy to go out with the love ...
A. 8 November 2008: talk to him. Comunication is the key to most things. Just tell him why you broke up with him, and that it was a total mistake. Tell him how you truly feel about him and find a way to prove him.
If he still wont take you back, then dont worry ab... (read in full...)
I'm married to him now but can't stop thinking am I as good as his ex?
Q. This has been bugging me for over 4 years now. I can't get it out of my head and I even break down crying sometimes 'cause of it. I need help! To start, my husband and I have been married for about a year and half now. We have a beautiful baby g...
A. 8 November 2008: thanks guys for the support. I really apreciate it!
I have talked with my husband over and over again...I just cant seem to stop thinking this way though.
I mean, he was my fist at everything...and I know he still loves her a bit. I've had tim... (read in full...)
How should I give her my gift?
Q. Hey, I have this romantic kind of way of asking a girl to be with me. I plan to draw a picture of her and writing on it "Be mine?". But I don't know how to give it to her? Any suggestions would be appreciated....
A. 4 November 2008: I saw someone do this one time, and thought it was kinda cute.
This guy did something similar to you, except he had a poem with her name and reason why he liked her. He walked by her and sorta triped both her and himself and dropping their book... (read in full...)
She yelled at me and accused me of cheating. It's only a picture!!
Q. Is this cheating? I have a picture of a female musician on my binder. It's a normal picture, not one where she's half naked or in a slutty pose. Girlfriend: Who's that woman? Me: That's a musician I like. Girlfriend: Do you think she's pretty? Me...
A. 4 November 2008: ok ok, I see what's going on here. I'm a female and I used to do that all the time when my boyfriend (husband) had similar things.
It's a self asteem thing. She's proly afraid that your going to start liking someone, anyone, better than her and ... (read in full...)
Got into a fight protecting myself and my girlfriend, who was in the wrong?
Q. all im asking is who is in the wrong? and if it happend to you, would you do the same? if not, then what would you do differently? me and my girlfriend was on the front of my house speaking with 2 friends when 2 boys from 2 houses away w...
A. 14 September 2008: *clap clap* you DID the right thing. They are the ones who came at you and your girlfriend while you guys were pretty much minding your own buisness...it's not like you started it. Plus after they came at you you didnt get all bully like you just ... (read in full...)
Men and multiple orgasms?
Q. i have a question one of my friends claimed to have given head to some guy and got him to cum 3 times in the same session. she said she just swallows and keeps going. she told me it was longest about 50 mins. im wondering if that is possible beca...
A. 14 September 2008: I dont know about giving a blowjob...but I do know it is possible for a guy to cum more than ones (my husband has) it just takes longer each to get to that point each time Hope that answered your question!... (read in full...)
My partner went to prison for attacking me and then I had an affair. Should I break up our family for this guy?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend (let's call him John) for 5 years, we have 2 children together. Last year he went to prison for 4 months for attacking me . I held out and was faithful to him but since he's been home I just don't fancy him. We n...
A. 14 September 2008: In my opinion, you should NOT stay with your husband. Not because of this other guy, but for the safty and happiness of you and your children. No man should ever hurt his family in any way. Plus (I could be wrong but) it sounds like he's cheating on ... (read in full...)
How can I stop gagging when giving Blow Jobs?
Q. My husband and I have been married for over a year now. He REALLY likes it when I give him a blow job...my only problem is I gag. I cant help it, it's not the fact that his cock is in my mouth, it's the fluids...even just pre-cum. For some reason ...
A. 10 September 2008: thank you so much for the ideas and suggestions!!! I will put them to use and see what happens! THANK YOU!... (read in full...)
I fear that he will leave me and find someone else! What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been going out for a year now. he has started an aprentaship and goes to collage 3 times a week but soon it will only be once a week. I love him so much and as he is two years older than me i am scared he wwill find some1 ...
A. 9 September 2008: I understand what your going through. Sometimes I still worry that my husband will leave me for his ex. But the best thing you can do, is relax and trust him. I know it aint easy, and sometimes you'll still think about it...but the more time goes by ... (read in full...)
She has a family history of cheating women! How can I stop thinking she will cheat on me too?
Q. Im a 29 year old male, and I have been currently dating a woman for over a year. We hit it off when we met so we ended up moving in together. Life hasn't been better!!! But I find myself thinking about the following quite a bit, How can I get it out ...
A. 9 September 2008: it's totally understandable to feel that way.
The best thing you can do is trust her. If she truly like(and/or loves) you then she wont cheat on you.
People do stupid things, but that's the only way we can learn in life. To do something stupid i... (read in full...)
What's the best way to tell him "I love you"?
Q. hey ive been with my partner for about a year unoffically and about 5 months offically and i think im ready now to tell him that i love him but we havent said it to each other before... we have both said it in a jokey way or said it and then real...
A. 9 September 2008: The first time I said it to my husband I was leaning on him on his mom's couch. He was watching t.v. and I was doing homework...I looked up at him and was going to ask a question but for some reason couldnt. I just watched him for a moment and he ... (read in full...)
How do I conquer my fears before they conquer my relationship?
Q. This is so similar to the way i feel. Im extremley jealous of my boyfriends ex, not to mention im the jealous type period. They were together on and off since 5th grade (currently 21). They accomplished soo much together. They went to their prom...
A. 9 September 2008: I know EXACTLY what your going through. My husband was engaged to another girl before we got together. We were friends while they were together, and I was always a bit jelouse of there relationship...I mean they were tight as can be!!! But like a ... (read in full...)
I met some sex people at a Cancun club and can't get it out of my head!
Q. So about a week ago while in Cancun on vacation with a friend I was at Cocobongo when this very attractive woman gave me a stare from across the room. This is when I should have known something was up, after all there were about 2,500 people in this ...
A. 9 September 2008: answer:
1) some guys like to see their mate or "other half" in pleasure but cant please them themselves for one reason or another. Like say they physically cant due to a medical condition, or just cant seem do things he or she likes...
2)Kinda g... (read in full...)
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