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writes: Been with my boyfriend almost two years. Its not been happy because i moved 2000 miles for him. And we now have a baby together. Im not happy and hes secretly cyber cheating on me. He doesnt think i know. Whats the best advice? Should i keep trying or take the baby and go? Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, littlemomma +, writes (6 July 2009):
You need to talk to him. Figure out why you guys arent happy and see if you can or even want to fix it. Were you guys un-happy before the move? Or did it just start afterwards? 'cause if you werent happy to begin with then maybe it just wasnt ment to be. OR if it didnt start till after the move..it's probably just the pressure of being new parents and being apart. Trust me I know long distance relationships are hard, my husbands a soldier. I also know though that no matter how hard it is when I do get to see him, especially with our daughter, it's all worth it. You need to do what's right for you and the baby. If your both happier not being together then you need to split up. That baby needs to grow up in a happy environment. It doesnt matter if your rich or poor, single or married. As long as you are happy and you know your doing your best as a parent that's all that matters. That child will learn to go after his or her dreams ONLY if you do. If you stay un-happy then the child will grown up, un-happy.Do what you feel is right by your heart, just first try and talk to your boyfriend about it. Tell him how you feel and listen to how he feels. If when you guys talk and you find you do still have feelings for one another, then keep fighting for that. If you find that you dont have feelings for each other, then come to a mutual understanding and call it off...at least for now.Well I hope I helped at least a tad bit. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): well tell him u know about what he has been doing and ask him why try to fix things since you do have a kid together and tell him your feelings
i hope everything works oout :)
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