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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:ok i dont no if i should be with my man. he is older and say he loves me. he told me that he wouldnt change a thing about me, and latly he has changed.before it was all dirty, but he is now calling beautiful and other things that r really sweet. and he bought me a bear for chrimas and named it after my favorite food.but when i kiss him, there isnt a spark. i like him in all, but i want to like him alot. i think he is so awesome!!! and he is older, like illeagal older!!! but i like him.so im going to go to his house this week, and if i do we will do it! but if i dont feel the spark while i kiss, idk if i should DO IT with him.so what do you think, should i be with him in the first place, and then should i go do it with him?
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (4 January 2009):
sweetie he sounds to me like he is grooming you. that's what pheadophiles do. they butter up their victim, make them feel nice and they eventually get what they want.
if you have sex with him, he is breaking the law and should be put on the sex offenders list and put in jail! at the end of the day he is an adult and you are a child, as you are leagally a minor. so he would be done for rape! even though you may give him your consent. it is still rape of a minor!
you need to maybe tell someone about him, as what he is doing is very wrong and he knows it. you need to stop contact with him, you dont have to tell him why you dont want to sleep with him,etc. just report him to someone and ignore him. block his calls,or whatever. he is a pheadophile at the end of the day!
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (4 January 2009):
sweetie he sounds to me like he is grooming you. that's what pheadophiles do. they butter up their victim, make them feel nice and they eventually get what they want.
if you have sex with him, he is breaking the law and should be put on the sex offenders list and put in jail! at the end of the day he is an adult and you are a child, as you are leagally a minor. so he would be done for rape! even though you may give him your consent. it is still rape of a minor!
you need to maybe tell someone about him, as what he is doing is very wrong and he knows it. you need to stop contact with him, you dont have to tell him why you dont want to sleep with him,etc. just report him to someone and ignore him. block his calls,or whatever. he is a pheadophile at the end of the day!
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reader, littlemomma +, writes (4 January 2009):
 ok for starters...your pretty young to be having to worry about sex. Plus, if you arent even comfortable about saying the word (even online) and have to say "do it", it's a good indicater your not ready yet. AND THAT's OK!
You have to think about the consiquences if you do have sex with him.
He's older, so he could get put in prison. You could end up pg. What would your parents think? You dont have that "spark" now, how will it be later? He might not be the great guy you think he is after you do have sex with him. You will NEVER be able to be a virgin again...ever.
Best wishes to ya! Hope you make a good choice
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