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writes:I'm a college freshman and I just found out I'm 7 weeks pregnant. The father is a frat guy who I had a one night stand with. He doesn't know, and I know he wouldn't want to have anything to do with it. I'm thinking of getting an abortion since I just started college and I'm so not ready for this. But I don't know where to go. My parents are real conservative catholics (I'm not) so they'd kill me if they found out. What are my options now? P.S. I live in WA state.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009): Hi!! I know this is a difficult choice, but again your choice.. You should think this through, maybe talk to the father, a doctor, ask what are your options here... Just don't do anything crazy, because in life everything even the most troublesome thing has a solution... I believe in the right of everyone to live, however whatever you do, I don't think anyone here has the right to judge you... If you choose to keep the baby, good luck raising a child... Think this carefully, my aunt had a similar case, the father didn't want to take care, she had the baby, the family came around, her baby is the smartest thing ever, in honor roll, and now she will graduate from high school, and has been offered a scholarship, my aunt is thankful she didn't abort....
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2009): Please, please, please do not abort the innocent child. As your family are Catholic and conservative, the more they would be against abortion. You need to pick up the phone, call the pregnancy crisis centre in your counrty and get help to bring the child to the world peacefully, not abort. Just search the net for any pregnancy helpline in your area. Later on, if you have difficulty supporting the child, you can always choose adoption option. This way, you would not feel so guilty as you have done the best for the little one.
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reader, blackroses2989 +, writes (1 January 2009):
 After reading the other posts, I just had to post again. While I agree that you should tell tell the father, you are doing a very responsible thing. Adoption is another option to consider, but it just seemed to me that you had your mind made up. Adoption is a wonderful thing to consider, you would make someones life so happy. however, if you just aren't ready to take that step and go through pregnancy, thats okay. pregnancy is not always easy, and you are a college student it makes things harder. It is not impossible, but it is your choice. I personally think you are being very responsible about this because it is NOT easy to have an abortion. If you aren't ready to go through pregnancy 9 in order to have the child adopted) and you KNOW that you aren't ready, this is the most responsible thing. If you can't provide for a baby and simply arent ready, then dont have it. Things happen in life, and how you deal with them will make you stronger. To the people who post rudely ( and im sure you knw who you are), you should be ashamed! She's asking for advice and support, not to be bashed with insults and accusations! If you have an opinion state in a positive helpful way. People that post on here need advice and support, especially because they are usually frusterated, confused, or going through a hard time already! Please try to advise and support with out the negative attitude. thanks!!! ^_^ And many thanks to all of you that post positively!!! ^_^ Happy New Year ALL!!!!^_~
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2009): Planned Parenthood is a good source. Generally, I am against abortions, but in your case, I think it is the right decision (so long as you think about your decisions more carefully from now on). You might do well to tell the father just so he can learn from this mistake too, but I don't think you are obligated to have the child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2009): You are a college student. Use your brain.
It matter not what you THINK the father will or will not do or say. He still has every right to know about a child that is half his. He even has a right to object to you murdering his kid.
Why do you think having a baby on your own is gonna mean the end of your studies? It will make it harder, to be sure, but if you aren't willing to meet such a challenge for that area of study then you shouldn't be doing the course.
Seriously, use abortion ONLY as an absolute last resort... I mean if it comes down to that baby affecting your health so much that carrying it to term is impossible.
Any Doctor who will perform an abortion on a perfectly healthy woman is not a doctor at all. Doctors dedicate their careers to SAVING lives, not ending them because of a person's selfish whim.
If you can have sex then you can damn well shoulder at least half the responsibility of a child.
This may sound harsh, but abortion is too easy an option in this day age. I believe they should only be performed as a last resort, as I said, and only if BOTH parents agree upon it. The father will have to suffer just as much as you will (and believe me, you will suffer if you go through with it, it may not last forever, but it WILL happen).
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reader, littlemomma +, writes (1 January 2009):
 have you maybe thought of just giving the child up for adoption? There are tons of families that cant have kids but want them, you'd be doing a lot of favors. Plus, you'll proly learn a lot from going through the process too. I'd really recomend adoption...but that's just me
If you do still want to abort, then go to planned parent hood. They are very discreat about it and normally do it for free, or at least a VERY small cost.
Anyways, good luck!
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reader, blackroses2989 +, writes (1 January 2009):
Hi Honey! I recommend that you look up planned parenthood. They perform abortions free or low cost. It's a won't ask, won't tell type of place. They also provide free condoms, birth control, and advice for protective sex methods. I strongly recommend them, I believe planned parenthoods are nation wide but I will double check right now. And yes I just checked and they are! Good luck honey. And stay safe!
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