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writes:Im a 29 year old male, and I have been currently dating a woman for over a year. We hit it off when we met so we ended up moving in together. Life hasn't been better!!! But I find myself thinking about the following quite a bit, How can I get it out of my head? My girlfriend was previously married (technically still is) but they've been separated over 2 years. Before her and her ex-seperated she was cheating on him, and told me it's because her heart wasn't there in the latter stages of her marriage. Over the course of our relationship. She's also told me how her mother cheated on her father. And her older sister cheated on her husband..So I can't help but question will she eventually do it to me also. How can I get rid of these thoughts?
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reader, A better man +, writes (9 September 2008):
A better man is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your answers. I greatly appreciate them. I hate feeling like this, It's kinda like I scared to let her fully in cause so worried about her letting history repeat itself.
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reader, littlemomma +, writes (9 September 2008):
 it's totally understandable to feel that way.
The best thing you can do is trust her. If she truly like(and/or loves) you then she wont cheat on you.
People do stupid things, but that's the only way we can learn in life. To do something stupid isnt to make yourself or others have regret for the rest of your/thier life(s), it's to learn a lesson and move on.
hope that helps! Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2008): Given the evidence it's not surprising you have concerned.
But cheating is NOT genetic. There is no real medical reason so far that makes a person cheat.
The best advice you can have for this, is to just let her past be past. Focus on you and her, right now... and in the near future.
If it works out, it works out. If it doesn't, it doesnt.
Flynn 24
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (9 September 2008):
 i would be a little bit afraid, too!
just do your best to only focus on her relationship to you, with maybe a little eye to HER past. has she given you any reason to doubt her commitment?
don't judge her too much by her family members. she isn't them.
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