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writes:Is this cheating?I have a picture of a female musician on my binder. It's a normal picture, not one where she's half naked or in a slutty pose.Girlfriend: Who's that woman?Me: That's a musician I like.Girlfriend: Do you think she's pretty?Me: Um...yeah kind of.Girlfriend: Well then you shouldn't be looking at her!Then she told me to get rid of the picture and I said she was being overcontroling, and then she yelled that I was cheating. Who's wrong here and what can I tell my girlfriend? Reply to this Question
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reader, blackroses2989 +, writes (7 November 2008):
 Wow. If she's that insecure about one picture... no offense here but that girl needs help. Does she have any binder pictures she likes or any albums that have pictures of attractive men on them? Time to turn the tables! Explain ot her its only a picture, you love her, and that if she seriously doubts you that much and seriously thinks you are cheating on her maybe she should find another boyfriend. You know my boyfriend watches porn at least once a day and he's the best boyfriend in the world! He's honest, loving, and would never cheat, now how bout them apples. (sorry i just wanted to write that no idea why anywho) Its not like you have a picture of Tawnee Stone or anything! Geez. Boyfriend if she still keeps this up after you talk to her, then I would consider finding someone that wont yell at you for a picture of a musician that you like.
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (7 November 2008):
 I have to say love that I kinda like uncy phils answer!!!!!You gotta look on the bright side of life sometimes..Blimey if I was like that Id be constantly going through my fella's music there are beautiful babes all over the shop..Hopefully sweetheart she must and I say must realize that this is just a tad over the top. And please don't tell me she cant see an attractive male walking past occasionally, Or there is no one in music or film she finds attractive TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2008): depends on how much you want your girlfriend. she is definitely over reacting but if you care you better be patient and talk this stuff through now - because it will only get worse -
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reader, BigSis +, writes (5 November 2008):
 I'd dread to think what she'd say - or even do if you had a nude pic on your binder! If you had a pic of a male musician - she'd probably accuse you of being gay.
You put your foot down and tell her to grow up, and get over it.
BigSis
xXx
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reader, \m/J.D\m/ +, writes (5 November 2008):
 Omg dude seriously.. Ok as pretty much everyone has said shes insecure, but instead of tryin t make her happy or changing things for her, try asking her why she fell for you in the first place, let her kno your still that person and also put to her that she MUST find other ppl attractive too! And no offence here but you have as much chance of gettin with this poster gal as she does brad pitt! Lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2008): Put a picture of some absolutely stunning, huge breasted, naked blonde bombshell on the cover, and when she asks who it is, tell her it's someone you DON'T like.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2008): Show her all the answers to this question lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2008): kEEP THE PICTURE!
and think about if you want to keep the girlfriend she is control freak.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2008): wow!, i thought i had jealousy issues
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (4 November 2008):
 If i were you I would keep the poster and dump her. haha
okay seriously, she's way insecure and she is being overly controlling. She's young and sounds a lil immature.
You could reassure that she's the only beautiful girl that you know. sweet talk to her to make her feel better. but ultimately,..these are her issues. Not yours.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (4 November 2008):
Is she, like, 12?
Does she have any idea of the real world?
I think you need to tell her not to be so neurotic and paranoid.
As long as you reassure her that she is the most beautiful girl in the world to you and have pictures of her to look at as well then she really has no reason to act like this.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, vix100 +, writes (4 November 2008):
 My husband's previous girlfriend to me was a bit like your girlfriend, but to an extreme level in the end and it made him depressed with a lot of issues still. She wouldn't even let him watch MTV in the end and constantly accused him of fancying people on TV/Magazines etc. He and I talk quite openly about males and females that we both think are attractive, as it's normal. I would say she has serious insecurity issues - either with herself or in your relationship. Yes, you could try and make her feel special, but if it's something deeper, she either needs to address it and stop giving you a hard time, or think seriously about where your relationship is heading.....
Good luck x
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reader, littlemomma +, writes (4 November 2008):
 ok ok, I see what's going on here. I'm a female and I used to do that all the time when my boyfriend (husband) had similar things.
It's a self asteem thing. She's proly afraid that your going to start liking someone, anyone, better than her and leave her 'cause she's not good enough or pretty enough ect. If you have pictures or emails or anything really of or from another girl, she's going to otimatically think you like that person better and are cheating on her. I know it proly doesnt make sense, it's just the way things are when you have a low self asteem.
What you might want to try is, prove to her that you think she's beautiful and wonderful. Some how prove that she's great and you'd never cheat on her. Like if you have ever been in a situation where you had the oportunity to cheat but you didnt...tell her about it. Ect ect...
Hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2008): Coming from a girl... that's a bit much on her part, I think. It's not like you're looking at hardcore porn 24/7 or something. She is obviously very insecure about herself and your attraction to her if this is a threat to her... start from there. How in your relationship can you make her feel better about herself and what she means to you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2008): Love is not jealous or possessive.It never seeks to control.Its forgiving and compassionate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2008): LMAO shes crazy dude, jelousy is a good thing tho, it just reinforces her love for you, i woldnt worry about it! just laugh at her and call her crazy, and get a bigger picture of that musician on your wall. PEACE
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2008): You can and should tell her to chill the f**k out.Women tend to be ridiculously insecure when it comes to other women. If the chic on your binder didn't look somewhat like her, and you said you like the chic on your binder, then that equates to you NOT liking what your girlfriend looks like.It is as stupid as it sounds. Tell her to chill.
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