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writes: I don't know if this is normal or natural, but I really want to have a baby. I'm only 18 not financially stable, I have a flat to pay for but I can't stop thinking about babies. I haven't been with my boyfriend all that long but my broodiness has gotten worse since I met him. I understand the responsibility of having a child, it's just I'm getting obsessed. Just to make it clear I'm not trying to get pregnant (I am on the implanon contrception and we are very careful!!) I just want to know if there's any way of getting this out of my mind. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to everyone who has replied you've made me feel a lot better about my small obsession. strangely enough i do actually work with babies everyday im training to be a nursery nurse and i work in a baby nursery. thats why i understand how hard it really is (and i only have them from 7 til 5)much harder to have them 24/7. i have decided that im best sorting my career and party life out before having children so i can give them a mum who isnt feelin she missed out on things. make sure iv found a decent daddy too :) Thank you everyone!!! love minnie
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reader, Miss Potter  +, writes (27 November 2008):
 Hi there! I went through broodiness periods myself, as your hormones fluctuate its normal to experince the "baby fever". It does go away eventually though, especially when you are engaged in something exciting - travel, time consuming hobbies, studies - activities that take up a lot of time and make you realise that it will be a while before you will have had you fair share of fun and are ready to give up your freedom and become a mother.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (27 November 2008):
 Hi, I think it is a natural feeling for a woman to be 'smitten' especially when you see babies, it can make you want one all the more. It is a hard life when you are young and trying to bring up a baby, especially if you havent got your home or finances sorted out, then the fun soon disappears. You sound as if you are been sensible by using birth control. Enjoy your time with your boyfriend, you have plenty of time for babies later. Once a baby does come along then you can feel very tied down and if you havent lived your life to the full before that time you can feel like you've missed out on something. Maybe if you find a job in a nursery or working with children that would be a nice outlet for you and an awakening. Good luck. hope this helps.
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reader, littlemomma  +, writes (27 November 2008):
 first off, dont worry! It's normal. For the longest time (since I was 16) I had the same issue.
The best thing to do is talk with the person your in a relationship with and see where their head is about kids. Then sit back and think about all the pros and cons.
Also, it might help to get some sort of hobby like photography, or a phyisicl sport like tennis. Keeping active helps keep the mind occupied.
You might want to talk to your doc about it too, might be a hormonal imbalance of sort? I dont know didnt have the option of a doc.
Anyways, when you truly are ready to have a kid...your body will tell you along with your mind. It will just feel right. Does that make sense?
Well good luck!
Best wishes and Happy Thanksgiving!
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reader, MT19 +, writes (27 November 2008):
Do you have any friends or family members with young children or babies? If so i suggest you offer to babysit for a weekend so they can have some time for themselves. Being the person that a young child or baby is soley dependant on night and day is a physically and emotionally stressfull situation (trust me i have 2 kids!) Although having children is a wonderful experience unless you are in the right place in your life it can be extremely difficult. Expereiencing this first hand may be enough to put you off for a while.Failing that have you considered a carear change, something like a teaching assistant or a nursery nurse? That way you could spend your days with young children and still be a fun loving teenager by night? Could be the best of both worlds!
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