Why do some people get over a family death quickly and others take years?
Q. Hoping people will have insight here and thank all who answer. My friend and I are about the same age. I am a little older. I lost my dad when I was in my twenties. It was horrible, awful but I had to carry on. I grieved but had to get on with life, ...
A. 31 May 2009: I think you pretty much answered your own question just by the description you gave. When it comes down to individual personalities, and individual environments, we all react differently to the same situation.
You cant expect your friend to deal ... (read in full...)
Dishonest, without intention... what do you think?
Q. Hi I have made this huge mistake. It started out less malicious than it sounds, 5 years ago I was playing a game online and wasnt interested in meeting anyone for real, so in order to keep my age to myself and annonymity, I sent a fake pic, Sad...
A. 31 May 2009: I think you are going in the right direction by giving him time to cool off, and really think about all that has happened. He needs this, as do you. Dont wait too long tho to contact him, if it has only been a day, dont let that drag on for a month ... (read in full...)
My crush has a crush on my friend should I forget about him?
Q. i have a HUGE prob my bestfriend (iya) has a crush on (edward) my crush. Hi Im hazel it started like this in my school theres a new comer its edward he's sooo cute so I told my friend iya about it, then I planned to talk to edward, we hang out a li...
A. 25 May 2009: For one, forget about Edward, if he was interested in you, he would pursue YOU not your best friend. As for your best friend, I don't think she is one. If she had a crush on him, or was interested in him after finding out that you too had a crush on ... (read in full...)
I have this huge problem with retroactive jealousy.
Q. I have this huge problem with retroactive jealousy. Before my husband and I started dating seriously, we were friends for about a decade. We are both in our mid-twenties, so we have known one another since we were kids. The adolescent ...
A. 21 May 2009: You welcome very much, and I am glad things worked out for you because you indeed are letting it go, good choice! ... (read in full...)
Thinking twice about our relationship
Q. Ive been dating this guy for about a month. But some things have happened that are making me think twice about our relationship. I am 20 years old and he is 24. He keeps asking me if im a virgin, how far ive gone etc. I've told him im not that ...
A. 20 May 2009: I think the signs are pretty obvious. He is disrespecting you by persistently asking you a question that clearly makes you uncomfortable. If he has any respect for you at all, even as a person, he wouldn't come off so vulgar.
If I was in your sho... (read in full...)
We were texting non-stop but as soon as I suggested we meet up he lost interest!
Q. Ok hope you can help! A friend of mine was out with her boyfriend and she met one of his friends. They got chatting and he asked her did she have any single friends so she thought of me and told him about me. He seemed pretty interested anyway we ...
A. 20 May 2009: I don't think you did anything wrong. I would have asked the same thing if me and a guy were hitting it off for 2 weeks. Plus, you didn't come off needy or desperate.
Maybe, he got nervous. Sending pictures is different from seeing someone ... (read in full...)
I want him to realize he's treating me wrong
Q. help, I got involved with my ex boyfriend after 21yrs, we dated wen i was 16 then split wen i was 20 and he found and contacted me after 21 yrs, after we met he said he was still in love wit me and i felt the same way, but this guy has a lot of ...
A. 20 May 2009: It's easier to say I love you, but actions help solidify the fact, and from what you've written he isn't acting the way he should. Splitting up over and over again when fighting over petty things, is petty in of itself.
Although he contacte... (read in full...)
My daughter has given me permission to sleep with her friend and I'm torn over what I should do!
Q. I'm a single Dad with a 17 year old daughter. She has a friend that's 18. She's been coming around for about 5 or 6 yrs. I have a big house. She's had a room here for about 4 yrs and is here more than anywhere else.(No father around and Mom don't ...
A. 19 May 2009: I think you pretty much answered your own question, you said that when she kissed you it wasn't really her that made you like it, its the simple fact that you haven't had that sort of intimacy, and her gesture evoked feelings of wanting to have sex. ... (read in full...)
Sex life gone bad.....
Q. me and my girlfriend have been together for 2.5 years. we are very happy and are moving in together next month. However our sex life annoys me. when we first got together I used to get oral sex from her but wasnt allowed to cum in her mouth, we ha...
A. 19 May 2009: No you are not selfish. I have witnessed a lot of couples do that to one another, and not just in the sex department. Frequent phone calls turn into none, kissing and cuddling every night wind up becoming only once a week, and the partner who stops ... (read in full...)
Help... my friends keep ganging up on me!
Q. Since im the quiet one out of all of them and they are all so confident they sometimes gang up on me. I give up trying to stand up for myself because i never win anyway. I tried going off to find a different group of friends and i managed but then ...
A. 17 May 2009: Ok your so called best friends, are NOT your best friends. Real friends dont make fun of you, kick you, or force you to spill out secrets, they seem absolutely retarded to me. They are probably just using you for entertainment. Break the ties you ... (read in full...)
How long does a women want a man to last in bed?
Q. How long should a man last in bed? How long does a women want a man to last?...
A. 17 May 2009: Surprisingly, the average act of sex takes 10 minutes. Not exactly what movies portray, but in regard to what a woman would like... it all depends on the female you are dealing with. Some women want their man to take their sweet time, a lot of ... (read in full...)
What's going on with him here?
Q. Ok, so, some background: me and my boyfriend have been together a year and a half. I was at his house this evening and for dinner we had burgers and salad [with onions]. Later on in the evening, we were sitting on his bed and, im not sure how it ...
A. 17 May 2009: Your boyfriend is an immature moron, who obviously is the main culprit of the mood being killed. What the hell kind of turn on is that? You taste like big mac?? Thats the corniest thing I ever heard. As for him not looking at you, or talking to you, ... (read in full...)
Help!!! How can I get my husband's attention?
Q. I've been married to my present husband for a year now. When we first got married, we didn't live together for almost 8 months! He finally moved in with us in January this year. 5 weeks later I found out that he loves to watch porn on the computer ...
A. 17 May 2009: You need to have a long talk with your husband, about your sex life together, your displeasure, discomfort, and confusion. But most importantly, you have to discuss seeking professional help with him. You need to find a marital/sex counselor and ... (read in full...)
I don't want to end up single for the rest of my life.
Q. Hi, I am 21 years old and have had a couple short term boyfriends since I was 17. I used to be quite confident before I started getting boyfriends/male interest but I feel that as a result of bad experiences with the last boyfriend, my confidence ...
A. 17 May 2009: CALM DOWN lol you are only 21!!! You have so much time ahead of you. It may feel at moments that time waits for no one, it just passes, and fast, soon enough you will be 30, etc etc, but live in the moment and just relax.
Being single is not as b... (read in full...)
My 'friend' called me a cow no one wants to milk. What the hell is that even supposed to mean.
Q. 'friend' called me a cow no one wants to milk. What the hell is that even supposed to mean. He also said I'd become fat now. What in the world is it any of his business anyway. I am so mad right now- enough to not contact him again!...
A. 15 May 2009: It means your "friend" is a big ***hole, and unless he apologizes for his rude remark, you shouldn't even bother. ... (read in full...)
Can a man forget the woman they loved so quickly?
Q. Can a man one dated for 3 years we shared good and bad times. He is grieving over the loss of 2 family members (brother and dad)who died 2 days from one another. He said horrble things and accused me of things that were not true. During this ...
A. 14 May 2009: One part of me thinks he is being a really big a**hole, but then another side of me feels that he is mourning the loss of two very important people in his life, deaths that were very close together, the mind sometimes cant handle a blow like that. ... (read in full...)
Breaking it off early the right thing to do?
Q. Hi I'm a pretty laid back intelligent guy in his early 30s who hasn't had any long term relationships so am a bit inexperienced. I guess I would say I'm quite shy and lack a bit of self-esteem. I went out with someone I met on the internet re...
A. 13 May 2009: You know its all a matter of personal preference. I have met people who are not concerned with having common interests with their partners, they are more concerned if their partner can treat them well, the rest will come. These ppl I assume believe ... (read in full...)
He wants to see me in my underware on webcam
Q. i've fallen in love with this guy i met online, i trust him completely... i know it sounds dodgy but, he's a friend of the family and they all trust him so i guess he's ok. i really like him, we speak every day but recently he's been wanting to see ...
A. 13 May 2009: DO NOT GIVE IN TO HIS CORNY, LAME, PATHETIC, BS CONTROLLING MAN CRAPOLA. Tell him to find some skank on the computer who will willingly spread her legs and show off her ASSets on webcam for him.
Respect yourself, and if you feel uncomfor... (read in full...)
I seem to be overcome at times by these feelings and they are starting to take over my life. What can I do?
Q. I actually asked this very same question a few months ago but was wanting some more advice and have added to it. I am a seemingly normal happy 19 year old male with a loving family and a few friends. However I have a huge problem on my hands. My ...
A. 13 May 2009: Honestly, considering that most ppl on this site are not licensed professionals, your best bet is to seek one. Seems to me like you might just have an anxiety disorder, sometimes these things get triggered at a young age by a discomforting ... (read in full...)
I have this huge problem with retroactive jealousy.
Q. I have this huge problem with retroactive jealousy. Before my husband and I started dating seriously, we were friends for about a decade. We are both in our mid-twenties, so we have known one another since we were kids. The adolescent ...
A. 13 May 2009: I will have to agree with what you said and say that the whole " I had sex with your best friend to get closer to you" is just pure bs nonsense! As for your ex friend be happy she is out of your life, but do not keep beating her up because that just ... (read in full...)
Can I think of her as a cheat for seeing someone else when I'm still living with my wife?
Q. I met a young lady a few years back. This lady really meant a lot to me. I told her that I was looking for someone who would be faithful, because my wife cheated on me. This young lady was really a nice girl and had been hurt herself. The only ...
A. 13 May 2009: How long were you dating this lady friend? Were you getting a divorce from your wife? or when you were living with her? How often did you see this lady? A little more info would help... ... (read in full...)
I feel like my boyfriend is abusive, so why do I keep staying with him??
Q. I have felt for a long time in my relationship that my boyfriend is on the abusive side. He's never hit me but he shout's at me and makes me feel really bad sometimes (this happens if he is worrying about something or feels bad about something he's ...
A. 13 May 2009: Leave him. Point blank. I was dating a guy for about a year, and altho he was a sweetheart, when we were on good terms, the minute our relations took a turn for the worst he became a complete stranger. He yelled at me, he called me names, he blamed ... (read in full...)
I honestly do not love this girl anymore, but I am afraid to break up with her, and I don't know why...
Q. Hey there, Thursday I was on the phone with my girlfriend, I had to address some issues. For example; It bothered me that she never came up with ideas for dates. I always came up with stuff to do, I always ask her; hey do you want to hang out? She...
A. 10 May 2009: Ignoring her is just pointless. If you two start doing that, whats the point of being together then? A relationship is a bond between two people who willingly want to interact with one another, in good and bad times, if the solution is to ignore ... (read in full...)
I honestly do not love this girl anymore, but I am afraid to break up with her, and I don't know why...
Q. Hey there, Thursday I was on the phone with my girlfriend, I had to address some issues. For example; It bothered me that she never came up with ideas for dates. I always came up with stuff to do, I always ask her; hey do you want to hang out? She...
A. 9 May 2009: I don't think you are being needy. If you are unhappy with the way she acts in your relationship, then by all means its better to express it than keep it bottled up which will only leave you with resentment towards her.
But, if this is somethin... (read in full...)
If he doesn't want to continue, why doesn't he say so?
Q. I just need help with this situation because I don’t know if I’m being paranoid or what. I’m 23, have never really had a proper relationship, so I don’t really know what’s considered normal, acceptable, etc. I’ve ‘dated’ guys in the past but it ...
A. 6 May 2009: It could be a number of reasons why he is acting this way. I have been in situations like this myself where I meet someone, we hit it off, things seem cool and then all of a sudden the guy backs off and im left wondering wether I did something ... (read in full...)
She turned everything all around
Q. Rightt here we go agaaain Theres this girl I've beeen speakin to on msn for about 2 months now, and were always on and off, like I think we both like each other but it's never as simple as that, there is Always something in the way, another boy...
A. 6 May 2009: Ummm wow... honestly I think this relationship is just kiddy. For one, you two have only been speaking for 2 months and she loves you? Love doesn't happen in two months, and in that short time frame consist of so many problems and feelings of ... (read in full...)
My girl friend and I broke up... I miss her but I don't know how to cope
Q. My girlfriend and I just broke up and we were going out for over a year. It started out great and we had many rough spots. She would get depressed a lot because of school issues and friends etc... and I would be her main support force. My friends ...
A. 6 May 2009: If all your friends are on the prowl, you can either join them but keep your distance, dive right in, or stay away all together. The choice is really yours. Whatever feels right for you. But don't let your friends persuade you to do something you ... (read in full...)
My long distance girlfriend is having problems at work and I can't seem to give her good advice, should I call her less often?
Q. Hi everyone. I have moved to another country which is very far from my gf. It isn't permanent but will for a long time due to work. We keep in touch by chatting and phone. Recently, she is having problem with her work. There are people k...
A. 4 May 2009: I think the worst thing you can do is not call her. Think about it, your many many miles away, so you cant physically comfort her. The only way of communicating you two have is thru the phone, by leaving her alone, you might just make her even more ... (read in full...)
I think about leaving my husband every day.
Q. I think about leaving my husband every day. I think, I'm so confused. I don't know if I'm right to feel how I feel. He stopped being affectionate with me sexually years ago. Yet he is not sick, but does not want sex. He also does not make me feel...
A. 4 May 2009: You are absolutely in the right to feel the way you do. We are all human, and sometimes our emotions get the best of us, in your situation, with reason! If my husband stopped being affectionate with me years ago, I wouldn't be so positive either. ... (read in full...)
My girl friend and I broke up... I miss her but I don't know how to cope
Q. My girlfriend and I just broke up and we were going out for over a year. It started out great and we had many rough spots. She would get depressed a lot because of school issues and friends etc... and I would be her main support force. My friends ...
A. 4 May 2009: Breaking up is never easy. The after effects are so much harder to cope with. There isn't much advice one can give to ease your suffering. The phrase I hated with a passion to hear most in situations like this was "Time Will Heal The Pain," there is ... (read in full...)
I'm falling for him but know I can't have him...
Q. Hello agony aunts, I'm having some love trouble with a guy that has a girlfriend and he and me have slept together many times, but he says to me that he can't leave her. But sometimes he says stuff like 'if we were together I will be there for you'. ...
A. 1 May 2009: What exactly do you wish to get help in? If it is to win him over, that will be a very hard job to fulfill. Altho you and him have slept on numerous occasions, and he sweeps you off your feet by saying IF we were together I will be there for you, ... (read in full...)
I'm not pretty, will anyone ever love me?
Q. ok i am going to be 100% honest and realistic about my situation however sad it sounds! Recently i fell in love with a guy. The first time i have ever fell in love. I don't think he felt the same way but he gave me a taste of how amazing it is to...
A. 30 April 2009: Dont ever sell yourself short, and dont ever call yourself unattractive. Easier said than done, but you are worth more than that. Plus if a guy was in a relationship with you, cared about you and showed you love, you must not be ugly then.
When ... (read in full...)
Very much in love with someone who does not treat me the way I feel I deserve to be treated.
Q. Feeling a little depressed. Very much in love with someone who does not treat me the way I feel I deserve to be treated. I know we all have our faults but I try to be supportive, kind, calm and loving towards my b/f. He swings from being funny and ...
A. 29 April 2009: I can totally relate to this. I was involved with a man for about a year who would one minute tell me he loved me, cared for me, loved everything and anything about me, to then turn around and rub all my insecurities in my face, verbally abuse me by ... (read in full...)
When he gets intimate I don't feel anything.
Q. Ok, i am dating a really great guy and I like him a lot. The thing is just when he gets intimate I don't feel anything. I really like him. I like kissing and touching but when we go any further it stops. I don't feel anything. I'm not repulsed or ...
A. 29 April 2009: This question is a tad bit hard to answer since "I don't feel anything" can mean a few things. I am assuming that since he is a great guy, and you like him a lot that you not feeling anything has more to do with your body, rather than your mind.
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Why do some girls like the bad boy type?
Q. I consider myself a "nice guy." I don't smoke, don't do drugs. Drink very rarely. I go to Grad School. Have a decent job, go to church every Sunday. I'm very detail oriented, I give flowers, candy, pay for everything polite, considerate, sweet ...
A. 23 April 2009: Ok, the guys that responded to your question seem moronic to me. You giving flowers, being polite, and staying away from ciggs and alcohol don't make you any less capable of defending yourself or a woman you wind up with. You are just a different ... (read in full...)
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