Is my teacher a serious perv?
Q. I have a male teacher,lets just call him Mr. Y.I was in class today,and I was wearing shorts and a v-neck and he came up to me and said "Hi Leila,how are you?". I just said"Um,fine.".Then he told me that we were doing a test soon and gave me a ...
A. 16 December 2011: I don't think any male teacher should be making comments on a female student's appearance or on what she is wearing UNLESS he is politely giving her a suggest on modesty. Your teacher was not do this so his little encouragement/complement on your ... (read in full...)
Losing my virginity.....what do I need for my first time? How do I make sure I last long enough?
Q. Okay so when I was 16 I promised myself myself if I was 21 and still a virgin that I would lose it to someone of that year. Well here it is 6 years later and its come to the unfortunate time that I was dreading and excited for. This girl who I ...
A. 16 December 2011: Don't buy into society's BS about virginity being a negative thing. Be above this. Do not subject yourself to someone who means nothing to you. Respect yourself because if you don't, NO ONE ELSE WILL.
Nothing is wrong with being a virgin. ... (read in full...)
How do I get my act back together after screwing up?
Q. I have recently come out of a 4 year relationship. I joined a dating site and met a man who seemed respectable. We have so much in common. We went out and we had sex. Since that his phone has been switched off. I know i have to accept i was used. I ...
A. 16 December 2011: By stop seeking for someone to complete you and validate your eligibility. Dating sites are not what you should be doing now when you can't full come to terms with your past behavior.
You cheated during your last relationship and had a fling (i... (read in full...)
Too early to talk babies?
Q. Im in a relationship and have been for 10 months my partner split with his last girlfriend of 9 years they have one child 6 and still txt as if there friends in jan she walked out I was there for him and we got close and now where together he really ...
A. 14 December 2011: Good for him that he loves fatherhood!...but YES, it is too early. You are only dating him first off, do not plan a family with someone who doesn't want to first plan a marriage. ***The security of an innocent life should also be made legally in ... (read in full...)
She's in the early stages of a divorce fighting over a child. Do I sit back?
Q. I recently met a woman, who is in the earliest possible stage of divorce. She has a child with her husband, and he is fighting the divorce because he refuses to go a day without that child. I over the past several months have fallen in love with ...
A. 14 December 2011: This is why you never get involved with someone who is unable to full commit to you(i.e because of marriage/separation). You are hurting over this because this is what you chose. You knew she was only separated, what happens next is all up to her. ... (read in full...)
Caught her having sex with 2 of my friends at our housewarming.....I'm so hurt she cheated but turned on at the same time!
Q. Hi. my girlfriend and i met a year and a half ago and weve just recently moved in together. Its both our first place on our own. A month after we moved in we had a house warming party. after a night of drinking i woke up to find my girlfrie...
A. 14 December 2011: I agree with the first post. This post is hard to see as genuine because it's hard to believe anyone could have such low self esteem as this man here. Your girlfriend has no respect for you or the relationship and this is why she cheated in your ... (read in full...)
My wife is so crazily jealous about my ex that it is ruining our marriage!
Q. My wife (Erin) is super jealous of my ex girlfriend (Maggie). Erin thinks Maggie is super hot, popular, totally unstable, etc. The thing is though, she's mediocre looking and is a total loser; while Erin is at least a 9/10 and the most attractive ...
A. 20 November 2011: Why have you rated your wife's appearance on a scale? Does she know her rating? Maybe she is overreacting about all of this because she knows that in your eyes (wife or not)she is not that most beautiful thing you know. Beauty comes from the inside ... (read in full...)
Why are some men so selfish?
Q. Why some men so selfish?. My partner and i have 2 kids together he is 42 and i am 36. Our relationship is very dull, we never go out as a couple, we have little to no sex life to which i put down to him not having a sex drive. He never treats me or ...
A. 20 November 2011: Marriage should be a partnership where two people trust in each other and work together. Usually in a marriage couples are past the stage of testing each other. I too believe this is a one way street. It's almost like he doesn't care to communicate ... (read in full...)
She isn't good for me and I want to (politely) move on
Q. Hi this is my first time on this site. I am feeling quite confused and depressed. I am in love with a girl, i think shes my best friend or im hers i dont know, but anyway, I get the feeling she only talks to me if she needs help with something or if ...
A. 19 November 2011: You are letting your insecurities and doubts be sabotaged by your current mental status and will soon sabotage your relationship with her. Don't assume the worst. You really just never know until you try. Her comment about wishing for a 'boyfr... (read in full...)
Boyfriend gets a girls number at the bar and lied before, deal breaker?
Q. So I have a major decision to make. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and I just found out he's quite the liar. Back in January, he went out with his friends and told me they were going one place but I found out they went to a b...
A. 16 November 2011: For the simple fact that every other plan or destination "changed" or for his own reason felt he couldn't dispose to you, I would say trust is not there. Therefore the relationship is not worth it. On top of that he gets drunk to the point where he ... (read in full...)
I'm confused! He's cancelled 2 dates and now doesn't respond to my texts
Q. Hi everyone sorry if this long I just really need help trying to figure this situation out I met a man 9 month ago I moved into a flat near him in fact 30 seconds away any way he asked me out I said yes he had been single 6 month after splitting up ...
A. 16 November 2011: I'm so sorry this guy played you like this. He is not worth your thoughts, energy, or time of day. If he said once that he was using you, there is no going back. You are there for him at his convenience, and living near each other is quite ... (read in full...)
She said to me during sex "would you just finish" after only 10 minutes! I always thought lasting longer was better....
Q. hi their. I have confidance issues when it comes to how long i last during sex. I always please my partner though oral and hands before sex as she doesnt orgasm through intercourse. Once she had cum we moved on to the sex. I was prolonging cumming ...
A. 16 November 2011: Yea, that's a mood kill. Sexual compatibility is an important factor of relationships. Hopefully you two can work this out. Have an honest discussion with her about sex. Find out what her feelings and theory on sex is. Maybe her views on sex would ... (read in full...)
Should I contact her to check on her or just leave her alone
Q. My GF and I have been apart since the beginning of the year. She broke up with me as she said she thinks I am bored in life and need to go and experience the world. So we agreed that I would do new things and see what happens in the future. ...
A. 10 November 2011: Contact her if you CLEARLY want to be with her or would like for her to accompany you, basically want her back in your life. (Understand you are taking a risk and rejection could follow.)
Do NOT contact her if you are just "thinking" of her. That... (read in full...)
In fairness I need to make up my mind between the two of them
Q. I'm having a little trouble making a decision. Ive been single for nearly 2 years now but I recently started seeing someone and things were goin ok then I started talking to a girl I've met a few times and I started seeing her to. It's not at th...
A. 10 November 2011: Perhaps you don't feel like ripping the clothes off of girl #2 because you are getting it in somewhere else...
This is why sex before commitment ruins things. That's great that you feel comfortable enough to tell girl #2 all your secrets and thin... (read in full...)
At the beginning of our relationship my g/f kissed another guy
Q. So my girlfriend of about a month and a half kissed another guy but it was in the beginning of the relationship. She was leading him on but after that kiss she hadnt talked to him since. I found out from her because she said it was eating her alive. ...
A. 3 November 2011: Your relationship was premature when she kissed someone and it still is now. You haven't yet built anything together that would be destroyed by this kiss, and you haven't yet built anything together that would keep you two together. It's up to you ... (read in full...)
What do guys look for in a girlfriend?
Q. What do guys look for in a girlfriend? Young guys that is, in their late teens, early twenties....
A. 3 November 2011: Your question is way too general, and so is your answer. It depends on the individual guy himself, on his maturity level, and if he is even looking for a girlfriend.... (read in full...)
When a girl smiles at you and says something kinda ignorant but with sarcasm,what does that mean?
Q. Ok girls this ones for you... I have yet to determine what this means when she does it,maybe you can tell me When a girl smiles at you and says something kinda ignorant but with sarcasm,what does that mean? Example: Sean you're such a sma...
A. 3 November 2011: She was complementing your wit.... (read in full...)
I said I loved him, he responded with I like you, I'm confused?
Q. ok me and mt bf have been goin out for almost a year now he takes care of me he is nice kind genleman gives me wat i want all the time but oneday i asked him how he felt about me. i doubt since he was giving money and paying for my phone bills and ...
A. 2 November 2011: First off, never use a person. Have respect for him and yourself and learn how to gain your own independence.
Second, he most likely feels the same as you do(falling out of love/never got there). Jealous is not a determining factor for love. Jeal... (read in full...)
Please help me figure out the female mind
Q. Why do girls act so strange? I have a huge crush on one of my co workers and I have been told by 2 of the girls we work with that she likes me too. We hang out all the time at work and even recently outside of work. I month ago I asked her out and ...
A. 28 October 2011: Sounds to me like she is being very cautious. Nothing too complex to figure, If she is fresh out of a relationship she may need space and time to re-prioritize. Refrain from asking her out again, keep the friendship casual and hopefully when she is ... (read in full...)
My past is coming back to haunt me.....
Q. I have a very big problem about my past and I'm not sure how to handle it. My husband I are married almost 10 years, and together over 10 years. My husband thinks that I was not only a virgin when we started dating, but he also thinks that I was CO...
A. 27 October 2011: Also you are young for having been married for ten years. Any reason why your parents favored you ex and decided that it would be good idea for him to contact you?... (read in full...)
My past is coming back to haunt me.....
Q. I have a very big problem about my past and I'm not sure how to handle it. My husband I are married almost 10 years, and together over 10 years. My husband thinks that I was not only a virgin when we started dating, but he also thinks that I was CO...
A. 27 October 2011: Such a shame you felt the need to lie all these years about virginity in order to feel "pure" or "worthy". That stigma is a load of BS in my opinion and is only relevant if BOTH involved are virgins. Virginity shouldn't turn him on he should enticed ... (read in full...)
My SOS (someone special) has a girlfriend!! Move on, or wait it out?
Q. So, I am very attracted to this guy that works for my Dad. Five weeks ago, we started talking. I think he is absolutely amazing. He is everything I think I want in a man. He is absolutely adorable, charming, and very sweet. He is just as attracted ...
A. 27 October 2011: If he isn't aware of how you feel then tell him, but this situation has way to many red flags. You are too emotionally involved in HIS situation. Your feelings about his girlfriend is unhealthy for you, try not to direct your frustrations and angry ... (read in full...)
My SOS (someone special) has a girlfriend!! Move on, or wait it out?
Q. So, I am very attracted to this guy that works for my Dad. Five weeks ago, we started talking. I think he is absolutely amazing. He is everything I think I want in a man. He is absolutely adorable, charming, and very sweet. He is just as attracted ...
A. 27 October 2011: You opinion of his current girlfriend is completely bias. His influence on the matter is simple to manipulate you into thinking that he is the victim and needing out of a bad relationship. Honey don't buy it. Always remember there are at least two ... (read in full...)
Should I meet up with my ex? She has asked for a 'catch up chat'....
Q. My ex wants to meet for coffee and a "catch up chat". Do i meet up or stay away ?....We broke up at xmas last year after a 7 month relationship. I did not see her after i found she was cheating with her best friends husband. I truly was in love wit...
A. 26 October 2011: I agree with everyone else on here. Forgive and FORGET her. The moment she senses weakness in you she is going to ride your emotions like a bat out of hell. Don't allow her to have a moment of your time. She couldn't respect your relationship then ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend not employed, doesn't help out with costs and I'm getting fed up
Q. I am in a relationship with a guy who has been struggling to become employed for about half a year now. I work almost full time hours and have a car. We both currently live with our parents but would like to gain our independence soon. At the ...
A. 25 October 2011: I would say try to be sensitive. At this point he is still able to pay for his own food, that's pretty good because you aren't the one paying for both meals. Honestly he being a man is well aware of what he needs to be doing and I doubt that he is ... (read in full...)
What am I doing wrong? Why do guys only want to sleep with me and not have a relationship?
Q. hey, i am 21 and know people say im still young should be enjoying myself not worried about realtionships but (and please dont judge me) iv slept with 53 boys and only 3 if had a realtionship with. it isnt that i dont what a reationship beca...
A. 25 October 2011: Reason: Sex waaaaaay too soon. You say you take the time to get to know them before sex. I'm sorry but at your age you can't know 53 boys well enough to sleep with them. Also You can never assume that guys don't talk either, because they do. That's ... (read in full...)
I don't feel like I am big enough!
Q. hello everyone...i dont feel like im big enough down there for my wife. she never complained but i just wish i was bigger in order to feel like im really satisfying her. and when she gives me bjs . it doesnt feel like shes having a hard time taking ...
A. 24 October 2011: Also consider some people have limited to no gag reflexes. And pain/difficulty does not usually equal satisfaction.... (read in full...)
I don't want to date her anymore. How do I get her to move out of my life?
Q. I have spent 9 months with this lady and now wana dump her . Well she hasn’t done anything wrong neither me but I have to dump her as I find someone else more attractive than her. She is my 8th girlfriends and I think there is nothing wrong ke...
A. 24 October 2011: No. "Experimenting" until you find someone better is wrong. You should never string someone along in a relationship if your intentions are not true. This would be a selfish act, the person you are being careless with will get hurt and your own ... (read in full...)
Her dad caught us in a compromsing situation, now I'm worried about how awkward its going to be when I meet him properly!
Q. I have been dating a girl for a few months now, we are both 22 yrs old. She is a complete daddys girl and always talks about how over protective her dad is. At the very beginning of our relationship I spent the night and when I was leaving in the ...
A. 20 October 2011: This is something you will look back on years, maybe even days from now and laugh at. Your situation is quit humorous. You walked past her Dad and pretend he wasn't there?! Lol. You probably should have at least said "Good Morning" and kept walking ... (read in full...)
Do men like to be the Hunters or the Hunted?
Q. I'm in love..I can't stop thinking about him. I know he loves me but we havn't had a discussion about starting a relationship. I told him I might go away to Vet school..im a senior in college and he just graduated. He has an accounting job travels a ...
A. 20 October 2011: In any other case I would say let him know how you feel, especially if the guy is shy. However in your situation I don't think the question is to "hunt him or not". This guy is simple not ready for a relation. He's fresh out of school and trying to ... (read in full...)
Can too much be a bad thing?
Q. Hello, So I'm over the "is my penis size to small or, how do i know if its the right size" I have a much more inportant matter at hand... So here is the story, I'v been with my new girlfriend for about a year not and we have been having sex(...
A. 20 October 2011: Size of woman does not determine depth of vagina. Tall, short, wide, narrow, heavy, or thin. Length of torso is better way to determine what a woman is most likely comfortable with as far as length goes. Just FYI. As far as spotting or bleeding ... (read in full...)
Can too much be a bad thing?
Q. Hello, So I'm over the "is my penis size to small or, how do i know if its the right size" I have a much more inportant matter at hand... So here is the story, I'v been with my new girlfriend for about a year not and we have been having sex(...
A. 19 October 2011: If you two love each other then I really wouldn't worry. So you two like it rough, hopefully by now you've established trust and communication in and out of the bedroom. By this I mean a code word, sound, or movement you two can recognize with ... (read in full...)
B/f wants to give me oral sex but I feel insecure about it
Q. Hi :) So just wanted to talk about a problem im having and hope you guys can offer some reassurance.. Iv been dating a guy for about 3 months now and its all going great. we've been sleeping together for about a month now and really care about ...
A. 19 October 2011: I honestly don't see this as being any other issue than an insecurity issue. Maybe it's just me, but I think that type of mentality is not healthy. For some one to devalue or feel a shamed of their most intimate parts most likely is a result of a ... (read in full...)
How long should I date her without a sexual relationship?
Q. I am a male with a high-sex drive in my mid twenties. I have had a lot of partners and dated even more women, but only one previous lover. I met this new girl who I am absolutely attracted to in multiple dynamics and hope her to be my next love....
A. 17 October 2011: Although it depends on the person, I think three months of dating before sex or advancing to other intimate activities is the absolute minimum. (I'm more traditional). Don't mistake "insecurities" for being trust. I don't see her moving forward ... (read in full...)
Should I take a stand? It seems like she overreacted.
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for three-years. Although about three-months ago, she had to move to Salt Lake City for her family (her mom is sick and she needed to be there for her). I was fine with it, even though I live in Portland ...
A. 14 October 2011: It sounds like she really misses you and was super excited to see you. After three months, you two finally have the opportunity to reconnect. She was looking forward to it and from the sound of it, you both need it. In a woman's mind, nothing ... (read in full...)
B/f wants a foursome--3 guys and me! I kind of want it too!
Q. I've had the biggest crush on this guy for like a year now. He's super adorable. We flirt all the time. He and I have been "talking" for like two months now. I love when people give me attention and he gives me the most. Last month, we were at his ...
A. 13 October 2011: Wow, today's generation has taken sex to be something so casual.
You can not see the insanity in his request because you are too young to have sex and to understand it's FULL impact. Sex is not a game. Respect yourself and don't do something your... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is not virgin! How do I forgive her?
Q. i have a relation with a girl since march 2011. after 2 months when she come to know that i love her, she told me that she is not virgin. she cried the whole night and told me that she was force by her ex-boyfriend when she was having a severe ...
A. 13 October 2011: Again this is where LOGIC and RELIGION collide. The sad thing is you don't have a clue how absurd this way of thinking is. She was FORCED, it was NOT A CHOICE. It was AGAINST her will. It is pretty darn rare for a woman to be physically stronger ... (read in full...)
Does this dream about an ex mean we're going to have trouble reconciling?
Q. So here's the thing, my boyfriend and I broke up over the weekend, but after realizing we really care about each other we re-titled it to a break, with the intention of working out our problems and getting back together. I really care about him, ...
A. 11 October 2011: You are subconsciously comparing these two guys and it is illustrated in your dreams. You know your ex-boyfriend more so than his friend so you are more likely to dream of him. You two have history together and there are aspects of him you enjoyed. ... (read in full...)
Am I being played? Will I ever be happy?
Q. I really dont know where to start its been a rough few years but i guess ill start toward the beginning i was with "M" for 9 years and 3 kids and come one night about 5 years ago now she tells me she is seeing someone else. Well she only stayed at t...
A. 9 October 2011: You won't feel like this forever. We are all still learning life. And learning to plan around life's unexpected changes. You are not alone, there are people all over the world in the same position, suffering from heartache. So don't lose faith in ... (read in full...)
I feel like my faith in men is non existent right now! It seems that jerks always win!
Q. I was seeing someone for about a couple of months. But he dumped me by text, coz he "wanted to be single". I said I deserve better and that's your loss. Months later he apologized and said he made a mistake etc etc. He asked to meet me for coffee. ...
A. 9 October 2011: We all get hurt. I'm sorry for your frustrations. This guy was a complete waste of time. Try thinking of the phrase "don't waste the pretty". To me that means, ok so you wasted your time talking to this jerk, but don't let the tears and anxiety you ... (read in full...)
Am I being played? Will I ever be happy?
Q. I really dont know where to start its been a rough few years but i guess ill start toward the beginning i was with "M" for 9 years and 3 kids and come one night about 5 years ago now she tells me she is seeing someone else. Well she only stayed at t...
A. 6 October 2011: Wow. I understand your frustrations. I will tell you point blank. You need to move on and forget about both "B" and "M". Each for different reasons. "B" is in a relationship she has no control over. She says nothing is going on but is too afraid t... (read in full...)
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