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writes:My girlfriend broke up with me 3 days ago. She says she doesn't want the responsibilty of a girlfriend. She says she doesn't want to see me and she is too busy and needs to concentrate on school. She says we can be friends. Do you think we can be friends? My question is: is it okay to be friends with your ex? Has this happened to anyone??
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reader, knight08  +, writes (2 January 2009):
 I was in the same situation like you, I had a girl-friend in college which she broke with me to focus on her friends and parties (really low selfish girl), but she wanted us to stay friends, I agreed cuz I still liked her but it was the worst thing I’ve done in my life; we stayed friends for 4 months after the break up. She threw me in hell in those months. She would play with my head telling me she’ll give me another chance then she’ll change her mind again and says its better we stay friends. For me no it’s not possible to stay friends with your ex, why would you want her as a friend? I imagine you have friends around you already right?. Just let her go once its over it’s over, you deserve much better!
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reader, nokutenda  +, writes (4 December 2008):
its not a good idea to be friends with an ex because you will never get over her.
how can you be friends when she doesn't want to see you,is busy and wants to concentrate on her studies.she is being selfish
let her be don't agree to the friendship thing
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2008): Yes, it happened to me. I'm still asking the same question myself. What I am finding out is that it is extremely difficult to be friends with that person when you still have feelings for them. When you see that person, at times you do not know how to act or what to say. I think you would be better off not seeing or talking to her. Give yourself time, alot of time. What is it that you really want? Be honest with yourself and her. Let her know your feelings. Let everything be out in the open. I hope you get what you want. Good Luck.
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reader, KickRox +, writes (3 December 2008):
 Yeah, I agree with Asked Angel..you can stay as friends only if both of you are over each other. Otherwise, it's just hard and you must go your separate ways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2008): My best friend is an ex boyfriend. We dated 5 years and it didn't work out, but neither of us could stand to lose the other as a friend. We've now been friends only for 3 years, I see or talk to him almost every day, and I foresee that it will continue this way a long time. If it doesn't bother you to see your ex girlfriend as a friend only, I say go for it. However, if you still have romantic feelings for her, this may be hard. Only you can decide if you can be around her and not desire more than she's willing to give.
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reader, Asked Angel +, writes (3 December 2008):
 I think ex's can be friends but only if the two are really other each other.It is nearly impossible to stay friends if one person still has feelings for the other.I can't see any reason why you can't be friends if that's what you both really want.
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