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writes: Hi, I'm 20 years old and have been with the love of my life for about 7 months now, we have a terrific past with each other before dating and now that were finally together its been the happiest times of my life. Before we were head over heels for each other and she told me I'm the greatest thing that has ever happened to her and she wants to spend her life with me. That was before. Now, were both in different colleges: i live in a student house she commutes from home, so we don't get to see each other that often. I'm starting to feel that the romantic flare is fading on her side, and I'm trying my best to keep it alive! I'm pulling out all the stops to entertain her when we are together but she just seems bored with me in general. I feel that our get-togethers have reverted back to those awkward first dates scenarios where im constantly trying to impress her and i dont know why! Most of the time shes more excited about going to another event and acts like hanging out with me has become some sort of a chore, even though we see each other MABYE once a week. Not all of this is bad though, if i miss talking to her for one night she tells me she can barely get to sleep and is upset. And another credit to her is that she is really busy and has to balance A LOT of things in her life, with me being one of them. Still i feel I'm starting to do all of the legwork in the relationship! Tell me, am i smothering her and that's the reason shes become bored with me? Tell me how i can get her attention again! She says she'd do anything for me, but actions speak louder than words and lately that has not amounted to squat. She the best thing going in my life, and i don't want to screw this up. Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, KickRox  +, writes (11 February 2009):
 I am a student and work full-time. My bf just works. Communication is the key to any relationship. So, I suggest you sit down with her and tell her how you're feeling.
After awhile it's not that you're bored of that person, it's just that you get used to each other. But I find ways to spice things up everytime I see him..whether it's with a kiss or simply make him say 'Wow' with what I'm wearing.
Hope this helps! And keep me posted.
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reader, peach459  +, writes (11 February 2009):
You don't know for sure that she's bored with you, that is just your interpretation. Sometimes people get complacent in relationships but that doesn't mean that the relationship no longer means anything to them. I think your best option is to talk to her about how you're feeling. Try not to be accusing, but you have to get all your feelings out into the open.
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