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writes:Where are all the decent men who don't lie? Do they exist? If they do where would they be or how do I find them? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2008): Yep Tux, indeed... never ask "dose my butt look big in that"... goes along with "your sure I'm the most beautiful girl in the world".... cause my always lie about those things.
mmmm... your right, I've never met a truthful man, I was wrong... lol
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reader, tux  +, writes (11 December 2008):
 Good remarks DiovanLestat. It's nice to know that you also realize that not all women are angels themselves. But like most people have said, if you are always catching guppies while fishing for trout, find a different spot to fish.
On another note, please don't ask us how you look in that dress or how is your hair or does your butt look big... especially if you are going to get mad if we told you the truth. ;) Just a quick side note.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2008): Decent guys are everywhere, never met a guy that's lied to me yet..... Change the type of guys your looking at.. That sexy, bad boy, whose exciting to be with... He's exciting cause he's unpredictable and that means I'm unlikely to trust him... Not all men lie.... and men think the same thing about women, women can hurt too....
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2008): 1. nowhere
2. no
3. nowhere
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (14 November 2008):
They have a club that they meet in once a month.
The location is secret though.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): ok so i'm assuming u haven't met nice decent guys lately. which means u have to change what u r doing. in a famous seinfeld program - george costanza (loser) did the opposite & got the girl out of his league & a job at the yankees. one of my divorced female friends resolved to flirt with lots of guys & accept every date for 30 days (she was really attractive so got lots of dates) & she married a guy who she would never have given a chance. do something diff, but be careful & go slow until u know he's right.
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reader, girly_85 +, writes (14 November 2008):
They supposedly exist. To me it appears that all the good ones "are" taken. I'm on the same quesst as you. But a lot of people do say that time you aren't looking for anyone or even considered with men, that's when a good one will come into your life. But good luck girly, you'll find someone when its meant for them to come into your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): It has taken me all my life to find a truly decent guy who doesn't lie, do drugs, or cheat! And I found him at a time in my life when I really wasn't lookin' As one of the other posters said...It depends where you're meeting these guys. Bars are the absolute worst place to hook up with someone. Also, think about what attracts you to these losers. Sometimes what we are attracted to causes us to make the same mistakes over and over again, yet expect different results! There comes a time (if we are making the same mistakes) We need to evaluate our behavior and choices. Do a little self-analysis. And try to re-invent ourselves!
Good Luck and oh, by the way...There are good men out there!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (14 November 2008):
 Well, I'm married to one and most of the men I know fall into the decent category. Read 'bemused's' answer carefully; she makes some excellent points. I met my guy through friends. It took me a little while to realize that he was a real find. Sometimes the best guys are right under our noses and we are too busy enjoying the drama of the so-called 'bad boys'. You know that guy who has been relegated to the 'friend zone' because he's not as hot as Brad Pitt? The one who makes you laugh even as you despair at his choices in clothing? Maybe he's slightly nerdy or spent too much time at the library studying when he was in school. Maybe he's a bit too skinny or a bit too short or a bit too heavy or he's losing some of his hair.
The decent guys can be difficult to meet because they tend not to like the bar scene and they're busy with work, or their charities or their friends and families. They tend not to chase women and don't engage in whirlwind romances where they come on hot and heavy one minute then wind up in the corner at the pub snogging your soon-to-be-ex-best friend. They tend to be cautious and careful, considerate of other's feelings and polite. They could be seen as boring, until you get to know them a little. Then you realize what gems they are. Perhaps not perfectly polished, but gems nonetheless.
Open your eyes, change your scenery, pay attention to the guys who are friends with your friends. They most certainly are out there. You just have to look in the right places and with the right attitude.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): Well if you keep insulting men then they will really not want to be with you, i will garantee you that. Why dont you look at yourself and ask yourself why you dont trust them in the first place, ill be honest im a guy and most other guys i know are complete assholes but thats life for me. You should be happy, we all deserve to be happy.
f**k the bad people, i would treat any women with complete respect if i got it back, the problem is. You seem to think im a liar and you dont even know me................................see where im coming from. let you guard down, loosen up. it will come
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (14 November 2008):
 I don't know, but tell me if you find HIM. I hear they are pretty scarse.lol
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reader, cyborgninja911 +, writes (14 November 2008):
 Good guys are everywhere, you just need to look in the right places. If it seems like all the guys you date end up being jerks, then you might be attracted to jerks. Pay more attention to those gentlemen who you wouldn't give a second glance, there might be more than meets the eye. Im a nice guy, and I have to work twice as hard to get a girl's attention. Give nice guys a chance, you might be surprised. : )
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reader, bemused  +, writes (14 November 2008):
 I am going to wade into the fray here. There are good guys out there for sure. I might even venture to say there are more that a few. Where, my dear are you meeting these losers who have hurt you and shattered your trust. I would not give up on men yet. If you do, especially as you are so young...well it is pretty much guaranteed no one will come your way. In my humble experience, when I met guys in bars...there were always issues but when I quit the bar scene and got involved in things that mattered to me, they came forward and they were quality guys. Bear in mind that the good looking sweet talkers that everyone seems to want are also the love and leave em type and they will let you down most of the time. Instead, think of the guy who is shy about making the first move, who notices you but is socially inept sometimes because he has not had the love and leave em experience. This would be the nice guy. Do you want a nice guy? If you do I would wager there is someone out there for you. Do not assume all guys are like some of the winners who have hurt you and made you jaded. Keep up your hopes hun :)
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reader, KickRox +, writes (14 November 2008):
 1. No
2. No.
3. No, Sorry.
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reader, TheBigVenti +, writes (14 November 2008):
Decent men are forced to be indecent through the teenages. Trust me on this one. There are hundreds of great guys who, all they want is to make you smile and make your life as best as possible when they're with you, but are forced to be the stereotypical jerkoffs that we all know. because let's face it, girls from as early as 14 to as late as the 30's are in fact attracted to assholes. We men pick up on this, and act this way, because we know you'll respond. But this is definitely a learned behavior. do your part as women to reverse the process. educate your daughters. and remember, most jackasses were once willing to be the nice guy. just bring it back out of him.
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reader, gojira343 +, writes (14 November 2008):
No they don't, sorry to burst your bubble but through my experience they don't! No one is perfect and even if you think they are good people they probably have somthing to hide... anyway there are really awesome human beings out there but they are kind of rare.... and they probably have someone any way..... but don't get your hopes up.
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