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writes:Here's the story. Met this guy at a live music venue, 5 weeks ago. I was with someone else but we managed a quick excited chat (I liked what I saw, he surely seemed like he liked what he's seen too). Had to go earlier but we exchanged a pat on the back and 'it was nice to meet you'. In an inspired moment I said I surely will come back to this live music venue regularly from now on, since I like it very much. Okay. Next time, I go with another friend to this live music venue. My friends leaves. I decide to hang on for a bit. Theguy shows up. We end up having a lovely 1 hour long conversation outside. 2 weeks pass. 5th week, I am at the live venue with another friend. Surprisingly, this guy shows up again, It was like seeing an old friend. He was just passign by, so we had a short nice chat. Left it at that. But when leaving, he asked for my number. So we exchanged.. Next day he texted me with his email add. I played ball and emailed. Been emailign daily sort of sharing life details. Established we'll meet up again this next saturday int he live venue,where I will be with another friend of mine. HE seems a sport and good company. But is does he fancy me or is he the freindly type? He has graciously (or politely) registered all teh signals I have sent. I have been out of the dating scene for a long while now and this feels like ateenager's game. Does he fancy me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionand also.. litle remarks he make or things he said during our night out together.. like 'we should definately go next time to this place bla blah' or when he made a joke and i didnt get it he seemed to bask in my confusion and said 'oh, you;ll get used to my humour', etc.. did it go well?:-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell.. date went good, i think.. he is either a bit shy or really not interested.. i felt on top and alwaysw controlling the conversation and the evening, and him following me happily and almost reliefed andlighting up whenever i took a decision,like where to go next and what to drink etc. felt very warm and pally pally and got the same vibes from him. he also insisted to accompany me home but declined politely myoffer for a coffee upstairs after all those cocktails. we had a long hug declaring one more time how lovely it was to spend the evenign together and then he said he hopes to see me again and definately before xmas.is that a hit or a miss then?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionif he was a 'girlfriend' we would definately end up at my place with a take away a last drink and a nice relaxed chat in cosy athmosphere. I really mean only this much. but should i be wiser?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI need urgent advice.. meeting him up in the next days ( the first meeting was postponed). We have been texting /emailing casually and keeping up the beat, in a friendly way, things moved on to teasing but not too much. Tomorrow he is coming in my neighbourhood.. we will goout here.. SHould I invite him to my place after? what would he make of me? It's not about s_x, i just enjoy his company so much , wouldlove to wind down with a coffee/relaxed drink at my place. not intending anything else.. do you think he would read into this anythign different, just an excuse for me to bed him? I dont intend to,i just like him very much. SHould i?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes hmmmm.. I think all of you are saying the same thing... and especially you the anon guy, about not being too responsive, I think you have a point. I decided to not reply to his last email that he sent last night( although I would love to do so, we really are having good conversations and a joke on the side) but you are rihgt, it can get too much and then when I see him it could be like everything that's to be talked about is being exhausted already in the emails. Maybe the emails are creating a sort of intimacy that is very premature in this situation.. I will keep it casual and fun. I can tell myself it's too early for anything and I dont feel ready for anythign apart from having some fun and getting to know interesting people, but he is adorable and such good company. Thank you all for your advices I will keep you updated :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2008): yes he fancies u BUT he seems painfully shy so if u make a move it will EITHER give him confidence OR freak him out. just keep it casz & fun, don't be too responsive. good luck
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reader, KickRox  +, writes (26 November 2008):
 It sounds like he's interested. Just go with the flow and have fun! Just be yourself and things will turn out great, no pressure. And yes, fancies you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Teacake. It's just having these positive vibes from someone else, kinda exciting :-). I decided to pursue the being freindly no strings attached startegy. It seems to work since it allows for being silly and teasing and also having serious conversations, and enjoyeing the company. It'snice when you hit it off with someone so easily, wihtout any pretentious behavious on either side ( well none from mine anyway).
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reader, xxaziexx +, writes (26 November 2008):
 he seems interested, but take things slow :)
good luck
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reader, Teacake +, writes (26 November 2008):
 Obviously he is interested. The future can not be known at this point.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2008): Give it a go it seems he does so go for it girl! U may get good out of it. And yes he also seems very kind. (take him to meet your mum and dad) if things go good. Best wishes
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI quite fancy him, shoudl I push the boundaried and make a move ( ohhow i'd love to, I dont usually like men so easily, but weirdly I did like him a lot). Or shoudl I play wie and let it develop into a nice friendship - or a relationship where personality is more important than whims and chemistry and sexual attraction?...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2008): I would say YES, he fancies you!
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