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... Send *arlgoo a private message | | | *arlgoo's profile:I am 16 currently and have a 14 year old girlfriend which is amazing. There is many dilemmas with her dad about little things and that's mostly the reason i joined this site. Our parents get a long well which is nice. I live in ohio. I love it when i look into her eyes and see something special. |
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I am hurt and confused. How should I feel about this?!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for five months. This week I was grounded and she was texting him and told him that she likes him but loves me?! He has a girlfriend and she initiated this with him. What should I do about this? I am hurt and ...
A. 4 February 2009: Yep she has! 6 months we will have been dating on valentines day! :) Ty I got it all cleared up now lol... (read in full...)
I'm concerned about my girlfriend. What can I do?
Q. My girlfriend (14)who was being controlled by her dad thru fear just moved out of her dad's house and is living with her mom. She moved out because he is going to prison because she finally was able to tell somebody she was molested by him a few ...
A. 19 December 2008: thanks :)... (read in full...)
How do I tell her she is attractive?
Q. My friend recently confided in me that thought that she wasn't attractive, and that no guys like liked her. The real case is quite the opposite; i think she's a stunner! Her main complaint was that she had spots/acne that made her face look ugly. ...
A. 19 December 2008: It seems to me that you two may have feelings for each other. Look her in her beautiful eyes and tell her she is amazing. or You are so beautiful. Also if you guys text txt her and say good morning beautiful! my girlfriend melts every time I say ... (read in full...)
Bewildered...
Q. I suspect that my height has stopped me from getting a girlfriend, I'm 5ft9 and girls have told me that I'm good looking quite a few times when I show them a picture or in conversation. I also have a good personality judging by what lots of people ...
A. 18 December 2008: stop trying so hard to have a girlfriend and just let it happen is all i can think of...good luck... (read in full...)
Should I offer to split the bill and pay half the room cost?
Q. There isn't a right or wrong answer to this - I am simply looking for people's opinions on what they would do in this situation. My friend decided to go to Venice at the last minute and invited me to go also. I declined because I doubted I could ...
A. 18 December 2008: i would atleast say something about it and offer to pay half or some of the trip. Don't worry about your finances that much it is only money and people survive on the street with no money still right? I am not saying that you should go to this ... (read in full...)
We think she may have been molested by her dad
Q. My girlfriend has stretch marks on her boobs. Her dad put lotion on her. Her bf asked her about if he had ever touched her and told her that and that she felt extremely uncomfortable and had the same feeling that she did when she was molested when ...
A. 17 December 2008: her mom talked to her was pissed as hell went to the already planned counseling session with the dad and told the counselor and he had already confessed it, this specific form of abuse happened 7 or 8 times and other things happened. The dad ... (read in full...)
Does anyone out there have any pointers on courting a girl whom you really like?
Q. Back in August this insanely hot girl who kept smiling at me came into the store where I work and I didn't ask for her number, but another guy who also works there asked and she gave it to him. For months I've been wallowing in regret thinking of ...
A. 16 December 2008: ya i would bring it up casually if you see her again... (read in full...)
Does anyone out there have any pointers on courting a girl whom you really like?
Q. Back in August this insanely hot girl who kept smiling at me came into the store where I work and I didn't ask for her number, but another guy who also works there asked and she gave it to him. For months I've been wallowing in regret thinking of ...
A. 29 November 2008: i dunno man that sucks...is it a cell? if it is a cell maybe she just didn't pay the bill or have it payed...or if it is a landline maybe they disconnected it cuz money is short..just keep trying it maybe the bill will get paid.... (read in full...)
Does anyone out there have any pointers on courting a girl whom you really like?
Q. Back in August this insanely hot girl who kept smiling at me came into the store where I work and I didn't ask for her number, but another guy who also works there asked and she gave it to him. For months I've been wallowing in regret thinking of ...
A. 26 November 2008: not a movie date..that just says that u can't handle being just one on one with her for a while.. go for a walk somewhere that you enjoy..a park...go ice skating etc..u can't talk during a movie and sometimes that says to girls i just wanna kiss u... (read in full...)
I can no longer stand my girlfriend's dad!
Q. I can no longer stand my girlfriend's dad! He is a great guy but he stresses me out so much and the last 2 days i have had this bad stomach ache because i have been so stressed!..He no longer wants me to put my arm around her and hold her unless she ...
A. 21 November 2008: Ya thanks but she really gets uspest if she thinks she is upsetting anybody and it is hard on her too because she feels like she she is upsetting me and doesn't want to upset her dad even if he is not around. (or won't find out).... (read in full...)
I want more attention, but is it because of me or is it him?
Q. hi their just a small relationship problem. ok me and my partner have be going out for about 5 months we new each other before as friends for another 5 - 7 months.. things were great in the beginning we had a few tiffs nothing special, then we...
A. 10 November 2008: have you talked to him about this? let him know that you want to feel like his princess again and just be completely honest.. it really helped with my relationship... (read in full...)
My mom walked in and caught us making out...
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 1/2 months.. she came over today and we were laying on the couch side by side watching the movie "Disturbia" and we starting kissing and then we made out for 10 mins or so and it was very intimate. This was ...
A. 10 November 2008: it turns out that her mom was not really even allowed to have a boyfriend until she was 18 so her mom really has no experience in this whatsoever and thinks that making out is gross.. lol but we are allowed to see each other and she is not grounded ... (read in full...)
It drives me crazy that my girlfriend tells her dad everything!
Q. My girlfriend tells her dad everything. I feel like it is because she just doesn't want to disappoint him. (she really has issues with wanting not to disappoint people) I know she is great with what we have done such as, making out and kissing... ...
A. 9 November 2008: Yeah i have let her know that and she told him about it and he got royally p.o'd about it and threatened to not let her date me but her dad has really changed and she is confused about it and wants to trust him with issues and i really don't ... (read in full...)
"Things would be different if you weren't my mate's girlfriend..."
Q. Hey real quick, I was at my friend's house last night and my other friends boyfriend turned up a bit later with his mate.. we were messing about and they were taking the piss coz I'm blonde and his mate said to me "I like you, what's your name?" ...
A. 9 November 2008: duh he likes you! lol He means if his friend was not dating you that he would ask you out.... (read in full...)
Do you think he loves me?
Q. Hi everyone there. Well, my bf says he loves me a lot. and I do believe him for he has done a lot for me. But whenever he is tense he dont even talk to me. once I called him (when he already had said not to call him )he talked too rudly. He ne...
A. 9 November 2008: Talk to him about it very gently and let him know that it bothers you and you want to work through your problems together.... (read in full...)
My mom walked in and caught us making out...
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 1/2 months.. she came over today and we were laying on the couch side by side watching the movie "Disturbia" and we starting kissing and then we made out for 10 mins or so and it was very intimate. This was ...
A. 9 November 2008: my parents are just concerned because we did not make a decision about it before hand and just followed our emotions. My mom think we will follow our emotions again and go too far...Recently her mom has moved out and left her and her brother with ... (read in full...)
Is it just porn or is it something worse?
Q. Why would a guy I date/live for 10+ years go to such huge lengths to cover-up looking at tame Internet porno? He has a whole separate browser on our computer and it is set-up to basically not leave any "tracks". He says it's just because he's ...
A. 9 November 2008: work through it with him and ask him if he is willing to get an accountabiltity partner..one of his good friends maybe? here is a good site that really helped my parents...i dunno if you are religious person or not but they have some very good tips ... (read in full...)
He wants to be alone for a bit to get over my hurting him, do you think he will?
Q. me and myboyfriend have been together a long time about 5 years on and off .... but the last few years have been great .....just recently i hurt him ...we had a argument and over what i done ...which was i said he was lieing to me about something to ...
A. 25 October 2008: ya after being together for so long i am sure he will get over it. Don't bug him tho cuz he could get annoyed.... (read in full...)
My friend is putting doubts in my head...
Q. Well my boyfriend and I dont go to the same school, so I only see him 2-3 days a week (usually friday, saturday and sunday) During the school week (mon-thur) it seems like we're so busy that we barely talk (we talk about 1-2 days between mon-thurs) ...
A. 14 October 2008: Wow I would swear you are my girlfriend but my gf and i talk a lot during the week with txts and phone calls. Time with him just will be more special because you don't get to see him everyday or talk to him all the time. Distance makes you really ... (read in full...)
Why didn't she text me after the movie?
Q. I asked my girlfriend to txt me when she was done watching the movie she was watching with her family at her house and her brother started txting me around 8:00 and we got to talking and he told me the movie was done at 5:00! I talked to my ...
A. 14 October 2008: thanks...actually it turned out her dad was yelling at her for 40 mins about her priorities being messed up, until she had to go to a practice. ... (read in full...)
How can I feel better after breaking up with my first love?
Q. Hi, i have a problem about me and my ex. we were recentley dating but he says he doesnt want a girlfriend at the moment. im not sure what to do i am still madly in love with him and i didnt want to brewak up with him. he said nothing would ever ...
A. 14 October 2008: Just relax you are still really young. He will look back and say dang I wish I would of dated her and maybe he will still want to but guys just don't mature at that age just yet. Give it time. ... (read in full...)
I want to go to the prom but not without my girlfriend, how can I work around this?
Q. Prom is coming up. I am a junior and my girlfriend is a freshman. At both of our schools you HAVE to be a junior or senior to attend. I want to go but I do not want to go without her or without a date....
A. 14 October 2008: yeah that is what i was thinking... we have gone to homecoming twice now and I told her you know it stinks that you can't come to prom with me. She is fine with me going.
What do you mean making her happy?... (read in full...)
Could I ever tell him about these dreams?
Q. So this is weirding me out now. theres this guy on my bus every sunday afternoon. he's quite cute and seems to be my type. (shy, likes books, messy hair, wears hats :D) and for the past couple of weeks ive had dreams about him while asleep an...
A. 13 October 2008: hey i think he would really like it if you got to know him too. But i wouldnt tell him about your dreams right away until you know he might share the same feelings.... (read in full...)
I hit my boyfriend as a joke, but he took it serious and he hit me back. Please, I truly need help!
Q. Well last night my boyfriend and I went to a party and got drunk. After that I hit his lower side, basically his balls. I did it in a joke a stupid one. After that he slapped me in my face and i started bleeding. I was so shocked because he never ...
A. 13 October 2008: You were both drunk forgive each other and move on, but talk about it first.... (read in full...)
I can be my siblings' tutor (husband disagrees) or give them into foster care. Should I go against hubby's wishes?
Q. My sister (who's 5) and brother (who's 7) was being abuse by our parents who are now in jail. To a long story short the cops call me asking if wanted to be they'll guardian or they'll be in foster care. I don't want them to live with brunch of ...
A. 12 October 2008: i am adopted and i would be so ticked off and very sad if I had a sister that could of taken care of me.... (read in full...)
Ended over bad communication and now his feelings have all gone and mine haven't!
Q. Hey.. Long post but I really need help. You have to read this question: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/he-has-moved-on-and-i-am-still.html before reading the current one you are reading. So i spoke to him yesterday for 2 hours! and ...
A. 12 October 2008: Let him realize how much he misses you and stop bugging him would probably be the best thing to do.... (read in full...)
I don't know if I like him, but some other girl is after him! What do I do?
Q. Im not sure if a like a guy. He told me he liked me about a month ago, but i said i didnt know how i felt. Ive met him like 6 times and never felt a spark, but last time i kind of did. We havent met for a while, and weve kept it as friends but k...
A. 12 October 2008: Why are you not sure? it seems to me that you are only jealous and are not really into this guy.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my boyfriend might leave me when he finds out I'm pregnant!
Q. I have a couple problems that I need help with, so can somebody please answer my call for help? 1. I might be pregnant. 2. The father is a boy who doesn't even like me. 3. I've only had sex with two guys and now everyone who knows that tr...
A. 12 October 2008: First of all find out for sure if you are pregnant or not. Also ask your parents for help if possible. Then worry about the other things. Worry can show symptoms of pregnancy.... (read in full...)
Does not having a boyfriend make me immature or weird?
Q. I feel kind of immature and left out when I hear my friends talking about their boyfriends. I've had a "sort of boyfriend" before, but I don't think it counts because we never even held hands or kissed. Actually, I kicked him to the curb when I ...
A. 12 October 2008: it doesn't make you immature at all. Your friends may think it is weird but they are the ones who may regret what they did in highschool and be envious of your innocence.... (read in full...)
We're 15, we consider ourselves married but our parents don't wants us to be together and I hate them for this! I'm thinking about running away!
Q. Okay, let me start by saying I hate my parents! Now I'll explain why. I'm 15 and so is she. About 2 months ago I asked my girlfriend to marry me. We've never actually had sex but it has gone up to me giving her oral, she's never given it to me ...
A. 12 October 2008: Emotions and feelings can take you to your wildest dreams but sometimes those dreams are only dreams and you aren't in reality anymore. I think this situation would be normal if you two didn't think you were married.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is going too fast and won't listen to me when I tell him to stop!
Q. I'm 14 years old and my boyfrined is the same age. I had never really had a boyfriend before, and I am still a virgin. I'm really innocent and have never done anything bad, I never even kissed a guy. Then about 3 weeks ago we started going ou...
A. 12 October 2008: the kid doesn't have much respect for your wishes if he continues like that. But yes that is normal so he may not understand completely. Try and talk to him about it. Also relax a little about these things or break up with him if you think your ... (read in full...)
I think I might really like him but I'm not sure how to handle it! Help!
Q. I'm really stuck at the moment. I haven't liked someone properly since my last ex, we broke up in June. Since i dumped him, he's dated this new girl, slept with her, and cheated on her by sleeping with her (he asked me for sex but i told him to ...
A. 12 October 2008: it would be easier on the people involved in the relationship if you had contact besides on just msn like at school or from a local organization. Also don't be so desperate for a boyfriend...you're still young concentrate on other things that you ... (read in full...)
Should I give him my virginity?
Q. i fancied my best guy friend for so long and plucked up the courage to tell him how i feel (it took me months)..and he said he used to fancy me and has been messing with my head ever sence, blowing hot and cold and then saying he wants to be ...
A. 12 October 2008: If he does not want you to lose your virginity to him because he is afraid you would regret it, I would suggest that you do not because it seems that he does not want to commit only to you and hurt you because he does not have the dedication only ... (read in full...)
I am her first boyfriend, she is very nervous when I am close, how can I help her relax?
Q. My gf is always very nervous when we are together especially when i hold her hand or touch her leg or when we kissed for the first time. She is very great to be around when she is nervous too but i sort of feel bad for making her feel nervous. And ...
A. 9 October 2008: thanks inyourdreams that helps a lot. Blue angel i didnt really like how you assumed a lot of things instead of asking questions? i guess i would of liked that more but you do have good points and i know you mean well... (read in full...)
I think this girl is amazing and a personality to die for and I want to be with her but what do I do?
Q. Hi I have known a girl for 4 years. We were quite close but this year have really grown to like this girl and I eventually asked her out. We saw each other all Saturday and Sunday and we were brilliant together. But on Sunday night I got a call ...
A. 7 October 2008: I can see how it seems like she doesn't like you like that but I also feel that girls love to play "hard to get" because they like to be chased about things like that. I would hold out on contacting her less than you normally do and see what ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mum before she finds out herself?
Q. Hi, well my question/problem is this- I am 15 and recently had sex with my boyfriend of 11 month. We both love each other and don't regret anything but recently one of my friends slept with a boy from school and her mum and dad found out via her ...
A. 7 October 2008: Ask your self these questions
1)did you incriminate yourself through txts?
2)Are your parents likely to order a transcript of your txt from your service provider?
3)Are they likely to approve or over react and limit your privileges forever?... (read in full...)
How to deal with teh father of my baby dating my sister? They're both drug addicts!
Q. I started dating my best guy friend after a bad break up. We slept together for a bout two months and then I fond out I was pregnant. I decided to keep the baby. The best decision I ever made. As soon as I said I was keeping my son My baby's father ...
A. 7 October 2008: What is your definition of drug addicts? That could be a determining factor in this. If like you say they are drug addicts. From my experience with recovering and failing addicts is they have a longing to fill a gap and will fill it with anyone ... (read in full...)
Rumours are going round my boyfriend's sleeping with my EX!!!
Q. I'm 23, and my boyfriend's 25 and we live together. Our relationship's been great up until about 4 weeks ago. We were out shopping, and had fun in the sales, and I happened to see my ex (who lives in the same region/town as us). We got talking, ...
A. 7 October 2008: It's your ex? that can be weird for you but as long your boyfriend knows your ex isn't interested in you anymore it is just like another guy to him and doesn't want to let you know too much about it because maybe he does not want to hurt your ... (read in full...)
Is he confused about this new relationship?
Q. I lost my virginity to him and we were friends with benefits for months but i felt like I was being used so I said no more. He then asked me to be his girlfriend and intoduced me to his friends as his gf but then he started to freak out about this ...
A. 7 October 2008: I think he is just nervous and maybe really likes you and does not want to rush things so you two can stick together longer. Don't worry about sounding needy if you call him. I am sure he likes you so he won't fell pressured. Just ask him if he ... (read in full...)
Is her dad too over protective of her?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 1 1/2 months her dad is really protective. We were holding hands this weekend and later he asked her "Are your hands on each others legs when you hold hands at all?" her being the good daughter and obedient ...
A. 7 October 2008: she is 14 i am her first bf...Yea i agree that she should bring it to his attention I asked about talking to him about it and she said that she was scared that he might get mad at her... (read in full...)
Is it just porn or is it something worse?
Q. Why would a guy I date/live for 10+ years go to such huge lengths to cover-up looking at tame Internet porno? He has a whole separate browser on our computer and it is set-up to basically not leave any "tracks". He says it's just because he's ...
A. 7 October 2008: he could feel guilty for even looking at that because he cares about you so much and didn't want to hurt you... (read in full...)
Is her dad too over protective of her?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 1 1/2 months her dad is really protective. We were holding hands this weekend and later he asked her "Are your hands on each others legs when you hold hands at all?" her being the good daughter and obedient ...
A. 7 October 2008: also her parents approve for sure. Her dad has said to me very personally that he is glad his daughter and I are dating and wants us to for a long time. so i know he trusts me and her i just dont understand why we can't make more decisions about our ... (read in full...)
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