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writes:I suspect that my height has stopped me from getting a girlfriend, I'm 5ft9 and girls have told me that I'm good looking quite a few times when I show them a picture or in conversation. I also have a good personality judging by what lots of people have told me and I am also quite confident and sociable when around others... I have noticed that guys who happen to be 2 or 3 inches taller, yet not as good looking with not much of a personality to speak of seem to effortlessly get a girlfriend, yet I can't! I have good hygiene, I'm well groomed and don't wear any strange clothes so it's not that, that's the problem. It has bewildered me, and I put it all down to height as it seems the only barrier, women where I'm from seem to be quite cold and distant too. It has got to me this past long while, I am EXTREMELY Frustrated and bitter about this apparent barrier that seems to stop be from 'getting' a girl. Any other suggestions as to what's stopping me getting a girl?
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (19 December 2008):
 Being 5'9 is not your problem. It's a perfectly decent height.
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reader, karlgoo  +, writes (18 December 2008):
 stop trying so hard to have a girlfriend and just let it happen is all i can think of...good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2008): Hi!i dont think that the problem here is your height because there are plenty of guys out there that are shorter than you, and there are many girls out there that are shorter that you, so you would still be taller. Is your height a personal insecurity of yours? because even I have ahd experiences where I feel like my insecurities are to blame for things that they actually arent to blame for. It is easy to go for what you think is a bad point of yours, but other people dont see what we see ourselves, we are our own worst critics. It seems to me like you are quite a confident lad in all others aspects, so perhaps this seems to be the easy blame.In all honesty, a person who really matters, will like you for you regardless of whether you are tall, short, chubby or super thin, so perhaps you are aiming towards the wrong people? Its only a shot in the dark having not known you, but maybe you need to look deeper than what you look like on the outside?Good Luck.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (18 December 2008):
 I think you posted this question before. Anyways, we're here to help.
Your height is not your problem. I live in a country where many males are much shorter than you are, and they don't have any trouble having girlfriends. Plenty of men we would define as "short", even where I live, get their girls. I don't know what problem you may have, but, if you don't see things as they are, you won't come up with any solutions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2008): It won't be your height which has stopped you getting a girlfriend- I know a number of guys who are your height or shorter, and they have partners. However, I can see that it is tempting to ascribe it to something that you consider to be an obvious factor. You just need to relax and let things happen- you can't force these things, and moreover, the more you stress about it, the worse it will get. But seriously, height is not really an issue in my experience. If you are a nice guy, and that is how you come across in your question, then things will happen.
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