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*weetiepiee :-)x.
writes:Hi, well my question/problem is this- I am 15 and recently had sex with my boyfriend of 11 month. We both love each other and don't regret anything but recently one of my friends slept with a boy from school and her mum and dad found out via her texts.. so I was wondering whether I should tell my mum in case she finds out or else wait till I am 16 and tell her?? Thanks if you reply :-)x..
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reader, sweetiepiee :-)x. +, writes (11 October 2008):
sweetiepiee :-)x. is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all the answers guys :-)(A) .. helped me alot xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2008): I'm in the same situation.
But depending on your mobile server your parents can buy and read what your texts actually said. I know tmobile can. So can verizon.
covering your tracks may seem easy, but it gets tedious. Be careful who u tell and how much u tell them.
my mom found out about me having sex and I denied it when she confronted me about it.
Just be careful. You'll do alright as long as you dont slack off on damage control. And use protection.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2008): id say that you should keep it to yourself....BUT the only thing is if you arent on birth control,you should get on it.you can do this without your parents knowing,but you will likely have to cover the cost yourself.so if your unable to pay for it on your own,then id suggest talking to your mom about your decision to have sex and that youd like to get on birth control so you can be safe from an unplanned pregnancy.your mom will probably even appreciate the fact that your being so mature as to inquire about birth control.it wont be an easy thing for her at first,but atleast that way she will see your being responsible.its normal for a lot of teens your age to become sexually active and im sure shes aware of this.whatever you choose,please get on birth control.it will be the smartest decision youve ever made.condoms only provide so much protection from pregnancy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2008): My boyfriend and I, when talking about sex through txts don't use the word "sex." We use a code and talk about it in a way that people who might read the texts won't suspect its about sex. Maybe you should try that? Always use protection because you won't be able to hide a pregnancy! Get on birth control to be sure.
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (8 October 2008):
 Keep private things private.
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reader, G_1212 +, writes (7 October 2008):
I lost my virginity at 14
but didnt tell my mam till I was 16...
however I had to lie again becausesge was shocked enough asshe thought I'd lost it at 15...
Its best to keep some things private x
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reader, Jack_McVeigh  +, writes (7 October 2008):
 Ok personally sweetheart i would save them the stress. I am gay so i hid more than you are doing from my family and most of my friends for about three years until i was 18. My only advice is when you have sex, just be sure to cover all your tracks. By that i mean get your stories straight- that way your parents can never find out. Secondly, just be sure to use a condom or something like that. I mean when me and my boyfriend had sex when we were 15, for obvious reasons it didnt matter that we didnt use protection (for obvious reason). You, on the other hand, things can change. I mean if you were to fall pregnant at 15... well you can imagine. So my advice is NOT to tell them just yet but just be carefull with both your sex and your stories. I wish you all the best. xxx Jack P McVeigh
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reader, karlgoo +, writes (7 October 2008):
 Ask your self these questions
1)did you incriminate yourself through txts?
2)Are your parents likely to order a transcript of your txt from your service provider?
3)Are they likely to approve or over react and limit your privileges forever?
Then make a logical decision if you are logical or make a emotional decision if you are emotional. Too bad you did not wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2008): I don't think you should. I think it is very hard for mothers to deal with their daughters becoming sexual beings. Since you are so young, it might be especially hard for her to handle, so I wouldn't bring it up. Don't feel like you have to tell her. I hardly think there are many women who have told their mothers when they began having sex.
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reader, dantheman852 +, writes (7 October 2008):
Well i believe you should follow your heart, but your mum will always love you no matter what you do, and you always have to remember that, but if you are seriously worried and don't want your mum to find out then delete/get rid of all evidence.
1)If you are pregant (did not use protection) then you should tell her or she will find out eventually
2)If you are not pregant then it doesn't really matter and you should tell her if you fell you have to.
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