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writes:Back in August this insanely hot girl who kept smiling at me came into the store where I work and I didn't ask for her number, but another guy who also works there asked and she gave it to him. For months I've been wallowing in regret thinking of all the things I should have said but didn't have the nerve to! Well, today was my lucky day and this girl came into the store, looking as gorgeous as ever I might add. Well, because I played the "If I ever see her again" scenario in my head only like a bazillion times I had what I knew just what to say! I immediately dropped what I was doing (holding a Christmas tree) ran over there and chatted her up for about 15 minutes. During our convo I made her laugh a lot. I asked her for her number and she put it in my phone! This is soooooo awesome! I prayed for a second chance with this girl and now I've got it. Now I really like this girl and I've only had one serious relationship so I'm nervous about how to proceed. I'm definitely going to call her tonight. Play it real casual but not too casual as I don't want to be caught in the "friends zone". Does anyone out there have any pointers on courting a girl whom you really like? Do I ask her what she's doing on thanksgiving then Maybe invite her to see a movie if she's not busy? What do I do now? Thanks in advance!
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reader, karlgoo +, writes (16 December 2008):
 ya i would bring it up casually if you see her again
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reader, Solidus +, writes (1 December 2008):
Solidus is verified as being by the original poster of the question I personally think she just played me to the left. The other dude who got her number back in august got a "happy thanksgiving" text message from her the next day so, I'm assuming that her cell phone does work. Oh well, I guess I just have to get over this, huh? You win some, you lose some, right? A female friend of mine says if I like her so much that I should "appeal" this (as in dust yourself off and try again) if I see her again and play it cool, but bring it up casually as if I don't care. If I see her again should I bring it up and try again?
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reader, karlgoo +, writes (29 November 2008):
i dunno man that sucks...is it a cell? if it is a cell maybe she just didn't pay the bill or have it payed...or if it is a landline maybe they disconnected it cuz money is short..just keep trying it maybe the bill will get paid.
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reader, Solidus +, writes (27 November 2008):
Solidus is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell...I just dialed the number she gave me...and the answer I got was "The number you have dialed is not a working number" I've tried it every way possible with no results. This really breaks my heart. Do you think maybe she made a mistake or was she just playing me to the left?
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reader, Solidus +, writes (27 November 2008):
Solidus is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot Flynn 24, that was very good advice!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2008): "Treat her as you would like to be treated."
And what happens if you are into S&M and pain and cutting and all? :P
Seriously thought. Just take her out to dinner, or the movies, museums are good because they allow you to walk around with each other for a while and this gives good conversation starters because there is always shit to talk about in a museum.
I too am courting a girl I met at work. She's from Brazil and is learning English (she speaks really well, so communication is not that much of an issue) and to me, she is the epitome of hotness.
We are trying to organise time to hang out, but our work schedules and her study ones (she's in University) make it not so easy.
I'm taking it as a good sign that SHE called ME the other day to see if I wanted to do anything (I was working so I couldn't). So we're planning on going to see an opera as we both love them.
Just don't try to be a lover. Be a friend. Don't hide that fact that you like her more than that, it's obvious on date that you are interested as more than a friend anyway, but just be nice and flirt a little.
Never expect aything in return though. It isn't about recieving, it's about giving during a courtship. If all works out, you'll reap your rewards later anyway. But for the moment, keep it all about her.
Flynn 24
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reader, Solidus +, writes (26 November 2008):
Solidus is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHmmm, well where we live there are a lot of places to go other than the movies. No parks or places for ice skating type stuff.
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reader, ryandude18  +, writes (26 November 2008):
 Treat her as you would like to be treated.
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reader, karlgoo +, writes (26 November 2008):
not a movie date..that just says that u can't handle being just one on one with her for a while.. go for a walk somewhere that you enjoy..a park...go ice skating etc..u can't talk during a movie and sometimes that says to girls i just wanna kiss u
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