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writes:hi their just a small relationship problem.ok me and my partner have be going out for about 5 months we new each other before as friends for another 5 - 7 months.. things were great in the beginning we had a few tiffs nothing special, then we ran into a problem. one of his female friends was always flirting with him even when she had a bf and he had me.. so i told him i wasn't comfortable with it and he said i should be because i should be able to trust him. so i moved on from that. i still dont like the idea but nothing i can do other than keep my opinion to myself. we live long distance too. i know not the smartest move but oh well, you cant help where the heart falls.. so we seen each other a few times since then things were good. then out of the blue we argue about the stupidest thing like he will get all defensive, thinking i am attacking him when i'm not then he'll say something and ill take it personally. now when i think back to how we were, we used to talk all the time. now i'm lucky if i get and hour of his time a day, lucky if i get a HI, kiss, hug bye. i felt like his princess and now i feel like shit that he doesn't care about and when i say i don't feel like a special princess no more and he says, well i love you isnt that the main thing? :| i dont ask for much at all and it feels like when i want to, i shouldn't because he will give me a stupid reply .i cant fight back like "well i love you isnt that enough" -- what are you meant to say to that? yes, i want more attention and a present would be nice like a bunch of flowers :( i feel like i get more attention from my other male friends than i do with my partner its beginning to depress me that i feel like we are drifting apart :(.. please help me i want to know what i can do .. i hope i'm not selfish because i never want to portray that i just want a little attention from my partner and i just dont feel it is it me ? or is it him ? thanks in advance LA x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks so much for your answer girls spot on so glad to hear your opinions thanks so much i feel a bit better now and yes i will have a talk with him thanks so much LA xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, melanie.amanda +, writes (10 November 2008):
hi, the long distance thing can be an issue, i no. so all the more reason for special treats, and making u feel like he has missed you. " i love you isnt that enough?" er... well no, u want to feel he wants you, not he is jus because he loves you! u need to no this person wil do absolutely anything for you, and that includes treating you like a special princess!! this guy needs a bit of a realtiy check, i would suggest asking what is going on?? why he dosent treat u as he did, and excuses like work ect.. dont cut it, cos u can work around them. as for this girl, she just sounds like the girl who has her own but as they are friend, wants u to no she has her own relationship with him which u are not part of. i would try and befriend her first, and maybe get to no her, suggest a double date??? if shes still being a cow play her at her own game, creep to ur boyf in front of her and show her u dont care bout her and what she thinks, he is urs, but then again u can only do this if ur comfortable with it, so u need to sort it with him frist, x
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reader, karlgoo  +, writes (10 November 2008):
 have you talked to him about this? let him know that you want to feel like his princess again and just be completely honest.. it really helped with my relationship
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