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writes:I have a couple problems that I need help with, so can somebody please answer my call for help?1. I might be pregnant.2. The father is a boy who doesn't even like me.3. I've only had sex with two guys and now everyone who knows that treats me like a whore, and I'm starting to think that about myself also. 4. I'm afraid my boyfriend will leave me if I'm carrying another boys child5. I'm only 13 and I won't be 14 until Augest 21st 09
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reader, kody08 +, writes (13 October 2008):
Wow all can say is to figure this out with the help of an obgyn, remember you are still very young and you have alot more to worry about in your life than if your boyfriend is going to leave you. I think you really should talk to your parents a concelor or some close to you..
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reader, asian tealeaf  +, writes (13 October 2008):
 and thats why we agony aunts take the time and have the genuine concern to tell young folk like u that you are just too young for relationships. that sex can wait. ur bf is immature. and if have these doubts in him and he is not even aware of this pregnancy yet, then u must of known he is not mature enough to handle adult situations. but neither are u. have u confirmed the pregnancy? if u are 100% then since u were adult enough to have sexual relations at ur age with this guy, then u can also take the adult step and tell the guy and ur parents about ur situation. scared? well, thats what adults do. we face our problems head on. this is called maturity. so swallow ur fears and face this head on. be confident and tell ur parents. maybe, they might actually be impressed with ur state of maturity. it takes courage and all to face such a predicament. knowing or frearing ur parents reaction. lets not worry about ur circle of friends at school, or what ur bfs reaction will be like. and if ur bf cant face this with a mature attitude, then turn ur head. and start to make decisions regarding whether u will keep or adopt or abort the pregnancy. and a word of advice to u..
dont let anyone guilt trip u into thinking abortion is not the answer or that its cruel. it is a realistic option. at least u did not secretly give birth and dump the fetius into a bin. and abortions are legal. and not cruel if done before the child has a heartbeat. so dont ignorew ur options, but explore them being fully informed of the pros and cons. its ur life in the end. and speaking as a mother of 2, i can tell u at ur age u will be very hard pressed. its a job people ur age shoulod not be undertaking. education is the tools that will equip u later on in life to handle motherhood. ur still dependent on ur parents. how can u be a parent urself? and welfare is not a life u want to provide for the child either. good luck.
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reader, sexysweetandsixteen  +, writes (12 October 2008):
 Ok babe..first you have you tell your mum or dad. They might not be happy but they love you and will support you no matter what. Then you have to decide if you re keeping i. This may depend of your thoughts on abortion. The father shouldn't matter anyway its your child, he has the choice if he wants to be a part of its life. Ad for your current bf if he loves you he will stick by you if not just forget about him. Your new baby will be the most important thing in your life when its born. And your only a whore if you act like one. So if you think your ebing a whore stop it and act more mature about things.
Hope i helped.
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reader, Sega +, writes (12 October 2008):
My dear sweet child! My heart goes out to you. At this point, you are about to grow up very, very fast. Listen, I would not be worried about that boyfriend for now.
You did not say if your parents are aware of this or not. If not, then you need to let them know ASAP. They will be upset, angry, disappointed, and maybe sad. But, they love you, and they will come around to support you. You will need them through all of this.
You know, what is done is done. You cannot change the past. But, just say from this day forward, you will not put yourself in a position where people can speak about you in this manner.
You may need to find out who the father is at a later time, but I would not worry about that now. You need to be planning how you will finish school and support and care for your baby. If you are pregnant, then you and your parents will need a game plan for the future. Perhaps you will raise your child or put it up for adoption.
Remember, you are NOT a whore. You just made a bad decision to have sex so early...that's all. If this boy abandons you, then he did not deserve you anyway! Just promise yourself that from this day forward, you will wait to have sex. You are a special young lady who was seeking acceptance in some not so good places.
I don't know you, but I am pulling for you and I will pray for you, the father, and your families. I love you as a child of God, and God does too!!
You are in my thoughts, and I know you will do the right thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2008): Well, first off...take a pregnancy test. If by some amazing luck you aren't pregnant, learn from your apprehension about the situation you are potentially in now and GO GET BIRTH CONTROL. Make the boys you sleep with use condoms, too.
If you are pregnant, well, your choices are going to depend on the laws where you live. You can always get an abortion, but your parents may have to be aware and on board with it since you are WAY underage. D**m straight your boyfriend is going to leave you. What 13-year-old wants a kid, especially someone else's? You are both children yourselves!
And with regard to people calling you a whore...you're 13 and have "only" had sex with two guys? Well, if you don't want to be called a whore, don't act like one! You are far too young to be having sex anyway, if you want my honest opinion.
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reader, doyou?dontyou? +, writes (12 October 2008):
Hi, i've just read ur problem and i want to see if i can help you.
the first thing that you need to do is get yourself down to your local doctors.
i want to focus on your boyfriend first. You sy you think he'll leave you? well to be fair if he really truly loves you then you have nothing to worry about he will stay with you.
secondly i know your only 13 but the best thing you can do for yourself is to ignore the stupid remarks that other people make and think more highly of yourself.
if the father doesnt like you then he obviously isnt worth your time. i know single mum may sound pretty scary but you will always have family around to help along with your true friends. feel free to talk to me again if you need more help.
Good Luck
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reader, karlgoo +, writes (12 October 2008):
 First of all find out for sure if you are pregnant or not. Also ask your parents for help if possible. Then worry about the other things. Worry can show symptoms of pregnancy.
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