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writes: My sister (who's 5) and brother (who's 7) was being abuse by our parents who are now in jail. To a long story short the cops call me asking if wanted to be they'll guardian or they'll be in foster care. I don't want them to live with brunch of strangers. When I talked my husband about it he said no because he doesn't like kids. It causing fights between us. And he's telling I'm being selfish for ruining our relationship. Should I go against his wishes and by taking in my siblings anyway? Any ideas?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (24 October 2008):
 Well we knew he wasn't going to react favorably now didn't we? I guess I'd let him cool down and see if he will be willing to discuss this situation with you. I'm sure everybody he talks to about this will be on your side and tell him to grow up. Keep us posted we are rooting for you babe!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy husband came home early for my brithday with flowers. But then saw my siblings (that ruin the momeat) he so mad slammed the door behide him. What should I do? He wont pick up when I call him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy husband is out of town for 4 months. So I took in my siblings. I know this might cause some fights but I care. I let his sister (who annoys me and he knows it) stay with us when her boyfriend cheated on her. Hes going to be suprised when he get backs.
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reader, wonderful me +, writes (13 October 2008):
girl i say take your brother and sister in because men come a dime a dozen and tell your husband you love him in all but you have to do this for your brother and sister not no one else so may God be with you and my prayers are with you good luck. P.S how you marry some one who dont like kids. Do you like kids?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2008): my sister is 4, and my brother is 11! if anything, ANYTHING AT ALL happened to them, id put them over anyone! i may only be 16, but i do understand! i adore my sister, dunno what id do without her and my brother i love to bits too! must admit i favour my sister, but love them the same! theyd come first no matter what! yes, yes, yes!! go against his wishes, your siblings would never ever forgive you if you let them go! good luck babe x
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reader, karlgoo +, writes (12 October 2008):
 i am adopted and i would be so ticked off and very sad if I had a sister that could of taken care of me.
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reader, CupidsSidekick  +, writes (12 October 2008):
 babe,
you love your own blood right?
if hes a good husband he will give you respect and help you not go against you.
it doesnt matter if he doesnt like kids.
their your siblings.
HOW DARE HE!
please do whats right for your siblings.
im sure they need you at this time.
;) Cupids Sidkick -Ox
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reader, LottyLove +, writes (12 October 2008):
 ever heard of family first/ you husbandovbiosly didnt, although its a big commitment, your younger siblings need you more than your husband does, they are destressed helpless children that need family, he is a grown man thats ovbiosly selfish and inconsiderate, i couldnt possably judge him, because i dont know you guys, but leting your brother and sibling go into fostercare because your husband isnt a kid person is a bad excuse, he needs to understand its need over want and convince him to atleast go along with a trial, to see how it goes, its probaly not that bad, kids mean well. let meknow what happens x
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reader, stacee +, writes (12 October 2008):
oh my gosh! hes the one being selfish and ruining your realtionship not only with eachother but possibly with your siblings too! how do you think theyll feel knowing that the reason you didnt save them from strangers after thyve been abused by the people that where suppost to protect them, is because your husband didnt want you too...
they are not babies and its not like youre asking for him to have anything to do with them except give them a room in your SHARED house... i say you save them... take them in and love them like your parents should have... no doubt you do love them alot anyway...
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reader, xelax +, writes (12 October 2008):
i would look after my siblings no matter what my husband says, they are your flesh and blood noway would i let them go into care
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