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*arlgoo
writes:My girlfriend tells her dad everything. I feel like it is because she just doesn't want to disappoint him. (she really has issues with wanting not to disappoint people) I know she is great with what we have done such as, making out and kissing... that's it... we talk about everything together and she tells me that she talks with her dad as I do mine sometimes but I feel if something ever happened that I only wanted her to know that she would tell her dad even if I asked her not to tell anybody.. This is just driving me crazy that she tells him everything.
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reader, the one who doesn't know  +, writes (9 November 2008):
 Do you trust her? I guess I know the answer. Now, sometimes we grow up not having anyone but THAT one person to talk to and that makes us depend on that person. I guess she told her everything, and that her dad is a very important person to her bla bla... but where do you fit in?! that's exactly my point. Normally girls talk to their bf, things that they don't want to talk to their parents. but if things are like you say they are, then maybe it's time to sit and talk to her, and ask her about why does she says everything to her dad. Same old story. Then say you want to share something with her, and only with her and tell something, noboby else knows something, strange, romantic, fantasise, even, begin to share secrets with her, and only with her, and ask her to do the same... or don't. Do what you think best, cause I'm tired, I've answered about 40 questions in one hour, and in my country it's time to sleep.best wishes
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reader, karlgoo +, writes (9 November 2008):
karlgoo is verified as being by the original poster of the question Yeah i have let her know that and she told him about it and he got royally p.o'd about it and threatened to not let her date me but her dad has really changed and she is confused about it and wants to trust him with issues and i really don't understand it. Her dad is also very controlling and she doesn't want to dissappoint him i guess? if he would find out.
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reader, GreenCurls +, writes (9 November 2008):
 If you haven't told her that you feel like that then you probably should. Even if you think it'll hurt her feelings, you should definitely let her know that this is bothering you. If you've already mentioned this, then maybe you should just try to be more comfortable with her dad knowing everything about you. (and that would be ... kind of strange) You should definitely let her know exactly how much its bothering you.
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