Need ideas for my gf's birthday coming up!
Q. Hi all, Happy New Year! It is my girlfriends birthday coming up and I need some help thinking of a/some presents for her. I've done the usual - Necklaces, bracelets, Watch, and even an engraved pen before plus taken her on holiday, meals and shows ...
A. 14 January 2010: Aw bless! Happy New Year to you too! It looks like you've covered a lot of presents already....how about something involving photos of you both together? If you are at all arty perhaps a collage of photos? Or even if you're not- the effort is cute! ... (read in full...)
Suggestions about 'breaking up'?? Anyone know any good ones?
Q. This isn't really a relationship question. But i was wondering, does anyone know some songs about you and your girlfriend breaking up and then you replace her but start to realize shes the only one you need and you want her back. Prefera...
A. 14 January 2010: 'Sometime Around Midnight' by The Airborne Toxic Event.
It's about a guy who sees his ex-girlfriend in a bar and clearly still loves her as all the memories of his time with her come rushing back. However she is with someone else now and it tear... (read in full...)
Is he braggin? Or is it true what he says?
Q. Dear cupid; i am soo sooo confused i have been with this guy for almost a year and a half...but i dont really feel so sure about our relationship. i have his email password and once i checked his email. i know it is wrong. but when i did it i found ...
A. 14 January 2010: Yes you shouldn't have looked but to be honest I've been guilty of that too and I'm sure many others have. It's not something I'm proud of and I felt so guilty afterwards that I'd never do it again. My ex-boyfriend was totally trustworthy too so ... (read in full...)
I have a bit more skin than I think I should down there...
Q. Sorry if this is a bit of a weird question but im slightly worried. Is a little bit of excess skin "down below" normal? I know porn stars etc have surgery down there so it looks perfect. but on me, (excuse the going into detail) inbewtween the flaps ...
A. 10 January 2010: Normal :) xg... (read in full...)
She broke up with me and refused to give me a clear answer.
Q. My girlfriend broke up with me and refused to speak to me in person or even give me a logical reason behind her decision. We are both in our late 30's and have had many relationships before this one. When I met my ex, she was divorced for ove...
A. 2 October 2009: I agree with Caringguy. I've just gone through a similar thing with my ex-boyfriend, apart from we are only 20 so it is very different in many ways obviously. However it is the same as in one moment he was telling me he loved me and was the best ... (read in full...)
Can girls feel you cum inside of them?
Q. I have a weird question. I hooked up with this girl for the first time (without a condom, stupid I know) and she rode me for a few minutes and came on my penis. After she finished cumming she asked me if I had cum inside of her and I was puzzled ...
A. 25 September 2009: No I never have really felt it before to be honest!... (read in full...)
I stuck between my b/f and this new guy at college ...
Q. right, so i started college at the beginning of september and ive met loads of nice new people. Including this one boy, he is in my class and he makes me laugh so much, and in the last two weeks of knowing him ive become completely attracted to him. ...
A. 23 September 2009: Completely agree with the previous post. However, do you know how this new college boy feels towards you? Seeing as you clearly still have strong feelings for your current boyfriend as you have been with him for a while with only a few disagree... (read in full...)
Who to pick? I like both of them!
Q. Theres two girls in my school, i have and i have two classes together with both of them, though neither of them have a class together that i am in to.Anyway, one openly admited that she liked me, and we flirt all day long and are pretty much on the ...
A. 17 September 2009: To be honest, I don't think you are mature enough to have a serious relationship with anyone. If it simply comes down to looks then that is proof that you aren't. If you want to start messing girls around already at such a young age just be warned: ... (read in full...)
Woman like bad boys??
Q. Hi. I was wondering about all the myths out there about women love a "bad boy" or a "jerk." Can this possibly be true over someone who is down to earth and nice instead of cocky and rude?...
A. 15 September 2009: No way they are a total waste of time! Never have gone for them...!! I go for genuine guys who are completely themselves and are happy being themselves. Sense of humour, trust, loyalty, communication, kindness, the ability to have real fun together, ... (read in full...)
How do I be there for my friend now he has found out he is HIV+?
Q. I'm a gay 24 year old male and my best friend and i went for a sexual health test the other week and got our results yesterday ... It turns out that i was all clear but my best friend has been told he is HIV + ... As you could imagine this was a ...
A. 15 September 2009: Well I don't really feel that I am in the place to answer this question, having (thank God), not the faintest idea how awful this situation must be for everyone involved especially your best friend. I think you know what you need to do. You clearly ... (read in full...)
Relationship had to end but she's heartbroken!
Q. My girlfriend and me have had to end our relationship today, as I am going back to university, and neither of us want to continue our relationship in long distance circumstances. We both knew this day would come, however, she's really upset and so ...
A. 15 September 2009: I think you have the PERFECT way of thinking. I try to think like that. My boyfriend just broke up with me and I am absolutely heartbroken. He was my best friend apart from anything else. But he clearly stopped loving me enough to want to make next ... (read in full...)
I am 25, a virgin and never kissed a girl. I am considering going to a hooker, is this a good idea?
Q. Well, i'm 25 and I have never had sex, even I have never kissed a woman. So I have alrady decided to pay a hooker. I'm very exited about that, but at the same time scared. Am I doing something good or at the contrary? All the time I was expecting ...
A. 13 September 2009: Oh please please don't do this. This makes me feel so sad. Just because in modern culture 25 is considered 'old' to still be a virgin etc it really shouldn't matter. Please don't feel pressured and unworthy because you haven't found someone worth ... (read in full...)
I want him to finger me, but sometimes I don't
Q. Hello. My boyfriend and I are going to be dating for 5 months this Saturday the 5th. And he wants to finger me. I want him to sometime and sometime I dont. I don't knw if I should just let him or not. And ...
A. 2 September 2009: You'll know your ready when you want to do sexual things with him both when you're WITH him, and when you're NOT with him. Before then, wait ;)... (read in full...)
My heart doesn't flutter anymore for him
Q. Hiya, I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 11 months now, and i'm not sure how i feel about him anymore. We had a bad year as i've had an emotional year due to a house i was living in being terrible with awful people in it, and also my ...
A. 2 September 2009: Couldn't have said it better than Tisha!... (read in full...)
I don't feel sexually satisfied, any tips to make sex better for me?
Q. I'm in a relationship which is obviously more than just sex. However, when we do have sex i do not orgasm and i cannot tell when i am 'coming'. So while my partner is getting pleasured i dont find sex that great and end up unsatisfied and wanting ...
A. 2 September 2009: I have this problem too as in I find it very hard to orgasm from purely intercourse alone. I think lots of girls do. I think it's because women often need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Try massaging your clit during sex, or ask your boyfriend to ... (read in full...)
Is he too far gone to save this relationship?
Q. So my boyfriend who I have been dating for 4 years and I seem to be falling apart. He wants to have and open relationship and I am just not up for that. He said a while back that he would attend coucling with me. So I finally looked into it and set ...
A. 2 September 2009: I agree- you deserve so much better. It is not your fault. Sometimes things just fall apart- it means there is someone out there who will treat you a hell of lot better and give you the love and respect that you should be getting from a boyfriend of ... (read in full...)
What should I do ? I think I'm starting to fall in love with him and I don't want to lose him.
Q. A couple months ago I got a job in the food court at my mall. I met this guy (we'll call him Chris) but never paid much attention to him since we rarely worked together. Then one day, it was just the two of us opening in the front of the store and ...
A. 2 September 2009: How strange the male species are! You should talk to him and be honest with him else you'll just regret it. Just tell him that you do really like him and whilst you are happy to take things slow, you need to know where you stand with him before you ... (read in full...)
How do I move on from an LDR who I thought was Mr right..?
Q. How do u move on from a long term relationship after you break up with the one who you felt was mr right. Obviously i get the point that if he was mr right then we would still be together but some things are 1 sided. I might not be mrs right for him ...
A. 2 September 2009: Hi KB. Sorry to hear about this. May I ask why the break up was 'your fault'? Without knowing the circumstances it is hard to help! Unless you cheated on him or treated him badly then don't start blaming yourself because that will just bring down ... (read in full...)
Met the man of my dreams at the coffee shop...what do I do??
Q. The other day I met this guy who is the man of my dreams at a coffee shop. He stood there and stared at me for awhile,letting me look him in the eyes for a while, and than walked away. How do I know if he is coming back? Do I have to do anything...
A. 2 September 2009: Ooh how exciting! Obviously without talking to him you cannot possibly tell that he is the man of your dreams but good luck anyway! If he comes back yeah talk to him- life is too short!!!! Have fun!... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is selfish in bed, should I break up with him?
Q. I care about my boyfriend, but in bed there is no satisfaction. He won't do things for me and I'm beginning to think that he is very selfish. Although he asks me what I want him to do, I don't feel like he will listen so I don't bother. I'm s...
A. 2 September 2009: Just talk to him. He clearly DOES care or he wouldn't have asked you what you want from him in bed. Maybe he isn't very sexually experienced and needs you to tell/show him how to please you. If you just 'don't bother' and go all sulky on him that's ... (read in full...)
We've been dating for 4 months but I don't feel that she is into me...
Q. I'm 21 and my girlfriend is 19. WE have been dating for four months, but I don't feel that she is that into me. She told me shes bad at expressing her feelings, and that had been a problem on past relationships. We only see each other once or twice ...
A. 2 September 2009: I'm feeling this too a bit with my boyfriend of a year. He's so lovely and I love him so much but I'm starting to get doubts that he is as into me as I am into him. Maybe tell her that you are starting to wonder where you stand- does she just not ... (read in full...)
Need to get my rocks off before settling down... but it may be too late
Q. Ok, so my fiance has pretty much made me feel as though I'm Satan himself for even considering asking questions like this, but here it goes. We got engaged in February and I really love this girl, I want to marry her (hence the engagement... duh). ...
A. 25 August 2009: I don't think you love her. Maybe this is just me but I feel that I am completely in love with my boyfriend and to me, having sex with him is about more than 'getting kicks'. It's a special, beautiful expression of our love for eachother. Therefore ... (read in full...)
I couldn't have sex with my boyfriend, I feel I've let him down
Q. I tried to have sex with my boyfriend of 6 months last night and i couldn't. His penis felt like it was too big for my vagina. It was so painful that I felt sick and shakey. This has put me off ever having sex again yet I know that my boyfriend will ...
A. 23 August 2009: Awww sorry about that- don't let it put you off though hard as it may be. I bet loads of people have first-time issues. The first time me and my boyfriend tried to sleep together it was both of our first times and I think he was pretty nervous ... (read in full...)
How can I prepare myself for giving my boyfriend a blowjob?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about three months. We've gotten more physical lately, and he's fingered me before. I'm thinking a blowjob or handjob is in the future, and I've read a million things online, but I'm just not comfortable ...
A. 23 August 2009: Aw no I meant that looking back my thinking was a bit immature in a sexual sense. I was inexperienced about sex so that was what I thought- it would be 'unfair'. By the way I was 18 when I gave my first handjob so the same age as you :) Really you ... (read in full...)
My ex keeps going back and forth between me and his new girlfriend. Should I tell him to get lost and let his girlfriend know he's cheating with me?
Q. ex spends time with me spends 3 to 4 nights a week at my place then he calls and come over we still go places together but then he dissapears and goes to his new girlfriend and wont answer his phone i think he is playing with my heart he dont ...
A. 23 August 2009: Simple answer to the title question. YES.... (read in full...)
How can I prepare myself for giving my boyfriend a blowjob?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about three months. We've gotten more physical lately, and he's fingered me before. I'm thinking a blowjob or handjob is in the future, and I've read a million things online, but I'm just not comfortable ...
A. 20 August 2009: Aw don't stress! The most important thing is wait until you feel ready to and want to. When I gave my first hand/blow job to my boyfriend to be honest, I'm not sure I WAS completely ready. I mean I wanted to please him obviously because I really ... (read in full...)
He'll be 18 and I"m scared he'll want sex!
Q. Me and this boy have been talking about dating and all that stuff, the fathest we've gone is makeout. i really like him, but i'm 15 and he's 17. thats not bad, but he'll be 18 in March and i'll still be 15 until junee. i'm a sophmorevand he's a ...
A. 19 August 2009: Never mind waiting until there are no legal repercussions (although obviously consider this too!)...the MOST important thing is to wait until YOU are READY to have sex with him. You haven't even started going out yet- stop getting ahead of yourself ... (read in full...)
Is there a way to have soundless Fanny Farts?
Q. So I have been trying to find a solution to avoid Queefs (fanny farts, varts, vaginal air...) I came accross this reply to this topic that suggested "As soon as you're done lie on your back open your legs and press your stomach to the air will nat...
A. 19 August 2009: I think the first answer was right on....hopefully the person you are having sex with genuinely cares about you. So if 'natural' things happen- all that which the first answer said too- then you should be able to ignore it or laugh it off. Queefs ... (read in full...)
Are looks really that important?
Q. To sum the whole problem up, everyone thinks and says my boyfriend is ugly. We're in a long distance relationship, therefore most of my friends haven't even seen him closely, but when they see his pics they all start screaming at me about how ugly ...
A. 18 August 2009: You're mature, they aren't. You're not shallow, they are. You've found someone you love to be with, they probably haven't. If he isn't the best looking, that's something they can use to try and make you feel less secure and the reason why they would ... (read in full...)
Should I ask her out even though she still loves another guy?
Q. ive been liking this girl for a couple of months and when i starting like her she wasnt single but now she is and she sed she like likes me a little but still loves another boy what should i do should i ask her out or any thing what i should do ?...
A. 18 August 2009: Don't ask her out. Not just yet anyway. Show her you are serious about wanting to be with her, but don't pressure her. If she is still getting over someone she needs a little time for herself to think things through and get herself back together ... (read in full...)
Its been 18 months and I can't bear the thought of letting go completely
Q. I fell in love with C when i was 18, we were together for 2 years then went our sperate ways, i never stopped loving him compared everyone i met to him ect, he moved on had kids ect. So 20 years later we get together i am over the moon got wha...
A. 18 August 2009: You don't deserve to be messed around like this. Anyone who can break your heart TWICE shouldn't be allowed the chance to break it a third time so really, you're better off without him. You're just in too much pain right now to realise it. Find ... (read in full...)
Debate over if this is a good idea, or if I'm missing out
Q. ok, im totally in love with my boyfriend. the thing is, im torn between wanting to spend the res tof my life with him and thinking im too young to be serious with someone. we got together when i was 16 and hes the only guy ive ever slept with. ...
A. 18 August 2009: And why would you not feel wanted and desired with your boyfriend? If he doesn't make you feel wanted and desired then something is wrong....but maybe you didn't mean it like that. ... (read in full...)
Debate over if this is a good idea, or if I'm missing out
Q. ok, im totally in love with my boyfriend. the thing is, im torn between wanting to spend the res tof my life with him and thinking im too young to be serious with someone. we got together when i was 16 and hes the only guy ive ever slept with. ...
A. 18 August 2009: Don't worry. I have this same problem. Anyone who is in love has this same problem. I read a poem once with the line, 'falling in love is glamourous hell' and I couldn't agree more. I'm nearly 20 and have been with my boyfriend for a year. We were ... (read in full...)
Golden Shower Problem, Please Help!!!
Q. me and my fella have been together for 6 months now, and both are adventurous in the bedroom. he recently told me about a fetish he has, of being peed on (his stomach, penis and basically lower body) being a fantastic girlfriend (and quite curio...
A. 18 August 2009: Well each to their own! It's because you were worried/anxious which is why you couldn't. You felt under pressure to live up to his expectations and your mind was too focussed on that to relax. You probably should get more used to the idea before ... (read in full...)
Taking the pill, but should I still ask him to wear a condom?
Q. Ok so I'm in a bit of muddle at the moment and not sure what to do. Basically I've been with my boyfriend for a year and I genuinely love him and feel comfortable in the relationship in every way. However, since going on the contraceptive pill, I'...
A. 18 August 2009: Thank you so much that was really helpful. I agree I think I should tell him. I just need to think of how to because I really don't want him to feel guilty about not wanting to use condoms because sex is better for him without them. He's so lovely ... (read in full...)
I really need to know what he's thinking..and need advice from guys!!
Q. I REALLY need advice!! My boyfriend and I finished in June and I was very upset. However for about a month afterwards we were still talking every day, meeting up and generally trying to fix things. He believed that the break up was down to me not ...
A. 18 August 2009: You should be with your guy. He's just insecure and needs reassurance. I often freak out that I love my boyfriend more than he loves me, but it's only because I'm terrified of losing him, I know he loves me really. If you love your boy as much as ... (read in full...)
Worried Ex is getting the wrong impression!
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me in July and at first I tried so hard to get him back and to make things work. Then I read a lot of advice that told me to cut contact with him and get out of his life so he could miss me and that way I would stand a ...
A. 18 August 2009: I once read a poem with the line 'falling in love is glamourous hell'. I've never read a truer line. You need to ask yourself how your feelings have changed since you broke up. I think you did the right thing to give him his space rather than lose ... (read in full...)
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