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anonymous
writes:I'm in a relationship which is obviously more than just sex. However, when we do have sex i do not orgasm and i cannot tell when i am 'coming'. So while my partner is getting pleasured i dont find sex that great and end up unsatisfied and wanting more to fullfill this. Does anyone have any tips to make this better for me?Many thanks xx
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reader, storm08 +, writes (3 September 2009):
 Hi,the best thing i have found to help you reach orgasm, is to set yourself up in a sexy scene, candles, red bedding, sexy underwear, and a bottle of wine to relax yourselves, start off with seducing your fella by running your hand over his "sensitive spots" then work on foreplay.... either by playing with him or yourself just to tease him, for as long as you can, by then you both should be gagging for it. ALWAYS use protection.you will know when you have reached orgasm, by a sense of fulfillment. many women differ when it comes to knowing if you have "come".hope this helps you... good luckx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2009): Sex is a form of communication. To create a 'better' atmosphere, to 'make' sex more enjoyable, you must then communicate your feelings and your thoughts to your partner(s). -----It was not until the second try on the same night, that my lover had an explosive orgasm. A lot of it had to do with trying to find her erogenous zones and bringing her to a point where she was ready to 'take it to the next stage'. Talking is a small part of sexual communication, but it IS an important factor. The other factors include signals like how she reacts, how she expresses herself, how she breaths, how she moves, etc. For myself, being the man, I must find out what she likes and how she moves, to be able to give her the pleasure I want to give her and the pleasure she craves. =====Openly communicate with each other. Foreplay is not just within the limitations of the bedroom. It would be little things like brushing her hair to the side, while she's studying or reading something and giving her a little peck, then later in the day, surprise her with something she likes, followed by a simple hug. Generalized speaking, chemistry between partners is very important when it comes to sex.
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reader, jessjess +, writes (2 September 2009):
 I have this problem too as in I find it very hard to orgasm from purely intercourse alone. I think lots of girls do. I think it's because women often need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Try massaging your clit during sex, or ask your boyfriend to give you oral or touch you for a good while before you actually have sex so that you are fully aroused. Once I started stimulating my clit during sex it got a whole lot better and my boyfriend apparently loved watching me do it so everyone wins!! Make sure you communicate with your boyfriend what you want from your sex life because I'm sure he would want to pleasure you as you want to be pleasured. It's just harder for him if he doesn't know what feels best for you. 'Cumming' is slang for having an orgasm. And you will be able to tell when that happens!! You would be able to feel it building and then it would just feel amazing for a bit! Hard to explain but try the clit stimulation and see what happens. Enjoy!
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