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writes:How do u move on from a long term relationship after you break up with the one who you felt was mr right. Obviously i get the point that if he was mr right then we would still be together but some things are 1 sided. I might not be mrs right for him but he sure is everything that i ever wanted in a man and more. I think it was my fault for the break up. I have accepted the loss but how do i move on when i know i passed up the best dam thing that i ever had. I am full of guilt and regrett. I dont have any interest in dating or relationships and it has already been 2 years since my ex and i split. I have made some progress but the heart wont give up on what it wants. I fear that i let mr right get away. I cant be at peace with that but i cant keep kicking myself either. Whats done is done. What can i do? Any advice appreciated. Thanks for reading and sorry its so long. KB
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2009): I believe i lost him because i took him for granted i suppose. I was young & i didnt realise how lucky i was. Just for the record, i have accepted that its over but how do i move on in hope of finding love when i already let it get away. Any1 else will just be there to cure my lonliness coz he has my whole heart & that is not by choice. Thats just the way it happend. I am trying to move on with great effort. I do not want to feel this because i dont want the pain & i do want my heart back but i cant change how i feel. Ive tried. I am not holding on to the past. I am living my life for me & my son & we do well but i am not fullfilled. I have lost something that i can never get back. I have to live with that. Its my mistake.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (2 September 2009):
 Sometimes we need to give up on someone we absolutely love, either because the relationship is impossible or because the other person doesn't feel like continuing it. In either case, keeping the relationship alive is beyond our possibilities. We should accept that, and move on.
Sorry if this sounds too cold. When your pain is gone, and it will, come back to this post and we'll talk then.
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reader, AlexCM  +, writes (2 September 2009):
hun, its going to hurt. Of course it is. But you will move on and like you already said, if it was meant to be then you would not have broken up. the best cure for a broken heart is having fun with friends. you need to stop wondering what might have been and tyhinking about your past together. that will just make it harder for you to let go and more painful for you
you w ill move on and i am very sure you will be happy again in the future.
just wait and see and give it time. good luck xx
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reader, jessjess +, writes (2 September 2009):
 Hi KB. Sorry to hear about this. May I ask why the break up was 'your fault'? Without knowing the circumstances it is hard to help! Unless you cheated on him or treated him badly then don't start blaming yourself because that will just bring down your self-esteem and confidence. Sometimes things just don't work out. In my opinion, often good things fall apart SO THAT better things can fall together :) Have you tried your best (honestly) to move on from this- start new hobbies, spend lots of time with your good girlfriends etc? I imagine it must be very very hard but you have to give yourself a fighting chance! If you really cannot move on, you could try getting in contact with him, but only you will know if this would be futile or not. I think that as you say, if you are meant to be together then you will/would be together. If you are not, that means that there is someone even more lovely out there for you- so go get him girl!
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